Overstepping Sexual Boundaries

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The Bangalore Times reported on a survey concerning sexual relations: “If a recent survey is to be believed, Bangalore is the place for casual sex.” Another survey report in the Times of India highlighted the approximate percentage of casual relationships throughout India. A few of those findings are as follows: Mumbai: 54.4, Delhi: 40.6, Goa: 39.7, Kolkata: 27.1, Bangalore: 25.7, Pune 19.2, Chennai: 6.4 

I am certain that this situation (whether exposed or not) is the same for other cities and places around the world.

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According to researchers, the rise in promiscuity has been attributed to changing lifestyles, excess of free time, spur of the moment desires; and the influence of alcohol and substance abuse have been identified as key factors.

The thrill of anonymity and the freedom of no strings attached, coupled with the empty pride of multiple affairs are all central to this epidemic that the enemy has unleashed to deceive generations.

So why on earth are such immoral practices on the rise without proper intervention? Here are a few thoughts that I want to take you along:

Taboo no more:

Gone are the days when “sex” was considered as a taboo word. Provocative images and messages bombard us on all fronts. Yet, many parents and elders continue to avoid discussions or even make mention of the word “sex” in front of their children. Shy? Tradition? Embarrassing?

Well, if we don’t confront this reality of crumbling moral values and rampant corruption, our generation will continue to be in grave danger.

Would it not be more appropriate for parents to have conversations with their children and take the opportunity to direct them in the correct path rather than to throw away this responsibility into the hands of peers who can potentially lead them astray?

Parents; it is critical that you establish open lines of communication with your children so that they can understand what is expected of them. They can only “know better” if you communicate the expectations.

Blame Game:

Cultural invasion?
Peer pressure?
We really do need to stop playing the blame game.

Sin did not originate in western culture or in Hollywood for that matter. It goes back to Adam’s time, and it’s been on earth ever since.

But the only difference is that with the use of media and technology, sin is more amplified and bolder for all to access easily as they please.

Is there a Solution?

Yes, my friend; the Bible is the only solution! When the world around us is getting more and more perverse, that is when we must run to God with more fervency.

As Paul said, we must die daily to every desire that is not from God. In other words, we must put our sinful desires to death daily so that it does not overcome us. Let us continue to flee from temptations.

Pursue God with all your heart (2 Tim. 2:22). The Holy Spirit, our Helper, is with us and His grace is sufficient for us. Depend on Him and He will direct your path.

Read other related posts:

Red Hot Temptation
Dangers of Soul Ties
Dealing with the Root Problem
Real Temptation & Real Answer (Video)
Have you taken the Small Bite

Have you noticed such pressures in your culture?
Do you face the pressure for casual relationships in your environment?
How has the Lord helped you to withstand these pressures?
Any lessons learned to share?

 

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  • Govind P.

    Good topic to bring to the surface man.His light will bring redemption to everything that is pure even though the enemy has perverted it.Sex was god’s idea and a good idea .Time to get educated, what it looks like within HIS boundaries so that future generations have an inheritance !

    For those more interested i’d like to recommend a book .

    The following book has made an impact even on the secular-television dating program !
    http://www.amazon.com/Sexual-Revolution-Kris-Vallotton/dp/0768431409
    Description:
    The world is ready for another sexual revolution! People worldwide are crying out for a sexual revolution! Counter to the sexual revolution of the 1960s, this revolution values virginity and honors marriage. This revolution sees perversion as sin not an acceptable post-modern mindset. Young adults, teens, fathers, mothers, and grandparents want to shake off the slime of depravity and the bondage of religion, and enter into the joy of passionate purity. This book takes a non-religious, gut-honest, fresh look at a subject as old as Adam and Eve.The wisdom within helps you and those you love emerge from the mire with your trophy of purity intact so you can present it to your lover on your honeymoon. While some nations seem to live in a perpetual orgy, and religion relegates the masses to sexual prison, people need to know they can overcome the power of peer pressure and push back the cesspool of distorted cultural values.You can take a vow of Purity today you will never regret the decision!

    • http://www.shyjumathew.com Shyju Mathew

      “Sex was god’s idea and a good idea .Time to get educated, what it looks like within HIS boundaries so that future generations have an inheritance!” / WORD! 
      Thanks for the recommendation of the book too! 

    • http://www.shyjumathew.com Shyju Mathew

      “Sex was god’s idea and a good idea .Time to get educated, what it looks like within HIS boundaries so that future generations have an inheritance!” / WORD! 
      Thanks for the recommendation of the book too! 

  • Guest

    Good topic to bring to the surface man.His light will bring redemption to everything that is pure even though the enemy has perverted it.Sex was god’s idea and a good idea .Time to get educated, what it looks like within HIS boundaries so that future generations have an inheritance !

    For those more interested i’d like to recommend a book .

