6 Keys to Avoid Building Walls of Offence & FREE Overcoming Offence eBook!

Shyju Mathew

"Experience the Word of God, in the power of the Spirit."

September 5, 2014

This entry is part 4 of 4 in the series Overcoming Offence

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Building the Walls of Offence


There’s a scary verse in Proverbs about a brother who is offended. The Word of God says that he is more difficult to conquer than a city. (Proverbs 18:19).

Now this is scary for those who want to conquer! But it is more sad for the brother who has built a fort of offence around him. Further what he is doing is that he is burning all the bridges and cutting off the resources into the city.

And let’s not forget that it’s only a matter of time before the ones on his side in the city offend him too. And there he goes building more and more walls around him and finally he suffocates himself.

So, how do we avoid building the offense wall? Here are 6 keys to remember:

1. Human But Child of God

You are allowed to be hurt but never carry the offence! [tweet this] Can you see how dreadful it is to carry offence in our hearts? Carrying offence is more imprisoning than getting offended in the first place.

2. Realign Your Expectations

The more unrealistic your expectations are of human capacity to love, the more you will be hurt. Humans err. To love someone for who they are than what they do for you, is to love them with their flaws. [tweet this]

3. Stay Grounded

Whether it be your partner, family, friend, remember how weak they are and how even Jesus would not buy into their praises. Because Jesus knew what was in them.

If you won’t let their praises get to your head, you wont let their criticism get to your heart. Knowing who you are in Christ gives you the grace to rise above words, and deeds of puny humans.

4. Forgive Because You Need Forgiveness First

You can hold their forgiveness back if you don’t need it yourself. [tweet this] Everyone needs forgiveness. And in buckets and tons of it! As Jesus shows through the parable to the wicked servant, “You wicked servant! I forgave you all that debt because you pleaded with me. And should not you have had mercy on your fellow servant, as I had mercy on you?” Matt 18:32,33

Every time you deny mercy to someone, you deny yourself mercy from God. [tweet this] God blesses those who are merciful, for they will be shown mercy. (Matthew 5:7)

5. Love, Because That’s Only How They’ll See Jesus

Peter who denied Jesus thrice was not only forgiven but was pursued in love by Jesus (Read John chapter 21).

Do you forgive your offenders? Let’s not forget Jesus said love your enemies, not just forgive. So do you love them? Do you pursue them with your unconditional love? That’s what Jesus would do for us irrespective of the million times we’ve been unfaithful to Him.

The world has the easiest access to the Word of God foremost through our life. We are His Word, we are called to be the light.

When you love unconditionally and are patient, forgiving, humble, and prayerful then others will see Jesus through you. Every hurt hurled at you is a God given opportunity to reveal Jesus to them through your life.

6. Be the Healing Balm

Most of the times when people are offensive and seem like logger heads, it’s just revealing their lack and need for love in their heart.

Hurting people hurt. Whereas love heals. The love of Jesus through your life is powerful enough to transform the most depraved of all people.

Would you commit today to unconditionally pursue with the love of Christ for the sake of Christ. This is your ministry. Whether there is an outcome or not is secondary. Your faithfulness to God in being the hand of God in other’s lives will bring healing to their hearts.

Today choose to renew your mind. Most importantly let us rise!

I hope this evergreen series have opened your eyes to how weak we are when we allow offence to take us down (And I promise you will need to come back to this series time and time again).

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