The Big Trouble With Facebook – 10 Imp. Keys to Avoid It!

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According to a new study, led by sociologists Hui-Tzu Grace Chou and Nicholas Edge at Utah Valley University, U.S., the more time people spend time on social networking sites, like Facebook, the stronger their belief that others are happier than them. Researchers claim that carefully chosen pictures of cheerful faces, which Facebook users tend to upload on their profiles, actually portray a debilitating message to others.

Facebook like love image heart trouble pain

A few months ago, a young leader wrote to me asking for forgiveness. He said that he had been harbouring jealousy in his heart against me and that my Facebook pictures had caused him to feel that way towards our ministry.

I was both shocked and humbled at the same time with the courage of this young leader to address his heart issue and fight this epidemic, that is common around us, called jealousy.

We all may face this feeling from time to time; however, some choose not to recognize it and leave it to spread into a disease that kills with time. We must handle jealousy differently than the way the world handles it.

Jealousy causes us to:

  •         Compare
  •         Compete
  •         Dislike
  •         Hate
  •         Fight
  •         Slander
  •         Lie
  •         Avoid people
  •         Manipulate
  •         Hurt
  •         Degrade
  •         Look down
  •         Criticise
  •         Not appreciate

…what more would you add here? Have you been there? Ponder.

Wishing well as believers or as “good people,” we will then be tempted to run away from the individual, or in the Facebook world, cause us to “unfriend” or even delete your own account in disgust.

However, does that solve the issue? No! It only covers up your jealousy.

Instead, choose to fight this jealousy head on:

1. Each time jealousy tries to creep into your heart, make sure you appreciate the person (unlike how you would want to naturally).

2. No! Don’t close their album or hide their status. Instead, say a prayer of blessing in your heart and leave a genuine comment blessing them even further.

3. Stay away from listening to any gossip about them. Choose not to entertain hearing or speaking ill about your brother or sister.

4. Find opportunities to talk about the good you see in them.

5. See no good in them? Ask the Lord to help you see them through His gracious eyes. You will be shocked to see the good in them that was hidden from you before.

6. See evil in them? Give them the benefit of the doubt. (And remember you are not perfect either.)

7. Check your heart and locate the reason of the jealousy. Address the unhappiness. Talk about the problem or acknowledge it if that is all that can be done. Find the actual intention by digging deeper. Deal with it and guard your heart against future issues with others too.

8. If you have hurt feelings or something else about them is bothering you, write to them in their personal email or inbox (No; not on their wall. That’s cheap!)

9. Cast the spirit of jealousy out of you! Yes, do it yourself in the Name of Jesus. Get linked to the weapons of a believer.

10. Grow in the Word of God. When the Word of God becomes a part of you, sin will have no place in you!!!

Yes; this works, my friends. It has been working for me! Jesus reminds us to love our enemies and neighbours. That includes your friends and family.

Let us; therefore, continue to see others through the eyes of our Father as He says, “Do nothing from rivalry or conceit, but in humility count others more significant than yourselves.” (Phil 2:3).

Discuss: What do you think causes jealousy? How have you dealt with it? What do you struggle with the most?

 

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  • Sujju Prasad

    wow ! haha great enlightenment… a great   ” GUARD YOUR HEART ” pill  ! ! :) 

    • http://www.shyjumathew.com/ Shyju Mathew

      Thanks Sujju!

  • Anthony_bira

    Thnx  SHYJU  n GOD BLESS

    • http://twitter.com/ufff_yaar ★Indu Barla★

      Wow! awesome.. Superlike for this post! :)
      Being honest when i was in the 1st and 2nd year of my college i was going through these kind of problems.. but thanks to my brother cuz of him i started to pray more and my faith on Jesus grew more and more. Now it doesn’t effects me anymore m happy with what i have and who i am.
      All Praise to Jesus! Amen.

      • http://www.shyjumathew.com/blog Shyju Mathew

        That’s great to know Indu!! God bless ur heart!

        • http://twitter.com/ufff_yaar ★Indu Barla★

           Also many thanks to your blog… :)

        • FaithInGod (Nita)

          Good one.. God bless you and your family
          Wow That’s great .

      • FaithInGod (Nita)

        Amen sister.

  • Anthony_bira

    Thnx  SHYJU  n GOD BLESS

  • http://twitter.com/musiqchild007 Jherrel Peters

    I think we all have been there at some point of time in our walk with God, consciously or subconsciously. I dealt with it by confessing it to a friend who lovingly spoke and prayed with me. Jealousy is something that literally eats you up and you eventually harbor a hatred for that person. I read that whenever you’re jealous of a person it means that they are doing something that you have the capacity to do but you’re either too lazy or not committed to do it. I believe that statement is right because we honestly have NO REASON to be jealous when we look at the situation rationally. We’re all different (and thankfully so) and no matter how much I want your blessing, I can NEVER get it and no matter how much you want my blessing, you can never get it. Why? Because what is FOR me is FOR me. 

    :)

    • VirginiaPereira

       That is so true, Jherrel! Jealousy incapacitates you of feeling joy for others. In fact, it is a very subtle form of pride!

