The Dangers of Soul Ties – Overcome It!

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[French Translation] [Spanish Translation] Unhealthy soul ties can be a great bondage to an individuals life if not dealt with it completely. I was on a flight, travelling out of the country and seated beside me was a young man who initiated conversation related to my laptop. Long before I knew it, he began to open up about his life and even more so after he got to know that I was an evangelist. He mentioned to me about how he would wake in the middle of the night thinking of his girlfriend and then when he would go online, she would be waiting for him. He was overwhelmed with thoughts of her and was struggling with his studies.

He went on to explain that it was because she said that they were soul-mates. Soon this girl began to control him and when I met him on the flight he was almost being tormented. We then discovered the roots of the issue to be the covenant or soul tie he had formed with her. The Lord allowed me to minister to him in that capacity.

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What are Soul Ties?

Soul ties can be seen even among believers today. A soul tie is the deep bond that is developed between two or more individuals through an unhealthy relationship leading to addictive, manipulative or even violent behaviour. We, as children of God, should not be mastered by the soul or body but we are Spirit beings and must be led by the Spirit of God.

They are just the remains of your unsaved self which God does not want you to carry into your destiny for the fact that it holds the potential to pull you back from what God has called you into. All it takes is just one sniff, one touch, one taste of that ungodly tie; it can hold you bound from what God has for you. If you reading this, it is because God loves you and wants to break you out of anything that can stop you from your destiny in God.

Soul Ties in Relationships

You can notice this kind of bondage in a lot of relationships that are outside the will of God. There is an unusual desire to spend all their money on the person and try to please them. When there is a soul tie in relationships outside marriage, you can hear people say things like, “I can’t live without you, I can’t be happy without you” or “I will die without you”. These relationships are not based on the Spirit’s love, peace and joy. These soul ties can lead to body ties resulting in physical relationship. (Sometimes, possibly even with the same gender)

I’ve seen some so acutely affected with these kinds of soul ties that their health is affected. They get so worried about the other person that they afflict their own bodies by not eating or sleeping. Some even, begin to hurt themselves when the other person shows any signs of distancing. Real love is based on having Christ as the centre of the relationship and moving beyond the person itself.

Soul Ties between Husbands and Wives

Even when it is the love between a husband and wife, fervent love is born in the spirit and should not be overpowered by the soulish realm (Colossians 1:8). A soulish-realm love leads to a controlling and manipulative spirit, sadly even within marriages. In these kinds of relationships, the other person is in control and you are dictated to about what should be done. That spirit of control and manipulation is certainly NOT from God.

Soul Ties between Parents and Children

This can be seen sometimes in a parent-child relationship where parents are overly defensive about their children and do not like anyone correcting them etc. This kind of deep unhealthy affection does not discipline your child, it causes damage. There are cases when children are given a more important place than of their spouse. This can highly be destructive. With grown-up children refusing to marry and leave the house so that they can support their parents or a widowed parent is a form of soul tie. It is a wrongly induced sense of responsibility.

Soul Ties In Close Association

It is important that you are careful about who your friends are. Just as association rubs off the anointing, association can also rub of the negative traits of a person in your life. People that surround you must love God first. There are many examples of godly relationships in the Bible like, David and Jonathan; Elijah and Elisha etc.

When these associations lose the fear of the Lord, it can go beyond just friendship. Many families have been destroyed because of extra-marital affairs. It might even be packaged in a spiritual form of counselling that ultimately develops into an unhealthy relationship if it is not well-guarded. This is often preceded by sweet words of flattery that then take them away foolishly from the real truth. It is almost as though they are begging for an ungodly soul tie to be formed and long before you know it, the situation gets out of hand resulting into broken homes, families and hearts.

I was once advised by a pastor about the dangers of praying alone with someone of the opposite gender. He said that prayer is one of the effective forms of soul connecting. As you share problems and seek counsel, there can be a stronger soul tie that can be formed if the boundaries are not drawn ahead. Soon this can lead to an emotional affair.

Extreme Relationship with Animals

While this can be sometimes described as love towards animals, by the world; there are times when this love for a creature can take over the individual. The signs of this can be seen when a person is extremely possessive and obsessed with their animal. They can go extremes where the person detaches from the human world and over spend their time, money and energy on these animals.

The Fantasy World

Soul ties can also be formed with a person you are not associated with. Unusual craze about a person or a celebrity can create bondage in your life. This becomes an idol in your life apart from God. It might start without your realisation and if you are not careful, you might end up opening up a door to the enemy.

A particular actor, actress or singer becomes the craze and they literally live in a surreal, self-created world of this ‘idol.’ From pictures to posters to magazine cut-outs; you name it and they have it. It can lead to extreme situations where the person daydreams to the point that they lose track of reality and begin to live in this fantasy world with that person. If not broken, this can even affect one’s married life. It is only the Lord that we must love with all our heart, soul, mind and strength. (Mark 12:30)

Breaking Soul Ties

When you have an ungodly soul tie, you will be unwilling to listen to anyone else. It makes you vulnerable to manipulation and it takes the place of God in your life.

Therefore, it is important that you first identify where you have opened the window for the enemy to enter into your life.

Surrender your life to Jesus and let him rule over your soul. If there have been any covenants made by words or action, take some time out to pray and one by one in the name of Jesus, begin to denounce all the contacts you have made.

Denounce the soul ties by confessing it out loud and accept the blood of Christ to wash your sins away. Shut every door of fear with the word of God and claim the promises of God. Now, make it a point to fill your mind with the things of God instead. Throw away everything that reminds you of your past.

Stay tuned to the Holy Spirit and walk in the presence of God. If this struggle still persists, you might need help from an anointed leader in your church. Take time to open up about your struggle with the elders of your church and seek help.

You can use this as a guideline to pray: Father, I know you love me. Forgive me for  every soul ties I have developed. (Name them out) with  _______ that would affect me adversely. I surrender myself into Your Hands and ask that You would establish Your Lordship in my life. In Jesus’ name, I renounce and break every authority I’ve given to this relationship and I break this soul tie in Jesus’ name and set myself free. Amen.

Here’s a video that summarises our struggle with the soul ties, enjoy:

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  • Geraldine

    hi shyju. can i ask you a few out-of-topic questions?
    i wonder how can someone be good and gentle in his speech when he is a leader? How to be gentle in speech that will invite people to be comfortable to share things/problems with you?
    I was just reading how the person on the airplane opened up to you and i was simply amazed and is longing for it.
    Just wondering.

    • http://intensedebate.com/people/Shyju Shyju

      Dear Geraldine, if you are asking about communication, i'm still in the process of developing. But I have noticed that communication can be developed. I got the little from by learning closely from people who have it. Other than the presence of God in you can draw people to open up and start asking God to lead people to you so that you get the privilege to share the glory of the Lord Jesus. Hope this helps.
      Shyju.

  • http://www.mathewsnuggets.blogspot.com binsurobinson

    Interesting..Terri Savelle Foy spoke on a series on Soul Ties ! yup this very much sums it up ! thanks for sharing….

    • http://intensedebate.com/people/Shyju Shyju

      Not heard of their version. This helped me so I thought I had to share!

      • http://www.mathewsnuggets.blogspot.com binsurobinson

        hahahah bro i didnt insinuate that @ all :D !! I just said for people who wants an indepth series there is something to look forward to .. :) !!! love u bro , binsu

        • http://intensedebate.com/people/Shyju Shyju

          no worries :) i hear ya!

  • childofgod

    very powerful shyju, there is hardly any good documentation available on this subject. God had to break a soul tie in me and it took a lot of time to heal. Its also important to be wary of our associations and at the same not be naive.

    • http://intensedebate.com/people/Shyju Shyju

      I am glad to know that. Praise God.

  • Kiran Jason Samuel

    Dat is so true bro! I've been in that situation and yeah it really controls your thoughts, actions, decisions, other relationships etc. Its so important to break every soul tie that controls our lives outside the Will of God so that we are connected with the Spirit of God! Jesus' Blood never fails us and the Blood of Jesus is as powerful now as it was when it was first shed for all of mankind on Calvary's tree to break the chains/soul-ties that bind us!

    • http://intensedebate.com/people/Shyju Shyju

      I agree!

  • Elina

    Actually these soul ties lead to a very big deception i guess… cos wen we r overwhelmed in or for a relation esp in wen a guy or a girl is in love either one side or two way love..better not lean on any prophesies n dreams at tat time cos we may get as if anything related to it is true n for us which is a TOTAL deception.. ;) :p
    n i belive this is the easiest way the devil is using nowadays to ruin / steal the joy of ppl lives rite?

    • http://intensedebate.com/people/Shyju Shyju

      Agree. When emotions are highly involved its best to look to a mentor or true friend who is not afraid to tell you the truth.

  • http://www.mathewsnuggets.blogspot.com binsurobinson

    Yo Bro and i think this is in order and needs to be said….Yours is the only Website i blindly suggest to my friends who need counselling … and thats because your topics deal with our day to day life , Music , Relationships , and most importantly it comes packed with divine revelations and to the point..
    Would it be too much to think of a Gospel Oriented website to net the unbelievers(youth) who can come in and read about the Life's Issues through a Christian perspective ? you know the depressed , the hope less , the unloved ? …when I share my faith I realise the lack of a good christian material addressing issues close to a secular teenager's heart ? No too much religiosity but plain simple language of the God who loves them ?? Something that I am so passionate about – Youth Evangelism !

    • http://intensedebate.com/people/Shyju Shyju

      I agree. We need more of that. I have few blogs that go around that topic like, Love whispered series and help i'm messed up. I'm working on my new site which will have a effective gospel sharing page. Good idea if you looking forward to start one. Blessings.

  • Kiran Jason Samuel

    Dat is so true bro! I've been in that situation and yeah it really controls your thoughts, actions, decisions, other relationships etc. Its so important to break every soul tie that controls our lives outside the Will of God so that we are connected with the Spirit of God! Jesus' Blood never fails us and the Blood of Jesus is as powerful now as it was when it was first shed for all of mankind on Calvary's tree to break the chains/soul-ties that bind us!
    So yes! I believe that we can be free from any kind of unholy, unhealthy soul-ties! Praise God! =)

  • http://twitter.com/alwayzanne @alwayzanne

    worth every minute spent on readin .. very thought provoking shyju .. God bless U more in d days 2 cme ..

    • http://intensedebate.com/people/Shyju Shyju

      awww thank you, I receive it! Blessings, Shy.

  • Priya Arul

    This is very true and super powerful… Love your thoughts on this subject.

    • http://intensedebate.com/people/Shyju Shyju

      I'm glad Priya. God bless you. Shy.

  • Mala

    Praise God! Shyju for touching on this topic, many Christians still bear the consequences of pass shadow involvement. It could have been of theirs or even parent practices which have not been broken. Not realizing Deut5:8-9 God, visiting the iniquity of the fathers upon the children unto the third and fourth [generation] of them. Because they had not fear God and have allow point of entry into their body n mind. (David Adultery-Absalom and Abraham lie- Isaac)
    Just few areas to be included are Parent bad habits, abusive behaviors, occult practices, any babies dedication to idol. Sometime children who have suicidal or high depression symptom are due to mom rejecting a child from pregnancy Need to be renounce of these soul ties too.
    This morning counsel a case of child beating mom, because have seen dad beating her, but it was a case from grandfather pass down. Suggested solution was showing her identity in CHRIST to take up the promises of God for herself and family to restore with God's word where the devil has rob her blessing. Pray in the Promises of God for His word does not go void, it will perform His will for their Life.
    God Bless U.

    • http://intensedebate.com/people/Shyju Shyju

      good thoughts!

  • Calvin

    this ministered to me Shy…God bless u..

    • http://intensedebate.com/people/Shyju Shyju

      Praise God dear brother.

  • sheryl

    shyju,
    how do i know whether the guy i m betrothed to is the right man for me??is it wrong to call him my 'soul mate'??

    • http://intensedebate.com/people/Shyju Shyju

      This is a whole topic in itself. Not wrong to call the soul mate if this is the one the Lord has for you. If you are already betrothed and still asking this question then you really need to find help. If you then stepping into something that you are not sure off? I really encourage you to find some elder or mentor whom you see God's wisdom in and ask help. One advice – dont rush.

  • Beck

    A soul tie is the deep bond that is developed between two or more individuals through an UNHEALTHY relationship

    plz define unhealthy in this regard ( iz it sexual or even emotional like having a crush on a girl and stuff like that..)

    • http://intensedebate.com/people/Shyju Shyju

      It's not having a simple liking or crush. I have tried to explain that in the relationship soul ties paragraph. & yes, sexual of course can cause demonizing soul ties unless truly repented and filled with the Holy Spirit.

  • http://intensedebate.com/profiles/x4life x4life

    Shyju, This is an awesome Topic. Im glad you brought this topic up as I had shelved it in the corner and completely forgotten about this aspect. Not many people bring this up!!! Keep shaking the Internet Shyju!!!

    • http://intensedebate.com/people/Shyju Shyju

      Shaking the internet- like the statement :) Blessings bro :) See u soon.

