Masturbation – What Does the Bible Say?

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[French Translation] For me, the word was barely mentioned around me before. I had never heard of it till, very unexpected, some of my peers decided that I needed to be educated about it. But believe me, the knowledge was totally distorted.

masturbation

This leads me to wonder, do our children have to hear of basic truths of life and procreation from someone reliable or through any stranger who might sow seeds of perversion?

The huge topic of debate: Is masturbation wrong? Is it wrong since God created that urge? Is it wrong since it is a body function? Science may have many things to say. But let’s look at it from God’s point of view.

What Thinkest Thou?

If you read the last post in the series about porn, you likely know the answer to this post too. What you feed your body through your eyes will cause you to express emotions and feelings associated with it. Someone said, “There is no way anyone can masturbate thinking of a truck or a car.” which leads to the question, What causes the emotions and what thoughts do we entertain during this action?

If you are not married, you are certainly not thinking of your partner. And to think of anyone else other than your spouse is adultery. Remember what Bible says in Matthew 5: 28, “But I say to you that everyone who looks at a woman with lustful intent has already committed adultery with her in his heart.” These are the words of Jesus. Lustful thoughts are equal to committing adultery.

If so, then the fact is that sin distances us from God. How does God want us to come to Him? See Hebrews 4:16, “So let us come boldly to the throne of our gracious God. There we will receive His mercy, and we will find grace to help us when we need it most.” Sin takes away our confidence to walk to and with God in confidence.

What Believeth Thou?

If we have been disobeying God in this area then it is because we have failed to believe God will deliver us from being addicted to masturbation. Remember, what Christ did on the cross has the complete and sovereign power to put to death every sin in our lives! Jesus calls us more than conquerors and therefore through Christ we can do all things!

Begin today by going to God with faith over those areas that you are believing for a deliverance. And don’t be disappointed because I assure you temptation will knock at your door every day! And therefore a successful Christian is not who does not sin but someone who goes to God every single day to receive fresh mercies to rise and walk with Jesus!

Being the Good Steward

Remember, sin elevated our carnal desires instead of godly desires. What God created for good and great pleasure in marriage, the enemy manipulates it for evil. As the scripture mentions in 1 Corinthians 6:12, Do not let anything enslave or master you. 1 Corinthians 6:15 reminds us how we should not defile our body, as our body is the temple of the Holy Spirit.

Flee from sexual immorality. Every other sin a person commits is outside the body, but the sexually immoral person sins against his own body. Or do you not know that your body is a temple of the Holy Spirit within you, whom you have from God? You are not your own, for you were bought with a price. So glorify God in your body.” 1 Corinthians 6: 18-20

I conclude by saying, begin today to seek the Lord’s help to walk with Him and yes, He will help you overcome every area of sin in your life, yes even from being a slave to masturbation.

Discuss: Jump in, discuss with each other your thoughts, doubts, questions, even arguments are welcome as long as you do it respectfully.

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  • Friend

    I dont know if I’m being naive or not, but I believe it is possible to masturbate without sinning. I also know from the experience of a friend that trying to be holy and not masturbating led to worse sin due to unreleased tension. He went for years not falling into sin, but soon after stopping masturbation he fell. Do not taste, do not touch has no value in restraining sensual desire.. to masturbate can obviously be used in a wrong way to feed lust but isnt it possible to simply release built up sexual tension using self control to stop lustful thoughts? Shouldnt this be considered as a possible way out that the Lord provides? To leave people with no outlet in this sex saturated environment leads to young people leading double lives in shame and guilt… that’s what I’ve observed. Just my initial thoughts – would value your feedback. Thanks for tackling this important topic by the way. The whole series is great.

    • http://www.shyjumathew.com/blog Shyju Mathew

      Hey friend, thanks for the thought and respectful argument. I’ve heard this thought before. My question do you really think you can masturbate without lust? What would you be thinking of instead then?

      • Friend

        Well maybe I am strange but I can remember in the past just getting rid of the uncomfortable feeling – not thinking of sex with another person at all. It hasn’t been an issue for years but that is my recollection.

        • http://www.shyjumathew.com/blog Shyju Mathew

          So do you feel any percentage of guilt after the action? Actually don’t know what to say as in biologically if its possible to be involved in that action without sensual thoughts.