  • http://twitter.com/musiqchild007 Jherrel Peters

    I think we all have been there at some point of time in our walk with God, consciously or subconsciously. I dealt with it by confessing it to a friend who lovingly spoke and prayed with me. Jealousy is something that literally eats you up and you eventually harbor a hatred for that person. I read that whenever you’re jealous of a person it means that they are doing something that you have the capacity to do but you’re either too lazy or not committed to do it. I believe that statement is right because we honestly have NO REASON to be jealous when we look at the situation rationally. We’re all different (and thankfully so) and no matter how much I want your blessing, I can NEVER get it and no matter how much you want my blessing, you can never get it. Why? Because what is FOR me is FOR me. 

    :)

    • VirginiaPereira

       That is so true, Jherrel! Jealousy incapacitates you of feeling joy for others. In fact, it is a very subtle form of pride!

  • http://www.facebook.com/profile.php?id=800053345 Dani Oommen Chacko

    Good one.. God bless u

    • kimkumar

      Thanks for commenting Dani, God bless you too

  • http://www.facebook.com/profile.php?id=800053345 Dani Oommen Chacko

    Good one.. God bless u

    • http://www.olivedose.com/ Kim D’Souza

      Thanks for commenting Dani, God bless you too

  • Chethan Henry

    Beautiful Shyju! How we need honest and simple hearts before God and men! God help our generation to set a new standard!

    • VirginiaPereira

       Amen! Stay blessed, Chethan!

  • Chethan Henry

    Beautiful Shyju! How we need honest and simple hearts before God and men! God help our generation to set a new standard!

    • VirginiaPereira

       Amen! Stay blessed, Chethan!

  • Selvam Nadar

    Thanks brother………that was useful.God Bless You and increase you.

    • QRI_Musings

      Glad to hear Brother! Blessings!

  • Selvam Nadar

    Thanks brother………that was useful.God Bless You and increase you.

    • QRI_Musings

      Glad to hear Brother! Blessings!

  • divya

    its really wonderfu….. God spoke to me….. God is really speaking to me through all ur blogs brother……. so blessed in all…. thank u for this wonderful blog.. thank GOD
    keep writing more brother…. have a blessed life in Christ

  • divya

    its really wonderfu….. God spoke to me….. God is really speaking to me through all ur blogs brother……. so blessed in all…. thank u for this wonderful blog.. thank GOD
    keep writing more brother…. have a blessed life in Christ

  • Ajith Sen

    That was really insightful and good advice. God bless you & your ministry to be blessing to many more.

    • QRI_Musings

      Glory to God! Thank you for letting us know. God bless!

  • Ajith Sen

    That was really insightful and good advice. God bless you & your ministry to be blessing to many more.

    • QRI_Musings

      Glory to God! Thank you for letting us know. God bless!

  • http://twitter.com/ufff_yaar ★Indu★ (✿Bonnie✿)♪

    Wow! awesome.. Superlike for this post! :)
    Being honest when i was in the 1st and 2nd year of my college i was going through these kind of problems.. but thanks to my brother cuz of him i started to pray more and my faith on Jesus grew more and more. Now it doesn’t effects me anymore m happy with what i have and who i am.
    All Praise to Jesus! Amen.

    • http://www.shyjumathew.com/ Shyju Mathew

      That’s great to know Indu!! God bless ur heart!

      • http://twitter.com/ufff_yaar ★Indu★ (✿Bonnie✿)♪

         Also many thanks to your blog… :)

      • FaithInGod (Nita)

        Good one.. God bless you and your family
        Wow That’s great .

    • FaithInGod (Nita)

      Amen sister.

  • Felicia

    Awesome post!

    • QRI_Musings

      Praise God! Remain blessed!

  • Felicia

    Awesome post!

    • QRI_Musings

      Praise God! Remain blessed!

  • angel

    i really helped thanks bro

    • http://www.shyjumathew.com/blog Shyju Mathew

      Double glad!

      • Francis Fernandes

        I went through a similar experience where i was sooo annoyed with a friend that i deleted my Facebook account. It caused me a lot of pain and anger in my heart. I have started praying for my friend and lifting up in my daily prayers. It really helps when you forgive a person and pray for them..
        God bless you Shyju…

  • angel

    i really helped thanks bro

    • http://www.shyjumathew.com/ Shyju Mathew

      Double glad!

  • ATHIRA S raj

    this powerful study helped me a lot to wipe out every kind of jealous thoughts from my mind.thanks for this awesome post.

    • http://www.shyjumathew.com/ Shyju Mathew

      Happy to know that it helped. God bless u Athira.

  • ATHIRA S RAJ

    this powerful study helped me a lot to wipe out every kind of jealous thoughts from my mind.thank you shyju brother for this awesome post.

    • http://www.shyjumathew.com/ Shyju Mathew

      Happy to know that it helped. God bless u Athira.

  • Francis Fernandes

    I went through a similar experience where i was sooo annoyed with a friend that i deleted my Facebook account. It caused me a lot of pain and anger in my heart. I have started praying for my friend and lifting up in my daily prayers. It really helps when you forgive a person and pray for them..
    God bless you Shyju…

  • http://twitter.com/SujjuPrasad Sujju Prasad

    wow ! haha great enlightenment… a great   ” GUARD YOUR HEART ” pill  ! ! :) 

  • http://www.shyjumathew.com/blog Shyju Mathew

    Thanks Sujju!

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