  • Talent

    Shyju, u just have no idea how much this message on soul-ties spoke to me and eased my tormenting mind…. Jst a few minutes back , before I read your blog, I was crying because I was almost day-dreaming these days, living in a fantasy world just as you hve mentioned, so much so I couldn't even concentrate in my prayers….
    I was urged to read your blog and Praise The Lord, HE has spoken through you what exactly was my problem and the solution for it… Amen!!!!!

    God Bless you so much for sharing these wonderful insights revealed to you through Holy Spirit!!

    • http://www.shyjumathew.com Shyju Mathew

      Wow thanks to Jesus. Prayers for u!

  • Talent

    Shyju, u just have no idea how much this message on soul-ties spoke to me and eased my tormenting mind…. Jst a few minutes back , before I read your blog, I was crying because I was almost day-dreaming these days, living in a fantasy world just as you hve mentioned, so much so I couldn't even concentrate in my prayers…. I was urged to read your blog and Praise the Lord, HE spoke to me through you exactly the problem I'm facing with the solution!! Amen!!!
    God bless you so much for sharing these insights revealed to you….

    • http://intensedebate.com/people/Shyju Shyju

      Oh praise God praise God! Glory to God. BE strong in the Lord now. Jesus loves you.

  • Renee

    This is very interesting for me and I am taking as a warning and also as a Word of Wisdom. I recently had a ministry friend innocently say " I feel we have a soul tie"
    I quickly denied it out of an easyness I believe to nbe Holy Spirit Teacher. I said I don't believe in soul ties and that I didn't believe they were from the LOrd. I believe " like Elizabeth and Mary's experience, That deep calls unto deep in the form of a Holy Spirit Quickening. Like in Ps. 119 Quicken me Lord according to Your …..
    Anyway Thank You So Much. I am going to try and print this. n
    Blessings

    • http://intensedebate.com/people/Shyju Shyju

      Haha :) how innocently devil tries :) Sure pls try and print. Blessings.

  • http://www.cotrim.ca Sheela Duraisami

    Powerful word Shyju! Very well put. Also, as a Pastor, I wanted to add… another common area of soul tie is that of a Pastor and a congregation member! It happens a lot especially with single moms or women who don't have a strong spiritual male in the home. They look up to the Pastors and idolize him/her and run to them for answers to all their problems. They flatter them, work hard for them and almost make themselves indispensable to the ministry. And some Pastors enjoy the attention, flattery, the work that these people do, and get their approval needs met through these people. These soul ties may never get physical, but it is ungodly anyways. Of course theres always examples of good, healthy relationships between Pastors and congregation members. But we must be careful not to give the devil a foothold! Blessings.

    • http://intensedebate.com/people/Shyju Shyju

      Wow this should certainly go up. Thank yoU!

    • jbm

      So very true and something I try to be very careful about as a single woman.

      There have been times when I have needed to speak with my pastors about something. Recently I was emailing one about something I had witnessed in another church. I needed advice on scriptures, etc. Anyhow, we had a back and forth conversation for a week about it. It was very chaste and strictly about pertinent scriptures, whether that was of the Lord, etc. But thinking about it, I realized that it could make his wife uncomfortable that we were emailing. {shrug} I know that there was nothing there, but someone might think so. It is just better to keep some distance.

      I also truly believe that it should never be male/female counseling one on one. I know of several occasions when it has led to something – whether an emotional or even a physical affair.

      I appreciate my pastors who are always very careful not to be alone with females. Whether they have their wives present, or the office door remains open at all times. Why take the risk.

      The time to think about what to do about temptation is not in that moment, it is beforehand that you should work out how to avoid/prevent that temptation from occurring.

      Anyhow, I came to this blog because I was looking for more information on breaking soul ties. I will post this problem separately.

  • Kapil

    Word!

    • http://intensedebate.com/people/Shyju Shyju

      :) BLess you bro.

  • Nethura

    Amazing how the LORD spoke through each and everyword in this blog to me! Wow! So many things I was and still am struggling with are revealed through this today. Thank you for the Prayer Guideline! I also believe we all should take time to ask the Holy Spirit to reveal unhealthy soul ties that we may have long forgotten, like you said musten leave any door open for the enemy to come through! Obvious the reading of the Word & Prayer are our ultimate weapon, but do you have any other resources to suggest in this matter? Book or Site/Blog? Would really like to read more upon this matter!
    Blessings Always!

    • http://intensedebate.com/people/Shyju Shyju

      Hi Nethura, dono much about any books, but if you go through the comments, someone has mentioned about one Teri who has written a book on it.

      • Virginia

        There is a book on Soul Ties from the Ellel Ministries… You can check it online, I guess…

  • KT g

    wow…shyju…this is exactly my situation and i really dont know that i have clicked this link…somehow this came up…wow…wat a revelation…Gods love at its best…

    • http://intensedebate.com/people/Shyju Shyju

      Praise God! May God strengthen you. Blessings.

  • Shiju

    Hi Shyju,
    that was really an eye opener as well as a very necessary topic that u discussed.. Never ever thought about it in this way though i knew everything that took u away from GOD and ur time with him was outside the will of GOD, no matter whatever it would be. I read in one of the comments posted by one the readers that when in relationships esp love and all, its advisable not to lean on prophesy and dreams cos that might mislead. Thats very much true. Well, talks about my marriage is going on and it would be appropriate to say that I am committed to her & am almost engaged to her. I had kept it in my prayers and asking the will of GOD about this matter and everytime through many things, happenings and signs, I have been convinced that this is the will of GOD however there hasnt been any dream or prophesy regarding this. I however took the counsel of my elders in whom i see spiritual maturity & Godly wisdom and they too after keeping this issue in prayers confirm it to me as the will of GOD. My query is that I am committed to her for the rest of my life since I am sure that this is GOD's will. We share our happiness and pains, the ups and downs in our life. Though she is sure about it & though she is committed to me, she sometimes has doubts regarding whether this is really the will of GOD. Under these circumstances, does this "commitment", that i have for her and that she has for me, come under the definition of "soul tie"..??? Please note that at no point of time has this has taken me away from GOD or prayers but rather it has just made me grow stronger and firm in the Word and helped me in gaining spiritual maturity..

    • http://intensedebate.com/people/Shyju Shyju

      No it does not come under that. It simply seems like she's not sure about it in God. You both need to take time off each other and seek God. It is really not safe getting into a marriage with doubt. She has to be hear from God about it. It's a good foundation for marriage.

      • Shiju

        Thanks for replying..
        Relieved to know that this commitment we have doesnt come under "soul ties".
        Yeah we are keeping it in prayers and I really support what u said.
        Kindly remember us in your prayers.
        May the LORD's will be done…
        Really appreciate the work u are doing for the glorification of GOD's Kingdom.
        Praise GOD..

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  • Jinu

    Soul ties is one thing i learned from my pastor 2 years ago.. Didnt really give so much of a heed to it until one day God convinced me about it.. its a long testimony in itself.. just wanted to say, Shyju glad u bought it up on ur blog.. May the Lord guide u more to reach out to the people and bring healing into His children… I am blessed by it once again… God bless u..
    Blessings.. :)

    • http://intensedebate.com/people/Shyju Shyju

      Praise God praise God!

  • Zena

    Thank you and God bless. God is Good.

    • http://intensedebate.com/people/Shyju Shyju

      amen Zena!

  • Ravi David

    Hi Shyju, As you have Mentioned

    In Close Association
    "I was once advised by a pastor about the dangers of praying alone with someone of the opposite gender. He said that prayer is one of the effective forms of soul connecting. As you share problems and seek counsel, there can be a stronger soul tie that can be formed if the boundaries are not drawn ahead. Soon this can lead to an emotional affair"

    Is it Really Danger to Pray Alone With someone of the Opposite Gender ????
    since i am an Youth Leader , i have Been To Such Situation many Times , So What Would you Advice Do i Continue OR Should i Stop Such Practice (Good Thing About Such meeting is that they Are Very Much free to Express their Distress to us in Private)

    • http://intensedebate.com/people/Shyju Shyju

      Well you must immediately. It is a very dangerous situation. Try and get some elder of the church to be with you while you pray for such cases.

      • Ravi David

        God Bless you Shyju

        You have Always been One of My Spiritual Mentor Besides Jesus Our Master
        Will Be Very Careful in Future While Attending Such Individual Prayer

        All Praises & Glory to God Alone

        • http://intensedebate.com/people/Shyju Shyju

          Pleasure serving Jesus.

        • http://intensedebate.com/people/Shyju Shyju

          Dont miss the next post on Revival.

  • Latha

    I have read this three times and would keep reading it to digest fully

  • yearning for God

    i have been in a relationship with a guy for almost 5 years. he is not a christian but my family and i are. my pastor, a pastor from India and my aunt has told me that he is not the right guy for me. i have got 3 confirmations from 3 different people but i cant seem to be able to let go of this relationship on my own. i keep praying that God will take him away from my life because i really can't ask him to leave me. is it wrong? i really need help, please advise me.

  • justin

    bro i know u r very busy person… is it possible for me to contact u? i'm currently struggling wit this issue

  • Pranjali

    Hello shyju, God spoke to me through you today, i dont knoe u, never had i heard your name before ,but this was exactly what i am suffering from, i recited your prayer, and i am feeling really good , n from within ……………………thanx….!!

    • Jane

      Hey Shyju Bro,
      Appreciate your transperency in your writings.May you continue to be a servant of Lord who would reveal the heart of our father in heaven and thereby edify the body of Christ.You are a blessing from heaven to this generation wounded by the enemy in many ways.I pray that in teh coming days he will bless you with the meekness of Moses, wisdom of Daniel, and an undivided heart like David, as you minister to multitudes.Stay Blessed,
      Blessings
      Jane

  • Christine

    Thank you for posting this. I had soul ties with a man that portrayed to be a man of God and found out the hard way that he is really a pagan (male witch and satanist). It is critical that we not surrender our souls to anyone but Jesus. The Devil comes to steal, kill, and destroy, and if it was not for my cry out to Jesus to save me and deliver me, that would be the case for me. Praise be to God!!!

  • Lola

    Dear Shyju,
    Thanks very much for your article. I have found it very helpful indeed. I think I have a soul tie with a celebrity who passed recently, as I just cannot stop thinking and talking about him, playing his music, and buying countless CD's ,DVDs mags, etc. I became worried when my family told me I was being obsessive when it comes to this individual and that it was not normal. My sister told me about soul ties a few weeks ago and I started reading up on it. I thank the Lord that I found your blog and prayers. I trust God will surely deliver me. Please pray for me if you can. Thanks very much and stay blessed.

    • http://intensedebate.com/people/Shyju Shyju

      Deaer Lola, I hope your walk with God is going strong. Prayers for you.

  • Christine

    I was convicted of this, so I must add for anyone that may read this. I thought I was a woman of God, but the Lord showed me the errors of my ways. I was involved in witchcraft myself (studying astrology, numerology…) and did not even realize it. Satan is a deceiver!!! The man that I mentioned, since has asked Jesus to be his personal Savior and has become born again. I don't want to hold those words to him. He is a new creation in Christ!!! THAT is the power of intercessory prayer and being saved by the Blood of Jesus!!! What can wash away out=r sin? Nothing but the blood of Jesus! :)

    • http://intensedebate.com/people/Shyju Shyju

      Thanks for letting us know Christine. thats encouraging.

    • Rory Ivey

      God is good.

  • Shyju

    Great testimony sister. May God use u more

  • Shyju

    Dear Sister glad this blog helped. Prayers for u. Our ministry email is mail@shyjumathew.com

  • Dani

    Dear Bro, I believe the Lord led me to this blog of urs. I have been strugglin with bringing an end to a tie, to help me move on. I did not realise that so many yrs back I had uttered the word soul mate and that is holding me back from God's will for my life for so long!

    • http://shyjumathew.com/blog Shyju

      Dear Dani, spend time soaking in the Word of God… it is only the Word of GOd that will keep you strong from falling back. Take time everyday to go into the presence of God and asking God to take every area of your struggle. Surrender is simple = start confessing your struggle everyday and ask the Holy Spirit to take over you. Enjoy the Word of God and soak in prayer. Prayers for you. Stay strong. Blessings.

  • anish

    hai friend, ur manuscript regarding soul ties is ok anish cochin

  • http://twitter.com/BencyElizabeth @BencyElizabeth

    Ive had soul ties too in the past.. the grace of God what else do i say? I wasn't even aware of such a phenomenon even existed but the Lord miraculously pretty much like a surgery under anaesthesia dealt with me. May not be the case with everyone but I beleive that in His time everything will fall in place. It can be painful or not but I would like to encourage all by saying just hold on, press on!

  • Aloysius John (AJ)

    Thanks Bro! Good article! :-) Our Souls should be anchored in Christ first!!

    • http://www.shyjumathew.com Shyju Mathew

      Amen brother.

  • Asiunuke

    Thank you for this exposition. I do hope everybody will re-examine self and break from any ungodly soul tie.
    Pastor Julius Imafidon

  • Asiunuke

    Thank you for this exposition. I do hope everybody will re-examine self and break from any ungodly soul tie.
    Pastor Julius Imafidon

    • http://www.shyjumathew.com/ Shyju Mathew

      Good to know Pastor. Blessings.

  • Anonymous

    Good to know Pastor. Blessings.