    The following book has made an impact even on the secular-television dating program !
    http://www.amazon.com/Sexual-Revolution-Kris-Vallotton/dp/0768431409
    Description:
    The world is ready for another sexual revolution! People worldwide are crying out for a sexual revolution! Counter to the sexual revolution of the 1960s, this revolution values virginity and honors marriage. This revolution sees perversion as sin not an acceptable post-modern mindset. Young adults, teens, fathers, mothers, and grandparents want to shake off the slime of depravity and the bondage of religion, and enter into the joy of passionate purity. This book takes a non-religious, gut-honest, fresh look at a subject as old as Adam and Eve.The wisdom within helps you and those you love emerge from the mire with your trophy of purity intact so you can present it to your lover on your honeymoon. While some nations seem to live in a perpetual orgy, and religion relegates the masses to sexual prison, people need to know they can overcome the power of peer pressure and push back the cesspool of distorted cultural values.You can take a vow of Purity today you will never regret the decision!

    • http://www.shyjumathew.com/ Shyju Mathew

      “Sex was god’s idea and a good idea .Time to get educated, what it looks like within HIS boundaries so that future generations have an inheritance!” / WORD! 
      Thanks for the recommendation of the book too! 

  • http://twitter.com/musiqchild007 Jherrel Peters

    I advise everyone to check out this movie entitled “Crazy Love”, it’s a direct sequel to the movie/documentary “The Finger of God”. It’ll bless your life.

    But yes, sexual promiscuity is on the rise and don’t even talk about the US. At least India is more conservative thank God for that! Vacationing here, I realize that you really have to have your spiritual blinders on because the THINGS people wear and the THINGS people do in public is ridiculous…easy to get caught up in the lifestyle too so I’m not one to be pointing fingers at all.

    • http://www.shyjumathew.com Shyju Mathew

      How has Trinidad been?

    • http://www.shyjumathew.com Shyju Mathew

      How has Trinidad been?

      • http://twitter.com/musiqchild007 Jherrel Peters

        We’re trying to emulate what is going on in the US so it’s on the rise…it’s getting worse and worse and the promiscuity is starting from YOUNG. Not good at all…America has THE largest influence on the world and Trinidad is no exception. Now it seems as though you’re ‘pious’ and a ‘prude’ for keeping yourself sexually pure.

  • http://twitter.com/musiqchild007 Jherrel Peters

    I advise everyone to check out this movie entitled “Crazy Love”, it’s a direct sequel to the movie/documentary “The Finger of God”. It’ll bless your life.

    But yes, sexual promiscuity is on the rise and don’t even talk about the US. At least India is more conservative thank God for that! Vacationing here, I realize that you really have to have your spiritual blinders on because the THINGS people wear and the THINGS people do in public is ridiculous…easy to get caught up in the lifestyle too so I’m not one to be pointing fingers at all.

    • http://www.shyjumathew.com/ Shyju Mathew

      How has Trinidad been?

      • http://twitter.com/musiqchild007 Jherrel Peters

        We’re trying to emulate what is going on in the US so it’s on the rise…it’s getting worse and worse and the promiscuity is starting from YOUNG. Not good at all…America has THE largest influence on the world and Trinidad is no exception. Now it seems as though you’re ‘pious’ and a ‘prude’ for keeping yourself sexually pure.

  • Bernadine Wicket

    I am glad you came up with this post.  Due to our conservative Indian culture, this topic is the least preached about from the pulpit.

    Everyone right from teens to people in their mid-sixties are some time or the other tempted in this area, which the enemy brings in a very attractive package.

    David accidentally saw Bethsheba bathing while he was walking on his terrace,  Looking once is not a sin, but looking the second time becomes sin.  If only David had not looked the second time.

    As the Bible says: flee and don’t make yourself vulnerable.  I always advise my teenage daughter and her friends to always go out in a group, avoid being alone with someone, as it is very easy to fall.  When confronted by the enemy, use the sword of the spirit and say get thee behind me.  It is good to have a prayer partner who can constantly pray with you and keep a watchful eye on you and vice versa.

    As you have rightly concluded, the Holy Spirit is our Helper and His grace is sufficient for us.

    • http://www.shyjumathew.com Shyju Mathew

      least? or not at all may be. I am sure our generation is changing. Some have become bold. I hope this post could be a start to some. 

  • Bernadine Wicket

    I am glad you came up with this post.  Due to our conservative Indian culture, this topic is the least preached about from the pulpit.

    Everyone right from teens to people in their mid-sixties are some time or the other tempted in this area, which the enemy brings in a very attractive package.

    David accidentally saw Bethsheba bathing while he was walking on his terrace,  Looking once is not a sin, but looking the second time becomes sin.  If only David had not looked the second time.

    As the Bible says: flee and don’t make yourself vulnerable.  I always advise my teenage daughter and her friends to always go out in a group, avoid being alone with someone, as it is very easy to fall.  When confronted by the enemy, use the sword of the spirit and say get thee behind me.  It is good to have a prayer partner who can constantly pray with you and keep a watchful eye on you and vice versa.

    As you have rightly concluded, the Holy Spirit is our Helper and His grace is sufficient for us.

    • http://www.shyjumathew.com/ Shyju Mathew

      least? or not at all may be. I am sure our generation is changing. Some have become bold. I hope this post could be a start to some. 

