7 Dangers of Pleasing People Around You

Shyju Mathew

"Experience the Word of God, in the power of the Spirit."

June 20, 2013

Nobody likes to be misunderstood. Nobody likes to be rejected. You wouldn’t either.

But the truth is that you will be misunderstood and you will be rejected. It’s a sad part of life.

However, it doesn’t become so sad when you understand how you can overcome that.


Many a times we try to please people not because we want to, but because we are afraid they will reject us.

The key to overcoming the fear of man’s rejection is to remember that you are unconditionally accepted by God. [ClickToTweet]

Here are a few reminders that would help you overcome the desire to please man.

1. Pleasing People Causes You to Be Not You!

Every time you want to please someone you are trying to be what they want you to be, and not your real self. This is a failure because you can never succeed in being anyone else other than you. [ClickToTweet]

2. Pleasing People Causes You to Over-Perform

The problem with overdoing things is that you end up doing what is not needed. Anytime you run beyond what is required, you are a wasted resource. [ClickToTweet]

3. Pleasing People Causes You to Strive In Your Flesh

To please people would mean to do what they want more than what God wants from you. And anytime you do anything other than what God wants from you, you strive in your own strength, [ClickToTweet] which is surely bound to fail.

4. Pleasing People Sets You Up for More Hurt

Because when you try to please people, you do something to be accepted, and not necessarily what you want to or believe in. This only sets you up for more hurt every time you fail. Thus by trying to please people, you are setting yourself in a trap and cycle of rejection. [ClickToTweet]

5. Pleasing People Causes God to Pause

God is not obliged to please any man. Every time you are busy trying to work your way up through to what you think is the right person, then you are indirectly asking God to take a back seat. Love people but obey God. [ClickToTweet]

6. Pleasing People Slows You Down

Because you are caught in the endless cycle of trying to make someone else happy. Believe me when I say people are never satisfied with what you give them. They always want more. In trying to keep them happy, you end up forgetting your goal.

7. Pleasing People Causes You to Burn Out

Many people don’t understand why they are so bitter and angry. The fact is that they have lived all their life trying to make others happy and when they still failed, all they ended up doing was going around slandering and being bitter.

Quit pleasing people who live their unfulfilled dreams through your life. [ClickToTweet]

Do everyone a favour. Quit giving them hopes to live life through you. It’s never late. Stop now before you burn out trying to live on somebody else’s oxygen of acceptance, quit now.

Love People. But live to please God alone. [ClickToTweet]


Here is a picture I shot in Malaysia, which I captioned (http://instagram.com/p/auSYbFBcju/)

They’ll like you if they want’ or ‘hate you if they like’ but nothing’s gonna change you, from being you- accept yourself.

All that matters is God’s heart, mind & feet. Pursue God today. Selah

Have you tried pleasing people? How have you failed? What have you learnt? Please share with the GTH community below.