  • jbm

    I came to this blog because I was looking for more information on breaking soul ties. For many years I was praying for my best friends brother who had walked away from the Lord. Deep intercessory prayer. And through a series of events (including me struggling in my own walk with the Lord a year ago), a soul tie was created. It was a unhealthy relationship and I made many poor choices that were outside of my character and grieved the Spirit.

    It was very strange, because we came back to the Lord at the same time. Throughout, we would realize we were in the same place at the same time. There were many times when he would be on my mind, I would feel overwhelmed with a need to pray for him, and would find out later he had been struggling at that moment. Scriptures I was studying that he would be too. It’s hard to explain, but it was like we were always in the same place at the same moment.
    There was even a time that my pastor had a Word for me, at the altar as I was praying about this relationship and what to do about it. I was speaking to the Lord that I choose my walk, my call, over this man. My pastor said to me, I don’t know what this means, but God wanted me to tell you that your call and your heart’s desire are intertwined.

    Still the relationship itself was unhealthy and that worsened over the months. We had said we would be just friends for now, but he acted like more than that, when it was convenient. Everything was on his terms. I began to feel needy and insecure. Also, I had concerns that he would not be careful of me, treat me as a Christian sister. That I would fail.

    What I realized was that he had become my false idol. I had allowed him to become more important than he should have been. More important than my walk with the Lord.

    So I have been trying to break this soul tie. I’ve fasted, prayed and renounced.

    I haven’t even seen him for a couple months, haven’t spoken to him at least a month. He’s even dating someone else right now.

    Still the strange ‘coincidences’ are happening. Just this past week I was severely ill, and his sister was questioning me on my symptoms. Because he had the exact same symptoms, at the same time.

    I know how bizarre this all sounds. If I wasn’t living it, I wouldn’t believe it. Right now, I can’t believe I am writing this on a blog for the world to see.

    I have always have sound discernment. This confusion cannot be of the Lord. If anyone reading this has advice or scripture to help me with this….

  • jbm

    I came to this blog because I was looking for more information on breaking soul ties. For many years I was praying for my best friends brother who had walked away from the Lord. Deep intercessory prayer. And through a series of events (including me struggling in my own walk with the Lord a year ago), a soul tie was created. It was a unhealthy relationship and I made many poor choices that were outside of my character and grieved the Spirit.

    It was very strange, because we came back to the Lord at the same time. Throughout, we would realize we were in the same place at the same time. There were many times when he would be on my mind, I would feel overwhelmed with a need to pray for him, and would find out later he had been struggling at that moment. Scriptures I was studying that he would be too. It’s hard to explain, but it was like we were always in the same place at the same moment.
    There was even a time that my pastor had a Word for me, at the altar as I was praying about this relationship and what to do about it. I was speaking to the Lord that I choose my walk, my call, over this man. My pastor said to me, I don’t know what this means, but God wanted me to tell you that your call and your heart’s desire are intertwined.

    Still the relationship itself was unhealthy and that worsened over the months. We had said we would be just friends for now, but he acted like more than that, when it was convenient. Everything was on his terms. I began to feel needy and insecure. Also, I had concerns that he would not be careful of me, treat me as a Christian sister. That I would fail.

    What I realized was that he had become my false idol. I had allowed him to become more important than he should have been. More important than my walk with the Lord.

    So I have been trying to break this soul tie. I’ve fasted, prayed and renounced.

    I haven’t even seen him for a couple months, haven’t spoken to him at least a month. He’s even dating someone else right now.

    Still the strange ‘coincidences’ are happening. Just this past week I was severely ill, and his sister was questioning me on my symptoms. Because he had the exact same symptoms, at the same time.

    I know how bizarre this all sounds. If I wasn’t living it, I wouldn’t believe it. Right now, I can’t believe I am writing this on a blog for the world to see.

    I have always have sound discernment. This confusion cannot be of the Lord. If anyone reading this has advice or scripture to help me with this….

    • http://www.shyjumathew.com/ Shyju Mathew

      Sister, your help is two fold from the Bible. The only advice to temptation in the Bible is that to flee from it. (2 Tim 2:22) In Genesis therefor God advices dont eat it or touch it, to touch it you might have to go near, stay away is the best advice.

      However in cases like this, there is a bondage of soul tie that is formed. And the anointing breaks the yoke. Again there are two ways out of it, if you can move into a self deliverance mode. If you go on a short time of fasting with prayer, a time of seeking God for that bondage to break, that would be great.

      Or find someone who you know is anointed to lay hands and break this bondage over your life. It’s better of if this person is an matured anointed person.

      You should also find someone in your church who can mentor you and pray and stand in the gap for you.

      Hope this helps.

      Prayers for you.

    • a.c.

      I had the same situation for several years. It started to break down when I realised I didn’t have to go and meet him when I said I would – I stood him up. After feeling so so guilty I wrote him a letter explaining how he had hurt me and manipulated me and made me feel. Then the next time we were on skype God just intervened. I suddenly felt sick and felt I had to go, then I was crying and shaking and nearly throwing up – and knowing for certain that God was taking back the portion of my heart that was given to him, and breaking the tie. God is the only one who can do it, not us.

      • http://www.shyjumathew.com/ Shyju Mathew

        Wow! Thank u Jesus!

  • Anonymous

    Sister, your help is two fold from the Bible. The only advice to temptation in the Bible is that to flee from it. (2 Tim 2:22) In Genesis therefor God advices dont eat it or touch it, to touch it you might have to go near, stay away is the best advice.

    However in cases like this, there is a bondage of soul tie that is formed. And the anointing breaks the yoke. Again there are two ways out of it, if you can move into a self deliverance mode. If you go on a short time of fasting with prayer, a time of seeking God for that bondage to break, that would be great.

    Or find someone who you know is anointed to lay hands and break this bondage over your life. It’s better of if this person is an matured anointed person.

    You should also find someone in your church who can mentor you and pray and stand in the gap for you.

    Hope this helps.

    Prayers for you.

  • Anonymous

    On the dot.

  • Junyhanda7

    Thank you so much Bro.. i suffered a lot from soul ties with a teacher in my school without my knowledge and soon after i suffered so much , losing all concentration in my studies , living in a world of fantasy , obviously faaar from my Loving Dad ,Jesus .. God bless u tearin open the heavens !!! I could literally feel that soul tie break , as the LORD embraced me into his arms once again when i prayed that prayer… God bless u ( I feel so happy to be free, blessin u from the bottom of my heart ) Blessings!!!!

  • Junyhanda7

    Thank you so much Bro.. i suffered a lot from soul ties with a teacher in my school without my knowledge and soon after i suffered so much , losing all concentration in my studies , living in a world of fantasy , obviously faaar from my Loving Dad ,Jesus .. God bless u tearin open the heavens !!! I could literally feel that soul tie break , as the LORD embraced me into his arms once again when i prayed that prayer… God bless u ( I feel so happy to be free, blessin u from the bottom of my heart ) Blessings!!!!

  • Anonymous

    Dear Junyhanda, stay close to Jesus. Flee from sin, thats the way out of temptation. The Lord will give you His grace. Never shy away from asking Jesus help all along the way. God bless you.

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  • Elza jemi

    this is such a great message !!! I am sharing this!!

    • Anonymous

      Thanks Elza. Be blessed.

  • Elza jemi

    this is such a great message !!! I am sharing this!!

    • http://www.shyjumathew.com/ Shyju Mathew

      Thanks Elza. Be blessed.

  • Randy

    Thank you for this.. I have a question. There was this girl I had a huge soul tie with. It was complete bondage. It only took about 3 months of knowing her. I had never had one before and it took forever to find out what was going on, but I did. It was the hardest thing I ever had to do- to cut the friendship off. I went through a 6 month period of almost complete hopelessness/oppression. Its been about 9 months now and although Im a ton better, I still feel the draw towards her everynow and again. It could bring me tears….and has. Will that ever leave? Right now even I am wanting to be a place where we will see each other… I haven’t since that time…so the urge to want to see her is still there….

    I guess you should never go back to the familiar snake pin…its really amazing how strong soul ties can be. It hits you right in the tenderside of your heart….and its like a wolf in sheeps clothing, you think its romantic and magical, the fairy tale, and its complete BONDAGE and torment….ugg

    Thank you Jesus for your saving grace and giving me the strength to let go..and to keep making the choice to let go when the temptation comes….

    -R

  • Randy

    Thank you for this.. I have a question. There was this girl I had a huge soul tie with. It was complete bondage. It only took about 3 months of knowing her. I had never had one before and it took forever to find out what was going on, but I did. It was the hardest thing I ever had to do- to cut the friendship off. I went through a 6 month period of almost complete hopelessness/oppression. Its been about 9 months now and although Im a ton better, I still feel the draw towards her everynow and again. It could bring me tears….and has. Will that ever leave? Right now even I am wanting to be a place where we will see each other… I haven’t since that time…so the urge to want to see her is still there….

    I guess you should never go back to the familiar snake pin…its really amazing how strong soul ties can be. It hits you right in the tenderside of your heart….and its like a wolf in sheeps clothing, you think its romantic and magical, the fairy tale, and its complete BONDAGE and torment….ugg

    Thank you Jesus for your saving grace and giving me the strength to let go..and to keep making the choice to let go when the temptation comes….

    -R

    • http://www.shyjumathew.com/ Shyju Mathew

      Dear R,
      As long as you live there is going to be temptation that will come ur way. Follow 2Tim 2:22. Flee this temptation and replace your hearts pursuit with the things of God. Make it intentional to take ur eyes away from her to the things of God. Occupy your mind with the things of God. Eg: Bible loving, pursuing God in prayer, read books that will push you more to God, find videos that will burn your passion for God.

      And in this case, you have to do everything to avoid this person since it has been your weakness.

      Surely the only thing that will and can help us is God’s greatness. When you draw near to God, He will draw near to you.

      Prayers,
      Shyju

  • Anonymous

    Dear R,
    As long as you live there is going to be temptation that will come ur way. Follow 2Tim 2:22. Flee this temptation and replace your hearts pursuit with the things of God. Make it intentional to take ur eyes away from her to the things of God. Occupy your mind with the things of God. Eg: Bible loving, pursuing God in prayer, read books that will push you more to God, find videos that will burn your passion for God.

    And in this case, you have to do everything to avoid this person since it has been your weakness.

    Surely the only thing that will and can help us is God’s greatness. When you draw near to God, He will draw near to you.

    Prayers,
    Shyju

  • FTW

    I have dealt w/ soul ties in the past. I happened upon this blog b/c a friend told me the other day that my fiance and I have a soul tie w/ our money. I was online looking to see if it’s even possible to be soul tied to money, when I found this blog.
    I hear what you’re saying and I have a question. How do you distinquish between HEALTHY GODLY love for a person and an unhealthy soul tie.
    I love my fiance and I can’t imagine my life w/out him. The times we’ve had issue’s and stopped speaking, it felt as if I was going to kill over. I assume that’s our ‘hearts connection’…Just as it would hurt a married couple to divorce. But reading your blog I thought, “Oh my gosh…do I have an ungodly/unnatural soul tie to him?”
    So those are my questions–How do you know the difference AND can you have a soul tie to money? Thanks so much!
    FTW

    • Anonymous

      Sister u used the word HEALTHY GODLY. You also mention how u felt like kill over. In God driven love you will not certainly allow those negative thoughts of quitting life over a man. There are certainly different stages of soul ties. I sense, in ur situation u have not become bound in that relationship yet. However it could be a good time to seek the Lord & ask God to forgive u to even think that there is no life beyond this relationship. And that if the Lord bought him into ur life he would keep him. And in whatever situations u will trust God more than putting your trust in man.

      Soul tie to money: Good test is, do u struggle to tithe faithfully? Do u find it hard to give away to the needy? Are you thinking of money more than u shud be? Worried all the time about going without money?

      Best place to be is where Abraham was in the Bible. Will u be able to give away ur only thing if God were to ask it from u.

      Hope this helps.
      Blessings.

  • FTW

    I have dealt w/ soul ties in the past. I happened upon this blog b/c a friend told me the other day that my fiance and I have a soul tie w/ our money. I was online looking to see if it’s even possible to be soul tied to money, when I found this blog.
    I hear what you’re saying and I have a question. How do you distinquish between HEALTHY GODLY love for a person and an unhealthy soul tie.
    I love my fiance and I can’t imagine my life w/out him. The times we’ve had issue’s and stopped speaking, it felt as if I was going to kill over. I assume that’s our ‘hearts connection’…Just as it would hurt a married couple to divorce. But reading your blog I thought, “Oh my gosh…do I have an ungodly/unnatural soul tie to him?”
    So those are my questions–How do you know the difference AND can you have a soul tie to money? Thanks so much!
    FTW

    • http://www.shyjumathew.com/ Shyju Mathew

      Sister u used the word HEALTHY GODLY. You also mention how u felt like kill over. In God driven love you will not certainly allow those negative thoughts of quitting life over a man. There are certainly different stages of soul ties. I sense, in ur situation u have not become bound in that relationship yet. However it could be a good time to seek the Lord & ask God to forgive u to even think that there is no life beyond this relationship. And that if the Lord bought him into ur life he would keep him. And in whatever situations u will trust God more than putting your trust in man.

      Soul tie to money: Good test is, do u struggle to tithe faithfully? Do u find it hard to give away to the needy? Are you thinking of money more than u shud be? Worried all the time about going without money?