          • Friend

            Been away for a few days and see there has been quite a lot of discussion which is great.
            I am obviously in a minority – I definitely do not need to think about someone – it is purely a physical release. No guilt except to ask the Lord is this ok as many say it’s not – based on the fact it is solitary action rather than with marriage partner. There was always a good reason (temporary separation due to illness) and in the end never felt convicted of sin. Never felt tempted to do more often than rarely – unlike what you quoted from some study or other I think it is psychologically unsatisfying.Based on my personal experience, and on that of others I have known, I am quite wary of a closed minded approach to this. Your experience is completely different to mine, therefore it is not universal.. Masturbation without lust is possible, even if it turns out to be rare.I can imagine a married person having a lot of unnecessary stress while absent from home if they believed it was always wrong. Many people have not got the opportunity to marry and to have that tension build up with no release allowed seems cruel if it is true that masturbation without lust is possible and can be achieved.
            Quote: “it is more than just a biological need, it is an action roused through one’s imagination or desire which gives birth to sin” This is lumping all the behaviour into one category, but I elieve just as in married sex there can be a variety of motivations – some pure and some not – the same can occur with masturbation. Sin is in the heart and it just doesnt line up with my experience to say all masturbation results from lustful imagination.

          • Neeru

            ptl i m so happy dat God has put in ur heart 2 share all dis sins. i just want 2 know who r for masturbate. God knows everything wat man ll go through. He s a perfect God. if it s right to masturbate He would have written in His word. GOD BLESS U Shyju!!!

          • http://www.shyjumathew.com/blog Shyju Mathew

            God bless u too Neeru. Welcome to GTH!

  • Friend

    I dont know if I’m being naive or not, but I believe it is possible to masturbate without sinning. I also know from the experience of a friend that trying to be holy and not masturbating led to worse sin due to unreleased tension. He went for years not falling into sin, but soon after stopping masturbation he fell. Do not taste, do not touch has no value in restraining sensual desire.. to masturbate can obviously be used in a wrong way to feed lust but isnt it possible to simply release built up sexual tension using self control to stop lustful thoughts? Shouldnt this be considered as a possible way out that the Lord provides? To leave people with no outlet in this sex saturated environment leads to young people leading double lives in shame and guilt… that’s what I’ve observed. Just my initial thoughts – would value your feedback. Thanks for tackling this important topic by the way. The whole series is great.

    • http://www.shyjumathew.com/ Shyju Mathew

      Hey friend, thanks for the thought and respectful argument. I’ve heard this thought before. My question do you really think you can masturbate without lust? What would you be thinking of instead then?

      • Friend

        Well maybe I am strange but I can remember in the past just getting rid of the uncomfortable feeling – not thinking of sex with another person at all. It hasn’t been an issue for years but that is my recollection.

        • http://www.shyjumathew.com/ Shyju Mathew

          So do you feel any percentage of guilt after the action? Actually don’t know what to say as in biologically if its possible to be involved in that action without sensual thoughts.

          • Friend

            Been away for a few days and see there has been quite a lot of discussion which is great.
            I am obviously in a minority – I definitely do not need to think about someone – it is purely a physical release. No guilt except to ask the Lord is this ok as many say it’s not – based on the fact it is solitary action rather than with marriage partner. There was always a good reason (temporary separation due to illness) and in the end never felt convicted of sin. Never felt tempted to do more often than rarely – unlike what you quoted from some study or other I think it is psychologically unsatisfying.Based on my personal experience, and on that of others I have known, I am quite wary of a closed minded approach to this. Your experience is completely different to mine, therefore it is not universal.. Masturbation without lust is possible, even if it turns out to be rare.I can imagine a married person having a lot of unnecessary stress while absent from home if they believed it was always wrong. Many people have not got the opportunity to marry and to have that tension build up with no release allowed seems cruel if it is true that masturbation without lust is possible and can be achieved.
            Quote: “it is more than just a biological need, it is an action roused through one’s imagination or desire which gives birth to sin” This is lumping all the behaviour into one category, but I elieve just as in married sex there can be a variety of motivations – some pure and some not – the same can occur with masturbation. Sin is in the heart and it just doesnt line up with my experience to say all masturbation results from lustful imagination.

  • A Mom…

    Hey, I was waiting for someone Christian to talk about this topic cz I did have a lot of questions concerning this too ( as a part of Christian learning )..
    1. You said ,”If you are not married, you are certainly not thinking of your partner. And to think of anyone else other than your spouse is adultery. ”
    Is it ok for a married person to masturbate thinking of his spouse who has been away or for other reasons?
    2. Most people advocate on the fact that it is a biological need of a man to masturbate?Do you clearly believe that the onset of even trying to masturbate is due to some kind of input (visual or imagination – i guess even imaginations come from what a person has been exposed too rt?)
    3.I do believe for sure that it is a sin , how do you suppose we could protect and talk about it to our kids? what age ?
    4, Are females and males equal victims of it?