  • Preethi

    Thank God this topic has surfaced up in a world where nobody dares to touch on that issue.  But everybody are falling coz of it.  It would be good if even the church sheds light on these kind of topics so that we will know to GUARD OUR HEART AND OURSELVES.

    • http://www.shyjumathew.com Shyju Mathew

      I agree. It might be a huge leap of a difference and it might upset some people too but it would be a worth every bit of the risk. 

  • Preethi

    Thank God this topic has surfaced up in a world where nobody dares to touch on that issue.  But everybody are falling coz of it.  It would be good if even the church sheds light on these kind of topics so that we will know to GUARD OUR HEART AND OURSELVES.

    • http://www.shyjumathew.com/ Shyju Mathew

      I agree. It might be a huge leap of a difference and it might upset some people too but it would be a worth every bit of the risk. 

  • Jency

    Thanks! Bless you…..

  • Jency

    Thanks! Bless you…..

  • Samjuls82

    great stuff

    • http://www.shyjumathew.com/blog Shyju Mathew

      Thanks brother.

  • Samjuls82

    great stuff

    • http://www.shyjumathew.com/ Shyju Mathew

      Thanks brother.

  • Shelly Dobek

    I am glad to read your articles and I praise God for the Word you declare!

    I wanted to share something I went through a while back.

    I have made a dear friend (a believer as well) of the opposite sex over the past two years. We are nothing more than friends, and I have come to respect him as a brother, fellow believer, even mentor in certain areas and I have been very comfortable just holding hands with him, or even giving him a hug without any evil intent.

    However, once at home, the television set was on and my friends were watching some kind of a music video which had emotional/intimate scenes and I chanced to see it as I was passing by the room. My mind was suddenly filled with lustful ideas and funny romantic notions regarding this friend of mine. I could not understand what provoked such a thing and I was worried about it and prayed Lord , please guard my heart! And then the thought went away.

    I was thinking that such things like television/ music/ magazines do contribute much to such thoughts and struggles in any persons life.. What do you think about it brother? 

    Did the visual stimulus provoke that or is it possible I already had an unnecessary desire in my heart for this friend? 

    • http://www.shyjumathew.com/blog Shyju Mathew

      Hi shelly,
      From the fall of man this is our nature.
      The heart is deceitful above all things, and desperately sick; who can understand it? Jer17:9 Therefore as a child of Jesus u have to put ur flesh to death everyday! & flee sin everyday. & pursue Jesus everyday!!! Don’t let guilt pull u deeper into sin. Truly repent & get back with God.
      On a side note, help this man of God be a man of God. Any physical touch always have the potential to lead to further sin. And avoid meeting in private. Fleeing sin is our duty then the Lord will give is the grace to overcome it.
      Hope this helps sister.

      • Shelly Dobek

        I am so glad to read your reply brother. I went through a terrible time of sin and I was sinking , at the thought of it! I am so glad to be encouraged to repent and get back with God! Amen!

        • http://www.shyjumathew.com/blog Shyju Mathew

          Wow, Thank you precious Jesus for your mercies over our lives! Jesus lives!

    • http://www.shyjumathew.com/blog Shyju Mathew

      Also to answer ur other question:

  • Shelly Dobek

    I am glad to read your articles and I praise God for the Word you declare!

    I wanted to share something I went through a while back.

    I have made a dear friend (a believer as well) of the opposite sex over the past two years. We are nothing more than friends, and I have come to respect him as a brother, fellow believer, even mentor in certain areas and I have been very comfortable just holding hands with him, or even giving him a hug without any evil intent.

    However, once at home, the television set was on and my friends were watching some kind of a music video which had emotional/intimate scenes and I chanced to see it as I was passing by the room. My mind was suddenly filled with lustful ideas and funny romantic notions regarding this friend of mine. I could not understand what provoked such a thing and I was worried about it and prayed Lord , please guard my heart! And then the thought went away.

    I was thinking that such things like television/ music/ magazines do contribute much to such thoughts and struggles in any persons life.. What do you think about it brother? 

    Did the visual stimulus provoke that or is it possible I already had an unnecessary desire in my heart for this friend? 

    • http://www.shyjumathew.com/ Shyju Mathew

      Hi shelly,
      From the fall of man this is our nature.
      The heart is deceitful above all things, and desperately sick; who can understand it? Jer17:9 Therefore as a child of Jesus u have to put ur flesh to death everyday! & flee sin everyday. & pursue Jesus everyday!!! Don’t let guilt pull u deeper into sin. Truly repent & get back with God.
      On a side note, help this man of God be a man of God. Any physical touch always have the potential to lead to further sin. And avoid meeting in private. Fleeing sin is our duty then the Lord will give is the grace to overcome it.
      Hope this helps sister.

      • Shelly Dobek

        I am so glad to read your reply brother. I went through a terrible time of sin and I was sinking , at the thought of it! I am so glad to be encouraged to repent and get back with God! Amen!

        • http://www.shyjumathew.com/ Shyju Mathew

          Wow, Thank you precious Jesus for your mercies over our lives! Jesus lives!

    • http://www.shyjumathew.com/ Shyju Mathew

      Also to answer ur other question:

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