      Best place to be is where Abraham was in the Bible. Will u be able to give away ur only thing if God were to ask it from u.

      Hope this helps.
      Blessings.

  • ravi

    amazing stuff for youth to have a godly relationship………….

  • ravi

    amazing stuff for youth to have a godly relationship………….

  • Gagamelk

    this is a really great article, God bless!

  • Gagamelk

    this is a really great article, God bless!

  • Bernadine Wicket

    Several years ago when my daughter now 18 was a year old, we were living with my dad’s sister in Bombay, a very good Bible-believing Christian.

    She was a nurse in Toronto for many years and was lead by the Lord to give up her job and come to India. She noticed that my daughter used to indirectly control me and not let me eat, take a shower, go to the bathroom or even take a nap in the afternoon. Initially I thought that this was part of motherhood and that all mothers face similar problems and then she told me that the soul-tie had to be broken. Being a nurse she also taught me to discipline her, streamline her meals and bed time and both my daughter and I were blessed as a result.

    Love your post and may many others also be blessed by it in Jesus name.

  • Bernadine Wicket

    Several years ago when my daughter now 18 was a year old, we were living with my dad’s sister in Bombay, a very good Bible-believing Christian.

    She was a nurse in Toronto for many years and was lead by the Lord to give up her job and come to India. She noticed that my daughter used to indirectly control me and not let me eat, take a shower, go to the bathroom or even take a nap in the afternoon. Initially I thought that this was part of motherhood and that all mothers face similar problems and then she told me that the soul-tie had to be broken. Being a nurse she also taught me to discipline her, streamline her meals and bed time and both my daughter and I were blessed as a result.

    Love your post and may many others also be blessed by it in Jesus name.

  • luvluv

    I have an unhealthy soul tie that I, as insane as this sounds, I want back.  I dont want the unhealthy aspects, but I want a relationship with this person, just without the control, manipulationetc.  I just think he needs to realize it too and make the changes necessary for us to be together.  He has extreme demons to exorcise and I know bliss will follow 

  • luvluv

    I have an unhealthy soul tie that I, as insane as this sounds, I want back.  I dont want the unhealthy aspects, but I want a relationship with this person, just without the control, manipulationetc.  I just think he needs to realize it too and make the changes necessary for us to be together.  He has extreme demons to exorcise and I know bliss will follow 

  • Bluturtle

    I recently started the divorce process and a new wonderful godly women brought this concept to me.  I have beena christain most all my life, but never had heard of this or studied this.  I now truly believe this is what brought me to marry my husband of 14 years and what mad me stay in a completely unhealthy relationship.  Still not sure what God’s will is for our life, but I know that he and I both have serious issues with this very concept.  Please pray for me as I go throught the process of breaking these ties.  Thanks!

  • Bluturtle

    I recently started the divorce process and a new wonderful godly women brought this concept to me.  I have beena christain most all my life, but never had heard of this or studied this.  I now truly believe this is what brought me to marry my husband of 14 years and what mad me stay in a completely unhealthy relationship.  Still not sure what God’s will is for our life, but I know that he and I both have serious issues with this very concept.  Please pray for me as I go throught the process of breaking these ties.  Thanks!

  • Comeseeag

    The one point that I found most important is that souls ties can be formed outside of connecting sexually. So often people see sex as the only way a soul tie is formed. I believe too many people limit their understanding by not engaging, dissecting, and exploring, and even challenging the things they read.

  • Comeseeag

    The one point that I found most important is that souls ties can be formed outside of connecting sexually. So often people see sex as the only way a soul tie is formed. I believe too many people limit their understanding by not engaging, dissecting, and exploring, and even challenging the things they read.

  • Bro. Mike

    I imagin that there can be a soul tie to ones culture and heritage. In my case I am proud of my Mayen and Aztec ancestry. I really appreciate their commitment and success to their endevors for truth. Their unrelenting search for understanding and truth is inspiring. I feel connected to all of this. Because of this I have felt that we are all connected. My faith in God and my relationship with The Lord Jesus Christ assures me that I have been Set Free, My deliverence from the bondages I involved myself with releases liberality in me. My complete surrenderence to The Lord is my Hearts desire. My prayer is that God establish his character in my life. And that I live a life that is pleasing to him. If this is a hinderence then I will renonce it now. I don’t believe that it is a controlling factor in my life but this connection is what I’m concered with.
    Is this possible?

  • Bro. Mike

    I imagin that there can be a soul tie to ones culture and heritage. In my case I am proud of my Mayen and Aztec ancestry. I really appreciate their commitment and success to their endevors for truth. Their unrelenting search for understanding and truth is inspiring. I feel connected to all of this. Because of this I have felt that we are all connected. My faith in God and my relationship with The Lord Jesus Christ assures me that I have been Set Free, My deliverence from the bondages I involved myself with releases liberality in me. My complete surrenderence to The Lord is my Hearts desire. My prayer is that God establish his character in my life. And that I live a life that is pleasing to him. If this is a hinderence then I will renonce it now. I don’t believe that it is a controlling factor in my life but this connection is what I’m concered with.
    Is this possible?

  • Mrjtjesse

    Wow! Thank you jesus for this wisdom! Needed it…We all have soul ties that need to be broken. Great revelation.

  • Mrjtjesse

    Wow! Thank you jesus for this wisdom! Needed it…We all have soul ties that need to be broken. Great revelation.

  • Paschalyn Nyavor

    Does having sex in a relationship especially the lady havin her menstruation be considered as a soul tie?

    • http://www.shyjumathew.com Shyju Mathew

      No, if she is your wife.

  • Paschalyn Nyavor

    Does having sex in a relationship especially the lady havin her menstruation be considered as a soul tie?

    • http://www.shyjumathew.com/ Shyju Mathew

      No, if she is your wife.

  • pianistforchrist

    God was definitely speaking to me through this article. I have been through this soul-tie thing which i never knew existed and has a huge impact on my life. I’ve denounced it and i thank God i read this. God bless <3

  • pianistforchrist

    God was definitely speaking to me through this article. I have been through this soul-tie thing which i never knew existed and has a huge impact on my life. I’ve denounced it and i thank God i read this. God bless <3

  • Susoi

    I know someone who claims that soul mates are true – I believe that is a lie and such a term is not one from God. 

    Thank you for this blog – Wish I read it earlier so I could have blessed a friend of mine at that time.

  • Susoi

    I know someone who claims that soul mates are true – I believe that is a lie and such a term is not one from God. 

    Thank you for this blog – Wish I read it earlier so I could have blessed a friend of mine at that time.

  • LRH

    I’m sure a lot of people feel this way but it’s sad because I currently have a soul tie with an ex but we are supposedly trying to “work it out.” I do not trust him and he seems to be filled with a spirit of manipulation, sneakiness, and sex crazed, oh yeah and procrastination. I want to break the soul tie but what happens if a person is scared to break it, like I know it is something that has to be done but I truly care for him and wish that we could work it out but it seems to not be possible at this point. We have gone through a lot of good and way more bad over the course of about 4 years.

    • http://www.shyjumathew.com Shyju Mathew

      If God is not put peace in ur heart then follow the Lords lead. Next 60-80 years of ur life r too precious. And remember you are not the savior. Let go & go!

  • LRH

    I’m sure a lot of people feel this way but it’s sad because I currently have a soul tie with an ex but we are supposedly trying to “work it out.” I do not trust him and he seems to be filled with a spirit of manipulation, sneakiness, and sex crazed, oh yeah and procrastination. I want to break the soul tie but what happens if a person is scared to break it, like I know it is something that has to be done but I truly care for him and wish that we could work it out but it seems to not be possible at this point. We have gone through a lot of good and way more bad over the course of about 4 years.

    • http://www.shyjumathew.com/ Shyju Mathew

      If God is not put peace in ur heart then follow the Lords lead. Next 60-80 years of ur life r too precious. And remember you are not the savior. Let go & go!

  • http://profile.yahoo.com/2ES4UCMXZDUZKRKQVTUQMG3TVQ/ deb

    I am in big trouble with a soul tie and have tried to break from it with no success. It causes me great emotional pain and I think I may have to shift churches to try and get away from it. but even then I know I wont be able to. I have no strength now to try and fight against it. I dont pray about it now except to say sorry to God that I’m not trying to repent or change anymore. It is too strong to break. But I read about soul ties today here.  I know about them but it was good to read and maybe find hope that it can be broken.

    • http://www.shyjumathew.com Shyju Mathew

      Absolutely yes!!! I encourage you to keep on confessing that is a sin.(than accepting it as mere weakness) Keep on repenting of it. Do anything to get away from it. Fleeing is number one choice. 2Tim2:22. When you do that God wi honour you. Cry out to Him & Jesus will not forsake you!

  • http://pulse.yahoo.com/_2ES4UCMXZDUZKRKQVTUQMG3TVQ deb

    I am in big trouble with a soul tie and have tried to break from it with no success. It causes me great emotional pain and I think I may have to shift churches to try and get away from it. but even then I know I wont be able to. I have no strength now to try and fight against it. I dont pray about it now except to say sorry to God that I’m not trying to repent or change anymore. It is too strong to break. But I read about soul ties today here.  I know about them but it was good to read and maybe find hope that it can be broken.

    • http://www.shyjumathew.com/ Shyju Mathew

      Absolutely yes!!! I encourage you to keep on confessing that is a sin.(than accepting it as mere weakness) Keep on repenting of it. Do anything to get away from it. Fleeing is number one choice. 2Tim2:22. When you do that God wi honour you. Cry out to Him & Jesus will not forsake you!

  • sad

    I have big trouble with a soul tie. i have given up trying to break it now even though i may have to change churches because of it. if anyone can say a prayer that i find the strength to not give up and try and get rid of it that would be really appreciated, thank you for the article.

    • http://www.shyjumathew.com Shyju Mathew

      Will pray for u right away. JESUS NEVER FAILS!

    • http://www.shyjumathew.com Shyju Mathew

      Spend time thanking the Lord for helping you. It is done in Jesus name. Keep on loving God&pursue Him!

  • sad

    I have big trouble with a soul tie. i have given up trying to break it now even though i may have to change churches because of it. if anyone can say a prayer that i find the strength to not give up and try and get rid of it that would be really appreciated, thank you for the article.

    • http://www.shyjumathew.com/ Shyju Mathew

      Will pray for u right away. JESUS NEVER FAILS!

    • http://www.shyjumathew.com/ Shyju Mathew

      Spend time thanking the Lord for helping you. It is done in Jesus name. Keep on loving God&pursue Him!

  • Stephie Joseph

    wow…. dat was stunning! This is d 1st time i hav read abt a topic lik dis…. no body usually talks abt it. Deep thought bro….. knowingly or unknowingly we tend 2 make such soul ties…. dis article has made me aware and warned me 2 b careful. i can do it oly with d help of d holy spirit. Thank you bro 4 such an amazing article… 

    • http://www.shyjumathew.com Shyju Mathew

      Most welcome.

  • Stephie Joseph

    wow…. dat was stunning! This is d 1st time i hav read abt a topic lik dis…. no body usually talks abt it. Deep thought bro….. knowingly or unknowingly we tend 2 make such soul ties…. dis article has made me aware and warned me 2 b careful. i can do it oly with d help of d holy spirit. Thank you bro 4 such an amazing article… 

    • http://www.shyjumathew.com/ Shyju Mathew

      Most welcome.

  • Mounica

    brother,
     this article has soo many answers which is very useful to me, i had already mention my situation http://shyjumathew.com/blog/2009/03/24/red-hot-temptation/ u had suggested me to read this article. i had read it.
              dear brother now should i let him go away from my life n i had already confessed my sins what i had made to lord even today i prayed to god as u mentiond in the above article. now i want u to guide me what have to be done in further.,. thnk u brother

  • Mounica

    brother,
     this article has soo many answers which is very useful to me, i had already mention my situation http://shyjumathew.com/blog/2009/03/24/red-hot-temptation/ u had suggested me to read this article. i had read it.
              dear brother now should i let him go away from my life n i had already confessed my sins what i had made to lord even today i prayed to god as u mentiond in the above article. now i want u to guide me what have to be done in further.,. thnk u brother

    • http://www.shyjumathew.com/ Shyju Mathew

      After hearing your situation it seems like you are in a dangerous position. This desperate situation is not a healthy relationship. He does seem to value the relationship either. My suggestion would be to certainly let go & pursue Jesus. In due time the Lord will bring a man who fears God & loves u. Till then pursue Jesus for who He is. Blessings.

  • http://www.shyjumathew.com Shyju Mathew

    After hearing your situation it seems like you are in a dangerous position. This desperate situation is not a healthy relationship. He does seem to value the relationship either. My suggestion would be to certainly let go & pursue Jesus. In due time the Lord will bring a man who fears God & loves u. Till then pursue Jesus for who He is. Blessings.

  • Nitya Ktm

    Loved this post. Special part is a prayer and it helped me connect with my father again. Thanks, Shyju! 

  • Nitya Ktm

    Loved this post. Special part is a prayer and it helped me connect with my father again. Thanks, Shyju! 

  • Esther

    Brother,

    If I may ask .. how did you know that your wife was the one God had for you? I mean .. how did you make that decision? Was it through a word given by God?

    What is the best way to know?