    • http://www.shyjumathew.com/blog Shyju Mathew

      1. I once heard Pst. Mark Discroll who quite frequently engages in these topics to serve his predominately youth crowd saying its fine to masturbate thinking of your spouse that is away than any other women. Question would be is it lustful to think of your spouse that way? Some argue that it is wrong because it is making your spouse an object for sex instead of a person. I wonder if someone can come to that conclusion as in if your appetite is not for your spouse then something is wrong. What makes it an object is when love is absent. In an instance when the spouse is not physically able to make love or vice versa then I see no instance why it’s wrong as it still involves just the two in thoughts and heart. Again, if someone does feel convicted it’s wrong then they should strictly follow their conviction.
      2. I agree with the second statement that it is more than just a biological need, it is an action roused through one’s imagination or desire which gives birth to sin.
      3. Age of the kid is certainly depends on the level of exposure your child has. Some parents have no relationship with the child that they have no clue of what the child is exposed to. It helps having very open talks about how much your child knows and what kind of thoughts they entertain due to the exposure they have. It’s always best to open up before their friends decide to coach them.
      4. Yes.
      P.S – still learning…

      • ElizabethMathew

        This answers my questions too .. :)

      • A mom

        Hmmm..just a thought to share in response to all the other comments advocating that Masturbating is a biological need : As a therapist of handicap children, i would like to point out that severely handicap boys do not go about masturbating and i do not see any adverse effect on them. As per what I assume, every biological need if not met would cause some kind of adverse negative impact on the human body eg. hunger, sleep etc..

        On the other hand, I have seen mild handicapped boys engaging in it which clearly concludes that MIND and conditioning of MIND is involved in the practice. These children go about practicing them as a response of some thing they have seen or felt.

        Bible however clearly says..And whatever is pure , Holy, trust worthy and praise worthy, think on such things!

  • A Mom…

    Hey, I was waiting for someone Christian to talk about this topic cz I did have a lot of questions concerning this too ( as a part of Christian learning )..
    1. You said ,”If you are not married, you are certainly not thinking of your partner. And to think of anyone else other than your spouse is adultery. ”
    Is it ok for a married person to masturbate thinking of his spouse who has been away or for other reasons?
    2. Most people advocate on the fact that it is a biological need of a man to masturbate?Do you clearly believe that the onset of even trying to masturbate is due to some kind of input (visual or imagination – i guess even imaginations come from what a person has been exposed too rt?)
    3.I do believe for sure that it is a sin , how do you suppose we could protect and talk about it to our kids? what age ?
    4, Are females and males equal victims of it?

    • http://www.shyjumathew.com/ Shyju Mathew

      1. I once heard Pst. Mark Discroll who quite frequently engages in these topics to serve his predominately youth crowd saying its fine to masturbate thinking of your spouse that is away than any other women. Question would be is it lustful to think of your spouse that way? Some argue that it is wrong because it is making your spouse an object for sex instead of a person. I wonder if someone can come to that conclusion as in if your appetite is not for your spouse then something is wrong. What makes it an object is when love is absent. In an instance when the spouse is not physically able to make love or vice versa then I see no instance why it’s wrong as it still involves just the two in thoughts and heart. Again, if someone does feel convicted it’s wrong then they should strictly follow their conviction.
      2. I agree with the second statement that it is more than just a biological need, it is an action roused through one’s imagination or desire which gives birth to sin.
      3. Age of the kid is certainly depends on the level of exposure your child has. Some parents have no relationship with the child that they have no clue of what the child is exposed to. It helps having very open talks about how much your child knows and what kind of thoughts they entertain due to the exposure they have. It’s always best to open up before their friends decide to coach them.
      4. Yes.
      P.S – still learning…

      • ElizabethMathew

        This answers my questions too .. :)

      • A mom

        Hmmm..just a thought to share in response to all the other comments advocating that Masturbating is a biological need : As a therapist of handicap children, i would like to point out that severely handicap boys do not go about masturbating and i do not see any adverse effect on them. As per what I assume, every biological need if not met would cause some kind of adverse negative impact on the human body eg. hunger, sleep etc..