    • http://www.shyjumathew.com/blog Shyju Mathew

      Sought the Lord. He blessed me graciously with seven visions & couple of other prophets that confirmed the same. Other than that Tiny had confirmations too.
      I’d say before u get another person to confirm the word u shud hear directly from God & 100% peace in ur spirit.

  • Esther

    Brother,

    If I may ask .. how did you know that your wife was the one God had for you? I mean .. how did you make that decision? Was it through a word given by God?

    What is the best way to know?

    • http://www.shyjumathew.com/ Shyju Mathew

      Sought the Lord. He blessed me graciously with seven visions & couple of other prophets that confirmed the same. Other than that Tiny had confirmations too.
      I’d say before u get another person to confirm the word u shud hear directly from God & 100% peace in ur spirit.

  • Prodigal Princess

    Thank you for teaching believers how to apply the Word in our lives.  God blessed me with you today

    • http://www.shyjumathew.com/blog Shyju Mathew

      Thank u Jesus!

  • Prodigal Princess

    Thank you for teaching believers how to apply the Word in our lives.  God blessed me with you today

    • http://www.shyjumathew.com/ Shyju Mathew

      Thank u Jesus!

  • Justyourway

    Soul ties r idoltry or anti christ rid of them immediately and forever

  • Justyourway

    Soul ties r idoltry or anti christ rid of them immediately and forever

  • Aariah

    Is it possible to break someone else’s soul tie with another person? My boyfriend of 3 months has maintained a rather friendly relationship with his ex-girlfriend before me. He recently had to tell her to stop contacting him because a few weeks ago to showed up at his work (a 2 hour drive for her) with coffee and lunch for him. He told me about it and I told him that this was not ok behavior on her behalf and that she has an ulterior motive. He then told her that night to stop contacting him and then the same night I miraculously got a message from her on Facebook in which she told me that my boyfriend has been having sex with her the entire time of he has been with me. She even mentioned in the message that she is deeply in love with him and asks my forgiveness. She then contacted him again and he told her once and for all to lose his number and stop contacting him. Well, she flipped out and sent me another message telling me she is still in love with him and that he tells her he loves her and doesn’t really want to be with me.

    Anyhow, I discussed all this with my boyfriend and I choose to belief him. He is a man of integrity and honesty and if he was cheating on me, he certainly would not have told me about her showing up with coffee (which is when she says she slept with him) or all the times she has contacted him.

    I feel she is desperate to win him back and will say and do anything to try and break us up. I talked to my boyfriend about a soul tie being the reason why she is holding on and he doesn’t believe in them. He is a God fearing, Jesus loving and bible believing man yet he thinks there is no such thing as soul ties. Can I pray and break this soul tie because if she continues to pull stunts like this she is going to put a wedge in-between us as a couple?

    • http://www.shyjumathew.com/blog Shyju Mathew

      Certainly only he can & he has to recognise it, acknowledge it, repent of his sins & ask the Lord to break it. What you could do is to pray and ask the Lord reveal that to him. Overall you must start asking the Lord to open your eyes to see the things as the way they are and to reveal anything that is not of him. Prayers for you.

  • Aariah

    Is it possible to break someone else’s soul tie with another person? My boyfriend of 3 months has maintained a rather friendly relationship with his ex-girlfriend before me. He recently had to tell her to stop contacting him because a few weeks ago to showed up at his work (a 2 hour drive for her) with coffee and lunch for him. He told me about it and I told him that this was not ok behavior on her behalf and that she has an ulterior motive. He then told her that night to stop contacting him and then the same night I miraculously got a message from her on Facebook in which she told me that my boyfriend has been having sex with her the entire time of he has been with me. She even mentioned in the message that she is deeply in love with him and asks my forgiveness. She then contacted him again and he told her once and for all to lose his number and stop contacting him. Well, she flipped out and sent me another message telling me she is still in love with him and that he tells her he loves her and doesn’t really want to be with me.

    Anyhow, I discussed all this with my boyfriend and I choose to belief him. He is a man of integrity and honesty and if he was cheating on me, he certainly would not have told me about her showing up with coffee (which is when she says she slept with him) or all the times she has contacted him.

    I feel she is desperate to win him back and will say and do anything to try and break us up. I talked to my boyfriend about a soul tie being the reason why she is holding on and he doesn’t believe in them. He is a God fearing, Jesus loving and bible believing man yet he thinks there is no such thing as soul ties. Can I pray and break this soul tie because if she continues to pull stunts like this she is going to put a wedge in-between us as a couple?

    • http://www.shyjumathew.com/ Shyju Mathew

      Certainly only he can & he has to recognise it, acknowledge it, repent of his sins & ask the Lord to break it. What you could do is to pray and ask the Lord reveal that to him. Overall you must start asking the Lord to open your eyes to see the things as the way they are and to reveal anything that is not of him. Prayers for you.

  • Greaterhe

    please pray for me

    • http://www.shyjumathew.com/blog Shyju Mathew

      Just did. Keep on loving Jesus & flee sin. God has not quit on u. Prayers.

  • Greaterhe

    please pray for me

    • http://www.shyjumathew.com/ Shyju Mathew

      Just did. Keep on loving Jesus & flee sin. God has not quit on u. Prayers.

  • Esther

    It’s amazing. Thank you Holy Spirit for opening my eyes, for showing me the way, guiding me to the right path. God indeed spoke to me through this post. Since past many days i was feeling weird. I did not know that there can be ungodly soul ties between believers too. Brother if you like someone in your church & that person is good & you are praying for your marriage & asking God if this relationship is from Him? Also meanwhile you keep on looking at your mobile if that person has called, has he / she messaged? Is this a soul tie? Is this ok or not good? Is this ungodly soul tie. Please guide me. I’m sure there are many others with a similar question

    • http://www.shyjumathew.com/blog Shyju Mathew

      That could be u simply being anxious. Just guard your heart from not allowing it to become obsession. Seek God’s will over ur relationship & the only person you should never let go is Jesus, rest will be well. Blessings.

  • Esther

    It’s amazing. Thank you Holy Spirit for opening my eyes, for showing me the way, guiding me to the right path. God indeed spoke to me through this post. Since past many days i was feeling weird. I did not know that there can be ungodly soul ties between believers too. Brother if you like someone in your church & that person is good & you are praying for your marriage & asking God if this relationship is from Him? Also meanwhile you keep on looking at your mobile if that person has called, has he / she messaged? Is this a soul tie? Is this ok or not good? Is this ungodly soul tie. Please guide me. I’m sure there are many others with a similar question

    • http://www.shyjumathew.com/ Shyju Mathew

      That could be u simply being anxious. Just guard your heart from not allowing it to become obsession. Seek God’s will over ur relationship & the only person you should never let go is Jesus, rest will be well. Blessings.

  • Esther

    Got to,learn a lot from this post that how people though being believer’s still leave in bondage. Learn’t about various soul ties & how to break free. Thank you God that our help comes from you. We are alive & have solution to all our problems because you love us & you are there for us. Thank you brother for all you wonderful posts lead by Holy Spirit, it helps us a lot. God bless you for all your efforts & good work for the Kingdom of God

  • Esther

    Got to,learn a lot from this post that how people though being believer’s still leave in bondage. Learn’t about various soul ties & how to break free. Thank you God that our help comes from you. We are alive & have solution to all our problems because you love us & you are there for us. Thank you brother for all you wonderful posts lead by Holy Spirit, it helps us a lot. God bless you for all your efforts & good work for the Kingdom of God

  • Mori

    I have been married 5 years, but a soul tie with an ex boyfriend has almost brought me to destruction. I could not eat, sleep, or even think about my marriage in a happy way due to the guilt, regret, and desire I still felt to be in this former relationship. I ended things with him right before I met my husband and got married because I did not believe he was a Christian and my husband is (but has not been a spiritual leader in our home, to my chagrin). I let resentment toward my husband lead me into a spiral of regret, guilt, and desire for this former person and the life I could have had, and it nearly destroyed me and my family before I thought to look up the idea of soul ties. I once scoffed at such things, but I now believe in the power of the spirit(s). Be wary. 
    My question is how do I know if the soul ties are broken. I have prayed the prayers of deliverance and repented, but I almost want to tempt myself with contact this person to see if the connection is broken, and I know this cannot possibly be right….
    How can I know that I am truly free, or will I always be haunted?

    • cuckoo

      This sounds very much like what I am going thru,although I’ve not been with my ex in over 16 years. Late last year and for the most part of this year, I got this overwhelming urge to contact my ex, but I didn’t as we live in diff countries. The urge got stronger a few months ago and I found out he had passed away and had just been buried. I found it quite spooky as prior to this period I’d not given him much thought. I’m really struggling with insomnia and can’t get him out of my mind, I remember everything about him with astonishing clarity and it really is affecting my family life. I’ve always dismissed soul ties and soul mates, but there can be no explanation for what I am currently going thru. I’ve been praying, but will appreciate any support from other believers out there. I am confident these ties will be broken in Jesus’s name. Amen

  • Mori

    I have been married 5 years, but a soul tie with an ex boyfriend has almost brought me to destruction. I could not eat, sleep, or even think about my marriage in a happy way due to the guilt, regret, and desire I still felt to be in this former relationship. I ended things with him right before I met my husband and got married because I did not believe he was a Christian and my husband is (but has not been a spiritual leader in our home, to my chagrin). I let resentment toward my husband lead me into a spiral of regret, guilt, and desire for this former person and the life I could have had, and it nearly destroyed me and my family before I thought to look up the idea of soul ties. I once scoffed at such things, but I now believe in the power of the spirit(s). Be wary. 
    My question is how do I know if the soul ties are broken. I have prayed the prayers of deliverance and repented, but I almost want to tempt myself with contact this person to see if the connection is broken, and I know this cannot possibly be right….
    How can I know that I am truly free, or will I always be haunted?

    • cuckoo

      This sounds very much like what I am going thru,although I’ve not been with my ex in over 16 years. Late last year and for the most part of this year, I got this overwhelming urge to contact my ex, but I didn’t as we live in diff countries. The urge got stronger a few months ago and I found out he had passed away and had just been buried. I found it quite spooky as prior to this period I’d not given him much thought. I’m really struggling with insomnia and can’t get him out of my mind, I remember everything about him with astonishing clarity and it really is affecting my family life. I’ve always dismissed soul ties and soul mates, but there can be no explanation for what I am currently going thru. I’ve been praying, but will appreciate any support from other believers out there. I am confident these ties will be broken in Jesus’s name. Amen

  • Al

    But, we must not forget soul-ties formed by people of the same gender.

    Sometimes, they are called “brotherhoods” or “friendships”. Sometimes, one acts as a mentor or surrogate father. This is especially true for boys or teens who did not have a proper relationship with their father. This is even more detrimental for male victims of sexual abuse. If such a bond is formed with spiritual authority figures, it could lead to rebellion against God later down the road.

    I am still fighting a soul-tie of a past “friend” or “brother” who filled the insecurities of my past. Somehow, my calling and my “desire” have been mixed as well. 

    The most uncomfortable thing about this situation is that although I am not homosexual, it seems as if I am tied emotionally – as if he’s a mate (which he obviously isn’t). We prayed a lot together. I think that was the first mistake I made. Also, I think my mother pushing him into my life as a “mentor” made it worse. Everything mentioned in the top paragraph I have dealt with. This made me more susceptible to damage.

    I am glad that God has put a true man of God in my path who identified this issue for what it was. I now am learning about proper male-male (although the principles are generic) relationships. You don’t have to be gay to have an improper relationship with someone of the same gender. This is one of many lies that Satan leads us to believe. There are too many married men who have improper relationships with other men thus putting their marriage in jeopardy. 

    Guard your heart, for everything you do flows out of it! 

    • http://www.shyjumathew.com/blog Shyju Mathew

      Thanks for sharing Al. Never thought of that one. I hope ur testimony opens the eyes of many more people.

  • Al

    But, we must not forget soul-ties formed by people of the same gender.

    Sometimes, they are called “brotherhoods” or “friendships”. Sometimes, one acts as a mentor or surrogate father. This is especially true for boys or teens who did not have a proper relationship with their father. This is even more detrimental for male victims of sexual abuse. If such a bond is formed with spiritual authority figures, it could lead to rebellion against God later down the road.

    I am still fighting a soul-tie of a past “friend” or “brother” who filled the insecurities of my past. Somehow, my calling and my “desire” have been mixed as well. 

    The most uncomfortable thing about this situation is that although I am not homosexual, it seems as if I am tied emotionally – as if he’s a mate (which he obviously isn’t). We prayed a lot together. I think that was the first mistake I made. Also, I think my mother pushing him into my life as a “mentor” made it worse. Everything mentioned in the top paragraph I have dealt with. This made me more susceptible to damage.

    I am glad that God has put a true man of God in my path who identified this issue for what it was. I now am learning about proper male-male (although the principles are generic) relationships. You don’t have to be gay to have an improper relationship with someone of the same gender. This is one of many lies that Satan leads us to believe. There are too many married men who have improper relationships with other men thus putting their marriage in jeopardy. 

    Guard your heart, for everything you do flows out of it! 

    • http://www.shyjumathew.com/ Shyju Mathew

      Thanks for sharing Al. Never thought of that one. I hope ur testimony opens the eyes of many more people.

  • Shelly Dobek

    I never knew the term for what I was going through until I saw this post. I have developed unhealthy soul ties over the past three years that disturbed my walk with the Lord. I did all the things that are described in this post-excessively emotionally drawn to them, harmed myself if i felt they were distancing themselves from me, felt depressed and alone for extended periods of time. Praying would provide temporary peace, then again I would chase after these relationships  which gave me temporary joy. They became my world, my life revolved around them , my happiness was based on how secure I felt in these relationships, whether I felt I was loved and cherished. I still struggle with these relationships and I thought I would get it over with as they distanced from me over time, hoped that I would get busy enough with my life to forget about them. When I read this article, I was shattered. I realised I did not want to pray for this because I do not want to lose these people in my life. I realise that they have become my idol. I do not know what to do. I am terrified

    • http://www.shyjumathew.com/blog Shyju Mathew

      Shelly first step is acknowledgment of ur prob. U just did that. Then remember u cannot do it by urself but u can with the Holy Spirit. Ur journey starts today as u have acknowledge u cannot in ur strength but with the help of the Holy Spirit you can. Pray remembering that the Word of God says, in your weakness His strength is made manifest & then flee those temptations.

  • Shelly Dobek

    I never knew the term for what I was going through until I saw this post. I have developed unhealthy soul ties over the past three years that disturbed my walk with the Lord. I did all the things that are described in this post-excessively emotionally drawn to them, harmed myself if i felt they were distancing themselves from me, felt depressed and alone for extended periods of time. Praying would provide temporary peace, then again I would chase after these relationships  which gave me temporary joy. They became my world, my life revolved around them , my happiness was based on how secure I felt in these relationships, whether I felt I was loved and cherished. I still struggle with these relationships and I thought I would get it over with as they distanced from me over time, hoped that I would get busy enough with my life to forget about them. When I read this article, I was shattered. I realised I did not want to pray for this because I do not want to lose these people in my life. I realise that they have become my idol. I do not know what to do. I am terrified

    • http://www.shyjumathew.com/ Shyju Mathew

      Shelly first step is acknowledgment of ur prob. U just did that. Then remember u cannot do it by urself but u can with the Holy Spirit. Ur journey starts today as u have acknowledge u cannot in ur strength but with the help of the Holy Spirit you can. Pray remembering that the Word of God says, in your weakness His strength is made manifest & then flee those temptations.

  • Rhett Barbaree

    Soul Tie prayers do not have to be said out loud. I know this from experience. But you do need to serious about what you are doing when you bring them before the Lord.

  • Rhett Barbaree

    Soul Tie prayers do not have to be said out loud. I know this from experience. But you do need to serious about what you are doing when you bring them before the Lord.

  • liz1

    I was burdened with this soul tie….Had lot of confusions ..but now by the Grace of God my confusions got cleared up……Need to take decisions to break this soul tie…. itz gonna be hard for me….. Need ur prayers…!! God bless u Shyju…..

    • http://www.shyjumathew.com/blog Shyju Mathew

      Holy Spirit your helper is with you. Prayers!

  • liz1

    I was burdened with this soul tie….Had lot of confusions ..but now by the Grace of God my confusions got cleared up……Need to take decisions to break this soul tie…. itz gonna be hard for me….. Need ur prayers…!! God bless u Shyju…..

    • http://www.shyjumathew.com/ Shyju Mathew

      Holy Spirit your helper is with you. Prayers!

  • Juliekp

    I have a question. Once a soul tie is broken, can you maintain a relationship? I am a recovering addict, and my father is an acting out addict. Sexual addiction goes back for 4 generations in my family line. My father pretends he is a Christian but I know he is not dealing with his addiction. I want and need a dad. Any thoughts?

    • kimkumar

      Juliekp, personally i would say in your situation case–FLEE, especially when you know one of the parties involved is still vulnerable, while the other still recovering. Thank you for openly sharing your life/family. My prayers are with you. Let the power of every generational sin be broken in Jesus name!  I believe God will deliver your father, meanwhile may you find comfort in the love of your heavenly father who wants and needs u,more than you do..And He WILL make a way…

  • Juliekp

    I have a question. Once a soul tie is broken, can you maintain a relationship? I am a recovering addict, and my father is an acting out addict. Sexual addiction goes back for 4 generations in my family line. My father pretends he is a Christian but I know he is not dealing with his addiction. I want and need a dad. Any thoughts?

    • http://www.olivedose.com/ Kim D’Souza

      Juliekp, personally i would say in your situation case–FLEE, especially when you know one of the parties involved is still vulnerable, while the other still recovering. Thank you for openly sharing your life/family. My prayers are with you. Let the power of every generational sin be broken in Jesus name!  I believe God will deliver your father, meanwhile may you find comfort in the love of your heavenly father who wants and needs u,more than you do..And He WILL make a way…

  • AC8305

    Thank you for posting. Great light shinning in all of you. God Bless.

    • kimkumar

      Thanks for commenting. God bless you too

    • http://www.shyjumathew.com/blog Shyju Mathew

      Very welcome!

  • AC8305

    Thank you for posting. Great light shinning in all of you. God Bless.

    • http://www.olivedose.com/ Kim D’Souza

      Thanks for commenting. God bless you too

    • http://www.shyjumathew.com/ Shyju Mathew

      Very welcome!

  • one of His anointed

    Because I publicly apologized to someone at Women’s Conference for any hurt, misjudgement etc. I may have caused her I found myself attending her Ministry whereby she is Prophet/Pastor. I attended the day bible studies and occasionally the evening bible studies. She would gradually lure me by saying “so and so are here at 5am to pray”. Knowing that the bible study actually started at 12, it never phased me and for the evening bible study which was at 7pm , she would say “so and comes at 5:30 to pray” and then with of that coasting before you know she said ” I want you to start coming at 5am or at 5:30 pm”. I never asked or wanted to be apart of the ministry just visit occasionally. I saw and herd how she spoke to the faithful few that were with her and how she justified that she was watching over their souls and bunch of other stuff. I would see an hear all that and and would say to myself “God thank you that I am not a part of this” how they just take the insults, the intimidation and convinced it was out of the love of God and if not for her where would you be. So they would take it for they were not allowed to speak because is the only voice you are to hear. You have no opinion unless she gave it to you or else you are stepping away from God because He entrusted their souls to her to watch over. Well over time i and a few others made a commitment to stay with the ministry. Then gradually the attacks were on me and called rebuke and my Spirit would rise each time, she said it was my flesh and that it was not of God because the Holy Spirit would tell me to obey and not disrespect her as my Leader. In one of her rebukes she told me that I don’t think for myself she will do the thinking for me and I am not to do anything without asking her permission first because that is protocal. I finally recognized the Jezebel spirit because of the control,intimidation and manipulation.Did I mention we stood from 5am until 8:30 or 9 and and then again for the noon bible study we stood while she spoke another two hours. For the evening service its the same we are already praying before she comes down to the sanctuary then we stand until she prays long prayers and then continue to stand another hour or two until she finally gives the command to sit. Please don’t look like you are dozing off. Anyway it never occurred to me that it was also a soul Tie. So i have since renounced and denounced that relationship and stepped away. I pray for revelation them as well as forgive her. I call back all that was taken from me especially my dignity. This is just a short synopsis. To God be the glory who is the keeper of my soul.

    • http://www.shyjumathew.com/blog Shyju Mathew

      Thank God it’s over.

  • one of His anointed

    Because I publicly apologized to someone at Women’s Conference for any hurt, misjudgement etc. I may have caused her I found myself attending her Ministry whereby she is Prophet/Pastor. I attended the day bible studies and occasionally the evening bible studies. She would gradually lure me by saying “so and so are here at 5am to pray”. Knowing that the bible study actually started at 12, it never phased me and for the evening bible study which was at 7pm , she would say “so and comes at 5:30 to pray” and then with of that coasting before you know she said ” I want you to start coming at 5am or at 5:30 pm”. I never asked or wanted to be apart of the ministry just visit occasionally. I saw and herd how she spoke to the faithful few that were with her and how she justified that she was watching over their souls and bunch of other stuff. I would see an hear all that and and would say to myself “God thank you that I am not a part of this” how they just take the insults, the intimidation and convinced it was out of the love of God and if not for her where would you be. So they would take it for they were not allowed to speak because is the only voice you are to hear. You have no opinion unless she gave it to you or else you are stepping away from God because He entrusted their souls to her to watch over. Well over time i and a few others made a commitment to stay with the ministry. Then gradually the attacks were on me and called rebuke and my Spirit would rise each time, she said it was my flesh and that it was not of God because the Holy Spirit would tell me to obey and not disrespect her as my Leader. In one of her rebukes she told me that I don’t think for myself she will do the thinking for me and I am not to do anything without asking her permission first because that is protocal. I finally recognized the Jezebel spirit because of the control,intimidation and manipulation.Did I mention we stood from 5am until 8:30 or 9 and and then again for the noon bible study we stood while she spoke another two hours. For the evening service its the same we are already praying before she comes down to the sanctuary then we stand until she prays long prayers and then continue to stand another hour or two until she finally gives the command to sit. Please don’t look like you are dozing off. Anyway it never occurred to me that it was also a soul Tie. So i have since renounced and denounced that relationship and stepped away. I pray for revelation them as well as forgive her. I call back all that was taken from me especially my dignity. This is just a short synopsis. To God be the glory who is the keeper of my soul.

    • http://www.shyjumathew.com/ Shyju Mathew

      Thank God it’s over.

  • Rachel

    I grew up with a controlling, physically abusive single mom who I (age 12 and following) also felt was physically attracted to me at times, although as a kid I just “felt yucky” and didn’t understand what was going on. I would even journal about how the glances made me feel uncomfortable, even through college, and until I got therapy years later and was reading my old journals, I had no memory of it!

    In college I developed a soul tie, and didn’t understand what it was. I appreciated the comments about someone finding themself in physical
    proximity with the person who they had a soul tie with- I had noticed
    that both with regard to the guy I had a tie with in college- I would
    just run into him repeatedly, all over campus. Instead of getting into a relationship with him, I moved to the other side of the country. This didn’t help, though. I had the tie for a full seven years, while I was avoiding a relationship with him, due to my own anxieties and fears. When I saw a picture of him with a woman, I instantly knew this was his girlfriend, even though I didn’t contact him about it. I cried for eight hours straight after seeing the photo! He married her three weeks later.

    As I read this article again today, and the comments for the first time, I realized a few things:
    1) My father had an unhealthy soul tie with his mother. She never disciplined him and always made excuses for him, and even to this day he relies on her financially. I don’t know all the details of it, and he did become physically violent with my mother, and that is his story, so it’s not all my business, but I guess it is important to know in terms of family history and tendencies.

    2) My recent soul ties include a person I look up to in my field. I was working with them one day and prayed for them, and have since felt led to pray for them on various occasions, but I think it has drifted into something else. I prayed today about it and felt the Holy Spirit’s comfort, and I especially enjoyed what was said about, the only person we are to love with all our heart, soul, mind and strength is Jesus! That sums it up, I think that’s great.

    The other soul tie I had developed is with my pastor, even though we have never had a conversation! I had begun to notice the physical proximity coincidences with my pastor- when there was a crowd after the service, I would find myself at the same place in the crowd, without meaning to, though I never sought this out, and never had a conversation.

    And then I had a dream about my pastor, too. It had inappropriate undertones, although the specific events were not beyond what someone would experience if they were being taken care of in a hospital. I find that I should probably not be dreaming about others unless God wants me to pray for them. Well, I did pray for him, rejecting and rebuking what I had dreamed and praying that the Lord would lift him up and keep him from temptation, and the coincidental proximity, etc., went away.

    So I have a history of soul ties, but I also seem to have spiritual discernment. When I meet people, I seem to get a sense of who they are very quickly, and sometimes I know things about them that they don’t tell me, but I invariably find out later that it’s true. I joined the prayer team at my church about six weeks ago, and it seems
    that people I pray for are helped. I look in their eyes and they look
    different. I try not to pray anything except what I feel in my spirit as I am praying.

    I guess there is a line- the majority of people I meet, I actually do not even remember meeting later- so perhaps the key is to use the gift with forgetfulness. If anyone else has any wisdom on using such gifts with caution, such as to avoid forming soul ties, I would be pleased to hear it.

  • Rachel

    I grew up with a controlling, physically abusive single mom who I (age 12 and following) also felt was physically attracted to me at times, although as a kid I just “felt yucky” and didn’t understand what was going on. I would even journal about how the glances made me feel uncomfortable, even through college, and until I got therapy years later and was reading my old journals, I had no memory of it!

    In college I developed a soul tie, and didn’t understand what it was. I appreciated the comments about someone finding themself in physical
    proximity with the person who they had a soul tie with- I had noticed
    that both with regard to the guy I had a tie with in college- I would
    just run into him repeatedly, all over campus. Instead of getting into a relationship with him, I moved to the other side of the country. This didn’t help, though. I had the tie for a full seven years, while I was avoiding a relationship with him, due to my own anxieties and fears. When I saw a picture of him with a woman, I instantly knew this was his girlfriend, even though I didn’t contact him about it. I cried for eight hours straight after seeing the photo! He married her three weeks later.

    As I read this article again today, and the comments for the first time, I realized a few things:
    1) My father had an unhealthy soul tie with his mother. She never disciplined him and always made excuses for him, and even to this day he relies on her financially. I don’t know all the details of it, and he did become physically violent with my mother, and that is his story, so it’s not all my business, but I guess it is important to know in terms of family history and tendencies.

    2) My recent soul ties include a person I look up to in my field. I was working with them one day and prayed for them, and have since felt led to pray for them on various occasions, but I think it has drifted into something else. I prayed today about it and felt the Holy Spirit’s comfort, and I especially enjoyed what was said about, the only person we are to love with all our heart, soul, mind and strength is Jesus! That sums it up, I think that’s great.

    The other soul tie I had developed is with my pastor, even though we have never had a conversation! I had begun to notice the physical proximity coincidences with my pastor- when there was a crowd after the service, I would find myself at the same place in the crowd, without meaning to, though I never sought this out, and never had a conversation.

    And then I had a dream about my pastor, too. It had inappropriate undertones, although the specific events were not beyond what someone would experience if they were being taken care of in a hospital. I find that I should probably not be dreaming about others unless God wants me to pray for them. Well, I did pray for him, rejecting and rebuking what I had dreamed and praying that the Lord would lift him up and keep him from temptation, and the coincidental proximity, etc., went away.

    So I have a history of soul ties, but I also seem to have spiritual discernment. When I meet people, I seem to get a sense of who they are very quickly, and sometimes I know things about them that they don’t tell me, but I invariably find out later that it’s true. I joined the prayer team at my church about six weeks ago, and it seems
    that people I pray for are helped. I look in their eyes and they look
    different. I try not to pray anything except what I feel in my spirit as I am praying.

    I guess there is a line- the majority of people I meet, I actually do not even remember meeting later- so perhaps the key is to use the gift with forgetfulness. If anyone else has any wisdom on using such gifts with caution, such as to avoid forming soul ties, I would be pleased to hear it.

  • areasontosing4.blogspot.com

    Great blog! I’m writing one right now and have that SAME video posted in mine. I will post your blog in mine as well if people want to read a better written blog! haha

    • http://www.shyjumathew.com/ Shyju Mathew

      Sure! We all got to start somewhere. :) God speed to ur blog.

  • areasontosing4.blogspot.com

    Great blog! I’m writing one right now and have that SAME video posted in mine. I will post your blog in mine as well if people want to read a better written blog! haha

    • http://www.shyjumathew.com/ Shyju Mathew

      Sure! We all got to start somewhere. :) God speed to ur blog.

  • a.c.

    I had the same situation for several years. It started to break down when I realised I didn’t have to go and meet him when I said I would – I stood him up. After feeling so so guilty I wrote him a letter explaining how he had hurt me and manipulated me and made me feel. Then the next time we were on skype God just intervened. I suddenly felt sick and felt I had to go, then I was crying and shaking and nearly throwing up – and knowing for certain that God was taking back the portion of my heart that was given to him, and breaking the tie. God is the only one who can do it, not us.

    • http://www.shyjumathew.com/ Shyju Mathew

      Wow! Thank u Jesus!

  • http://twitter.com/studiobecnslng Kjersten Halvorsen

    Sure appreciate your way with words. Am citing your article in a packet I am creating for clients of mine. Grace & peace to you.

    • http://www.shyjumathew.com/ Shyju Mathew

      Feel free. I’d love to have a look at it too. God bless.

  • http://twitter.com/studiobecnslng Kjersten Halvorsen

    Sure appreciate your way with words. Am citing your article in a packet I am creating for clients of mine. Grace & peace to you.

    • http://www.shyjumathew.com/ Shyju Mathew

      Feel free. I’d love to have a look at it too. God bless.

  • http://www.facebook.com/susan.kenske Susan Kenske

    My brother seems to have an unholy tie with me. he breaks up with his girlfriends and expects me to help him with his life. I pray not to have this strange connection to him or any of his friends.

  • Guest

    My brother seems to have an unholy tie with me. he breaks up with his girlfriends and expects me to help him with his life. I pray not to have this strange connection to him or any of his friends.

  • http://www.facebook.com/susan.kenske Susan Kenske

    my mom and he boyfriends/friends seem to have unholy ties in my life. I pray to the lord that these completely break.

    • http://www.shyjumathew.com/ Shyju Mathew

      Believing God with u.

  • Guest

    my mom and he boyfriends/friends seem to have unholy ties in my life. I pray to the lord that these completely break.

    • http://www.shyjumathew.com/ Shyju Mathew

      Believing God with u.

  • http://shaniquasnowden.blogspot.com/ Shaniqua Snowden

    Great blog, I know personally I had to get rid of some soul ties when it came to unGodly friends. I told one of my friends I was saved, but she consistently wanted me to go to the clubs with her. She began to get a bit outrageous and would get angry if we didn’t spend time together. If I kept staying around her it disturbed my spirit, so I knew it was God’s spirit telling me to release myself from that friendship or soul tie.
    Sometimes you try to stay in the relationship to help the person, but the truth of the matter is, if you are not influencing them they are influencing you.You can’t let people drain you.

  • http://shaniquasnowden.blogspot.com/ Shaniqua Snowden

    Great blog, I know personally I had to get rid of some soul ties when it came to unGodly friends. I told one of my friends I was saved, but she consistently wanted me to go to the clubs with her. She began to get a bit outrageous and would get angry if we didn’t spend time together. If I kept staying around her it disturbed my spirit, so I knew it was God’s spirit telling me to release myself from that friendship or soul tie.
    Sometimes you try to stay in the relationship to help the person, but the truth of the matter is, if you are not influencing them they are influencing you.You can’t let people drain you.

  • http://shanisnowden.blogspot.com/ Shani Snowden

    Great blog, I know personally I had to get rid of some soul ties when it came to unGodly friends. I told one of my friends I was saved, but she consistently wanted me to go to the clubs with her. She began to get a bit outrageous and would get angry if we didn’t spend time together. If I kept staying around her it disturbed my spirit, so I knew it was God’s spirit telling me to release myself from that friendship or soul tie.
    Sometimes you try to stay in the relationship to help the person, but the truth of the matter is, if you are not influencing them they are influencing you.You can’t let people drain you.

  • denise m

    I never realized how real these soul ties are. Thank you for much needed information.

    • nimawilson

      Glad to know that Denise! God bless you

  • denise m

    I never realized how real these soul ties are. Thank you for much needed information.

    • nimawilson

      Glad to know that Denise! God bless you

  • Blindsighted

    I recently heard mention of soul ties, and can already identitify at least one in my life. Im so thankful to have found this blog & others, that I hope will assist me in breaking the ties.

  • Blindsighted

    I recently heard mention of soul ties, and can already identitify at least one in my life. Im so thankful to have found this blog & others, that I hope will assist me in breaking the ties.

  • Sephora

    This explaination will help me on so many levels. I never realized that it was me who kept myself in bondage, while accepting the hurt from others that I myself choose to connect with. I thought God left me, but it was me who left God! I appreciate the enlightenment.

    • http://www.shyjumathew.com/ Shyju Mathew

      Happy to know that! Welcome to GTH.

  • Sephora

    This explaination will help me on so many levels. I never realized that it was me who kept myself in bondage, while accepting the hurt from others that I myself choose to connect with. I thought God left me, but it was me who left God! I appreciate the enlightenment.

    • http://www.shyjumathew.com/ Shyju Mathew

      Happy to know that! Welcome to GTH.

  • Gail

    Hi just wanted to know if ungodly soul ties have been broken with a man and a woman who has a child out of wedlock, can God renew that relationship once both parties have repented a surrenderd their lives to God?

    • http://www.shyjumathew.com/ Shyju Mathew

      Absolutely yes. As long as you both submit under the total authority of God’s Word and stay faithful to each under the covenant of marriage everything the enemy planned for your fall can be reversed.

  • Gail

    Hi just wanted to know if ungodly soul ties have been broken with a man and a woman who has a child out of wedlock, can God renew that relationship once both parties have repented a surrenderd their lives to God?

    • http://www.shyjumathew.com/ Shyju Mathew

      Absolutely yes. As long as you both submit under the total authority of God’s Word and stay faithful to each under the covenant of marriage everything the enemy planned for your fall can be reversed.

  • Abigail

    Thank you so much for the article, I came to the blog as I was still holding dear to memories of a relationship that I had whilst working overseas. Amazingly there was no intimacy involved but I made some very damaging utterances, on the day I met this man, I said to a friend, this man will bother me for the rest of my life. I have said numerous things, like he is the only man I would ever love in my life. When I returned home, I could not do anything, its been 10 years and still wake up missing him dearly. I have been praying to God to bring him my way. Only speaking to a friend today did it dawn on me that I am operating under a soul tie, little did I realize that the fact we were not intimate means nothing. I am still under the curse of the words I made and still make about this man even though we have not spoken in years.

    Thank you so much, I will be praying for the release from this soul tie.

    • http://www.shyjumathew.com/ Shyju Mathew

      Wow that’s painful!! Just said a prayer for u. Lord will help u. Blessings.

  • Abigail

    Thank you so much for the article, I came to the blog as I was still holding dear to memories of a relationship that I had whilst working overseas. Amazingly there was no intimacy involved but I made some very damaging utterances, on the day I met this man, I said to a friend, this man will bother me for the rest of my life. I have said numerous things, like he is the only man I would ever love in my life. When I returned home, I could not do anything, its been 10 years and still wake up missing him dearly. I have been praying to God to bring him my way. Only speaking to a friend today did it dawn on me that I am operating under a soul tie, little did I realize that the fact we were not intimate means nothing. I am still under the curse of the words I made and still make about this man even though we have not spoken in years.

    Thank you so much, I will be praying for the release from this soul tie.

    • http://www.shyjumathew.com/ Shyju Mathew

      Wow that’s painful!! Just said a prayer for u. Lord will help u. Blessings.

  • Esther4JESUS

    Thank you so much for this article.. I actually stumbled upon this article while going through GTH.. And I was actually shocked after reading cause I found the answer to a question I never asked, but was the reason for some of the unexplained sorrows in my life… Thanks so much for posting this.. I’ve a question… Is it necessary that both the people involved is aware of the Soul Tie that has happened as someone mentioned about having a soul tie with a pastor in a comment previously.. In my case the other person does not know about this,but this person became close to me showing sympathy..Requesting prayers so that I can overcome it.

  • Esther Varghese

    Thank you so much for this article.. I actually stumbled upon this article while going through GTH.. And I was actually shocked after reading cause I found the answer to a question I never asked, but was the reason for some of the unexplained sorrows in my life… Thanks so much for posting this.. I’ve a question… Is it necessary that both the people involved is aware of the Soul Tie that has happened as someone mentioned about having a soul tie with a pastor in a comment previously.. In my case the other person does not know about this,but this person became close to me showing sympathy..Requesting prayers so that I can overcome it.

  • Jesus is amazing

    Dear Shyju Matthew,

    Thank you for providing all of us with this article. There are so many temptations in this “brave new world” that sometimes it seems completely overwhelming. I can see that you have taken some time to research this topic; it is a good one – but there are a few other things that can lead to “soul ties”.

    As ridiculous as this may sound, Computer or Games Addiction can lead to a soul tie. So may – the reading of books. Actually, practically anything can lead to a soul tie. The only “thing” that does not lead to the unholy union is God’s Spirit, of course.

    Now, the way I understand it is that there are two ways of causing oneself damage (with soul ties), and I would say that you cover the first way: the subconscious awareness of the soul tie.

    Usually one needs to go through some serious Jesus-style preaching (hell-fire), or Paulian (Doctrinal) or Prophetic, even (Ezekial, Elija, Jeremiah, Isaiah) in order to become conscious of those hidden soul ties. (Sin is all about subtly.)

    Once we are aware of our vices in this life (might be things we never even expected) – those realizations become very dangerous. They become capable of ruining your life.

    Sometimes, in our Christian lives we hear people says stuff like – “Do not make excuses for sin, that is just another way for the devil to – catch you out!”

    When we admit fault, admit awareness of a particular sin that is constantly eating at our conscience (the image of God placed in us from birth that compels us to be good to others), we become responsible for that sin. And God will hold us accountable for that sin once we see it. And so will others. At the end of the day, we have a long line of things that are now pegging onto how we react to those sins when they rise up. Do we give in? Or, do we give out?

    One very effective way, that I have found in the Psalms, of avoiding that hot flush of sin is to actually force the self to start dancing to the Lord. It’s not just the singing, but the physical literal dancing. That movement repels sin (for a moment). But physical dance and praise of the Lord is extremely effective.

    Whether chemical or mental (I do not know), but when you just praise God and dance when that sin comes knocking – it seems to run away.

    Plus, an interesting factor – sin is all about satiating the appetite… well… dancing and singing, and making loud noise, and jumping up and down and getting excited also… satiate the appetites…

    So, in a way, praising and dancing before the Lord (like our forefather David) substitutes for sin.

    Very, very, very clever man David must have been; anointed and blessed – God must have put an incredible Spirit of discernment in our forefather King David.

    To conclude, I must agree though with that method of denunciation you mention in your last couple paragraphs Mr. Matthew.

    This article was an encouraging read.

  • Jesus is amazing

    Dear Shyju Matthew,

    Thank you for providing all of us with this article. There are so many temptations in this “brave new world” that sometimes it seems completely overwhelming. I can see that you have taken some time to research this topic; it is a good one – but there are a few other things that can lead to “soul ties”.

    As ridiculous as this may sound, Computer or Games Addiction can lead to a soul tie. So may – the reading of books. Actually, practically anything can lead to a soul tie. The only “thing” that does not lead to the unholy union is God’s Spirit, of course.

    Now, the way I understand it is that there are two ways of causing oneself damage (with soul ties), and I would say that you cover the first way: the subconscious awareness of the soul tie.

    Usually one needs to go through some serious Jesus-style preaching (hell-fire), or Paulian (Doctrinal) or Prophetic, even (Ezekial, Elija, Jeremiah, Isaiah) in order to become conscious of those hidden soul ties. (Sin is all about subtly.)

    Once we are aware of our vices in this life (might be things we never even expected) – those realizations become very dangerous. They become capable of ruining your life.

    Sometimes, in our Christian lives we hear people says stuff like – “Do not make excuses for sin, that is just another way for the devil to – catch you out!”

    When we admit fault, admit awareness of a particular sin that is constantly eating at our conscience (the image of God placed in us from birth that compels us to be good to others), we become responsible for that sin. And God will hold us accountable for that sin once we see it. And so will others. At the end of the day, we have a long line of things that are now pegging onto how we react to those sins when they rise up. Do we give in? Or, do we give out?

    One very effective way, that I have found in the Psalms, of avoiding that hot flush of sin is to actually force the self to start dancing to the Lord. It’s not just the singing, but the physical literal dancing. That movement repels sin (for a moment). But physical dance and praise of the Lord is extremely effective.

    Whether chemical or mental (I do not know), but when you just praise God and dance when that sin comes knocking – it seems to run away.

    Plus, an interesting factor – sin is all about satiating the appetite… well… dancing and singing, and making loud noise, and jumping up and down and getting excited also… satiate the appetites…

    So, in a way, praising and dancing before the Lord (like our forefather David) substitutes for sin.

    Very, very, very clever man David must have been; anointed and blessed – God must have put an incredible Spirit of discernment in our forefather King David.

    To conclude, I must agree though with that method of denunciation you mention in your last couple paragraphs Mr. Matthew.

    This article was an encouraging read.

  • DEEP

    This subject of Soul
    Ties is totally unbiblical and never once mentioned in the Bible. Our souls can
    never be tied with another persons soul. The bible makes it clear in

    Gen 2:24 Therefore shall a man leave his father and his mother, and
    shall cleave unto his wife: and they shall be one flesh.(KJV)

    In Jesus own words Mat 19:5 also says: For this cause
    shall a man leave father and mother, and shall cleave to his wife: and they
    twain shall be one flesh (KJV)

    Paul writes in 1Co_6:16 what? know ye not that he which is joined to
    an harlot is one body? for two, saith he, shall be one flesh.(KJV)

    As you can see these scriptures tell us that through physical intimacy Fleshly Ties are created and not soul ties let alone soul ties being created with material things, that is so bizarre. If Soul Ties are created and souls are fused together through
    sexual intimacy then the soul of an unbeliever; who joins himself or herself to
    a believer is saved (this would be real good news for America), this can also
    mean that an unbelieving husband or an unbelieving wife who is joined to their
    believing spouse is also saved?

    This kind of teaching has no basis and is not sound doctrine, in-fact it brings condemnation in the spiritual lives of naïve Christians.

    When Christ died he died for our past sins
    Rom 3:25 Whom God hath set forth to be a propitiation through faith in his
    blood, to declare his righteousness for the remission of sins that are past,
    through the forbearance of God;(KJV).

    The writer of this
    article has taken a concept from others without even studying it for himself.

    Readers beware.

    • http://www.pastorpriji.com/ Priji

      Hi Friend,

      Soul ties is not unbiblical.
      1 Samuel 18:1
      “And it came to pass, when he had made an end of speaking unto Saul, that the soul of Jonathan was knit with the soul of David, and Jonathan loved him as his own soul.”
      Soul ties are not always bad, but there are bad kind of soul ties, which can become a bondage.
      Soul ties are not always caused as a result of a sexual relationship, it can be formed without sexual involvement as well.
      However we do agree with you in saying that, because a person is saved, the other person he is knit in his soul do not get saved automatically. This is the case between parents and children, husbands and wives, who have a deep bonding between each other, but the salvation of either is not enough for the other.
      Hope that clears your doubts on our standpoint on this subject.

      Blessings.

  • DEEP

    This subject of Soul
    Ties is totally unbiblical and never once mentioned in the Bible. Our souls can
    never be tied with another persons soul. The bible makes it clear in

    Gen 2:24 Therefore shall a man leave his father and his mother, and
    shall cleave unto his wife: and they shall be one flesh.(KJV)

    In Jesus own words Mat 19:5 also says: For this cause
    shall a man leave father and mother, and shall cleave to his wife: and they
    twain shall be one flesh (KJV)

    Paul writes in 1Co_6:16 what? know ye not that he which is joined to
    an harlot is one body? for two, saith he, shall be one flesh.(KJV)

    As you can see these scriptures tell us that through physical intimacy Fleshly Ties are created and not soul ties let alone soul ties being created with material things, that is so bizarre. If Soul Ties are created and souls are fused together through
    sexual intimacy then the soul of an unbeliever; who joins himself or herself to
    a believer is saved (this would be real good news for America), this can also
    mean that an unbelieving husband or an unbelieving wife who is joined to their
    believing spouse is also saved?

    This kind of teaching has no basis and is not sound doctrine, in-fact it brings condemnation in the spiritual lives of naïve Christians.

    When Christ died he died for our past sins
    Rom 3:25 Whom God hath set forth to be a propitiation through faith in his
    blood, to declare his righteousness for the remission of sins that are past,
    through the forbearance of God;(KJV).

    The writer of this
    article has taken a concept from others without even studying it for himself.

    Readers beware.

    • http://www.pastorpriji.com/ Priji

      Hi Friend,

      Soul ties is not unbiblical.
      1 Samuel 18:1
      “And it came to pass, when he had made an end of speaking unto Saul, that the soul of Jonathan was knit with the soul of David, and Jonathan loved him as his own soul.”
      Soul ties are not always bad, but there are bad kind of soul ties, which can become a bondage.
      Soul ties are not always caused as a result of a sexual relationship, it can be formed without sexual involvement as well.
      However we do agree with you in saying that, because a person is saved, the other person he is knit in his soul do not get saved automatically. This is the case between parents and children, husbands and wives, who have a deep bonding between each other, but the salvation of either is not enough for the other.
      Hope that clears your doubts on our standpoint on this subject.

      Blessings.

  • Suzy

    Hi,

    Im not sure if i am able to post my comments here now, but i would like just to seek some advise. I’ve developed an unhealthy soul tie relationship with my colleague sadly, but have repented and seek forgiveness through the help of my church sisters. However, i am unable at times to move on from this, it is still affecting me mentally and physically. Its a complicated issue btw me and my colleague and i wonder if quitting the job is the last resort? Or isit advisable i go for professional christian counseling? Thanks

  • Suzy

    Hi,

    Im not sure if i am able to post my comments here now, but i would like just to seek some advise. I’ve developed an unhealthy soul tie relationship with my colleague sadly, but have repented and seek forgiveness through the help of my church sisters. However, i am unable at times to move on from this, it is still affecting me mentally and physically. Its a complicated issue btw me and my colleague and i wonder if quitting the job is the last resort? Or isit advisable i go for professional christian counseling? Thanks

  • tony

    what power might the enemy or en other person have over you if your sole tie is mad by idling some one or by pornography

    • http://www.pastorpriji.com/ Priji

      Hi Tony,
      The enemy can limit your productivity and even ultimately kill your destiny if you continue to remain slave to that particular thing or person. Hence best to receive healing and deliverance from God for the same.

  • tony

    what power might the enemy or en other person have over you if your sole tie is mad by idling some one or by pornography

    • http://www.pastorpriji.com/ Priji

      Hi Tony,
      The enemy can limit your productivity and even ultimately kill your destiny if you continue to remain slave to that particular thing or person. Hence best to receive healing and deliverance from God for the same.

  • Mark

    I have a friend from the opposite sex and we spend a lot of time together some times everyday. I am a single man who is a believer and she is a single mom who is a believer too,. After reading this article, its opened my eyes to what Ive done wrong. We haven’t gotten physical because we are friends. I do want a relationship with her but she says she isn’t ready. I help her do things, giver her rides, watch her kids sometimes. We pray and sometimes worship together alone in her house. These things make me want a relationship with her more and I have to fight off temptation of the flesh constantly. I really miss her when we are away from each other like boyfriend/girlfriend. I sometimes get jealous when she texts or talks to other guys who are her “friends” She thinks its ok for Christian guys and girls to hang out and to ride in cars alone. I want to do the right thing for the Lord but I don’t know how to tell her that we are creating emotional soul ties and we cant do that but Im praying and hoping that one day we could be a couple in the future, I don’t want to lose my chances of that but can someone please help me and give advise?

    • http://www.pastorpriji.com/ Priji

      Hi Mark, thanks for opening up and sharing the same with us. Few things you should know before proceeding further:
      1. Being in a relationship, and getting married to anybody outside of God’s will is very dangerous, and not advisable. So pray and hear from the Lord if this is His will for you to get married to this person.
      2. If it’s God’s will for you to be married to this person, wait till God brings her heart also in alignment with what you believe. Kill every iota of jealousy and possessiveness you might have during this waiting period.
      3. Either ways spending lone time with a person of the opposite gender before marriage is a very risky affair. You have to get out of it at the danger losing your friendship with her.
      4. Find godly female friends for her who can be a source of friendship, fellowship and counsel in your stead.
      Hope that helps! Prayers for you Mark

  • Mark

    I have a friend from the opposite sex and we spend a lot of time together some times everyday. I am a single man who is a believer and she is a single mom who is a believer too,. After reading this article, its opened my eyes to what Ive done wrong. We haven’t gotten physical because we are friends. I do want a relationship with her but she says she isn’t ready. I help her do things, giver her rides, watch her kids sometimes. We pray and sometimes worship together alone in her house. These things make me want a relationship with her more and I have to fight off temptation of the flesh constantly. I really miss her when we are away from each other like boyfriend/girlfriend. I sometimes get jealous when she texts or talks to other guys who are her “friends” She thinks its ok for Christian guys and girls to hang out and to ride in cars alone. I want to do the right thing for the Lord but I don’t know how to tell her that we are creating emotional soul ties and we cant do that but Im praying and hoping that one day we could be a couple in the future, I don’t want to lose my chances of that but can someone please help me and give advise?

    • http://www.pastorpriji.com/ Priji

      Hi Mark, thanks for opening up and sharing the same with us. Few things you should know before proceeding further:
      1. Being in a relationship, and getting married to anybody outside of God’s will is very dangerous, and not advisable. So pray and hear from the Lord if this is His will for you to get married to this person.
      2. If it’s God’s will for you to be married to this person, wait till God brings her heart also in alignment with what you believe. Kill every iota of jealousy and possessiveness you might have during this waiting period.
      3. Either ways spending lone time with a person of the opposite gender before marriage is a very risky affair. You have to get out of it at the danger losing your friendship with her.
      4. Find godly female friends for her who can be a source of friendship, fellowship and counsel in your stead.
      Hope that helps! Prayers for you Mark

  • Mark

    How do you stay friends with the opposite sex and not create soul ties?

  • Mark

    How do you stay friends with the opposite sex and not create soul ties?

  • soul-tie or not?

    i have been in a relationship with a guy for almost 9 years now. he is not a christian but my family and i are. my pastor, a pastor from India and my aunt has told me that he is not the right guy for me. i have got 3 confirmations from 3 different people but i cant seem to be able to let go of this relationship on my own. And now I feel it might be a soul tie tat i might have developed due to my overwhelming love for him. i keep praying that God will take him away from my life if we are not meant to be, because i really can’t ask him to leave me as the only sign of soul tie is that I love him more than i should while he has been so kind and loving towards me. is it wrong? i really need help, please advise me.

  • jbm

    So very true and something I try to be very careful about as a single woman.

    There have been times when I have needed to speak with my pastors about something. Recently I was emailing one about something I had witnessed in another church. I needed advice on scriptures, etc. Anyhow, we had a back and forth conversation for a week about it. It was very chaste and strictly about pertinent scriptures, whether that was of the Lord, etc. But thinking about it, I realized that it could make his wife uncomfortable that we were emailing. {shrug} I know that there was nothing there, but someone might think so. It is just better to keep some distance.

    I also truly believe that it should never be male/female counseling one on one. I know of several occasions when it has led to something – whether an emotional or even a physical affair.

    I appreciate my pastors who are always very careful not to be alone with females. Whether they have their wives present, or the office door remains open at all times. Why take the risk.

    The time to think about what to do about temptation is not in that moment, it is beforehand that you should work out how to avoid/prevent that temptation from occurring.

    Anyhow, I came to this blog because I was looking for more information on breaking soul ties. I will post this problem separately.

  • http://www.shyjumathew.com/ Shyju Mathew

    On the dot.

  • Guest

    God is good.

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