        On the other hand, I have seen mild handicapped boys engaging in it which clearly concludes that MIND and conditioning of MIND is involved in the practice. These children go about practicing them as a response of some thing they have seen or felt.

        Bible however clearly says..And whatever is pure , Holy, trust worthy and praise worthy, think on such things!

  • baiju

    i appreciate shyju for coming up with this topic.

    • http://www.shyjumathew.com/blog Shyju Mathew

      Thanks Baiju. I pray it helps people.

  • baiju

    i appreciate shyju for coming up with this topic.

    • http://www.shyjumathew.com/ Shyju Mathew

      Thanks Baiju. I pray it helps people.

  • http://twitter.com/KennethmyJesus Kenneth Justin

    My friends went for a NSS camp and someone told them there that masturbating periodically will help you out in your future sexual life….Science,medical researches support masturbation..But we Christians must speak against it..Happy to see a post on this dad..Rock on for Jesus!!!!

    • http://twitter.com/ufff_yaar ★Indu★ (✿Bonnie✿)♪

      +1 :) Praise the Lord. I wish i could help others who are in support of Masturbation. But da moment u try to help out they laugh at you! :(

    • http://www.shyjumathew.com/blog Shyju Mathew

      Actually it’s the opposite. Studies show, masturbation reduces the value of intercourse as it is also psychologically more satisfying with lesser inputs or commitment.

      • Angelo Pereira

        This is true in many ways! I also believe that there is a gradual breakdown in social values pertaining to sex and its intimacy with perversion in its place. Cutting it out of your life is the way to go – it will preserve good values for the future…

  • KennethmyJesus

    My friends went for a NSS camp and someone told them there that masturbating periodically will help you out in your future sexual life….Science,medical researches support masturbation..But we Christians must speak against it..Happy to see a post on this dad..Rock on for Jesus!!!!

    • http://twitter.com/ufff_yaar ★Indu★ (✿Bonnie✿)♪

      +1 :) Praise the Lord. I wish i could help others who are in support of Masturbation. But da moment u try to help out they laugh at you! :(

    • http://www.shyjumathew.com/ Shyju Mathew

      Actually it’s the opposite. Studies show, masturbation reduces the value of intercourse as it is also psychologically more satisfying with lesser inputs or commitment.

      • Angelo Pereira

        This is true in many ways! I also believe that there is a gradual breakdown in social values pertaining to sex and its intimacy with perversion in its place. Cutting it out of your life is the way to go – it will preserve good values for the future…

  • Guest

    I believe God gave man his sexdrive when he said “be fruitful and multiply”. I think having a sex drive means ,you want to have sex with someone.SO yes, there is nothing wrong with wanting to have sex .

    However, God also gave us a spirit that enables us to manage our appettites. (2 tim 1:7). I dont think the desire to release one-self sexually is any different from the desire to eat when one is hungry. However, when we gratify ourselves apart form the freedom we have within the confines of our marriage(which is again a wholly different arena all together) we definitely walk outside the scriptural guidelines given to us.

    Now to adress singles ;) ,It does baffle me though that the Bible has nothing to say explicitly about the “M” word. Which leads me to believe it is possible God chose to be silent because he wanted it to be worked out in the context of our relationship with him.Which brings us back to the question Shyju posed; “Is it really possible to masturbate without lusting” and If it is , “Is it possible to manage one’s appetite”..how often is ok?

    Being someone who believes it is possible to do so without lusting,i do think it is still unhealthy because it feeds people the “lie” that you can have as much of it as you want. Anything in our life that cause us to lose,self-control is a questionable practice. I believe consumption of alcohol comes under this category(again i believe its different from alcoholism),so does Facebooking, and every other thing that fights for our attention,time,emotions etc….]

    I believe if Parents and leaders de-mystify the aura around Sex and Sexuality and give young people a vision for purity, our youth and singles will not resort to MTV an hollywood to be discipled or educated but realizn, there is HOPE and Help. The key to walking in purity of the heart and actions is knowing our identity in Christ. Before temptation always comes a deception. And it is this that gets to both Men and Women.

    As believers we have to educate ourselves and others on how small, temptation really is? The World peverts sex, Religion shames it but the Kingdom celebrates it.

    The antidote really is in what Christ has done for us.

    • http://www.shyjumathew.com/blog Shyju Mathew

      Thanks for sharing these insights!

      • Avid Reader

        ICor 7:25-28 says it is better to be remain single than to marry and be devoted both to spouse and God hence if people remain single there is a need for vent so that they do not sin outside with temptations. Nowhere in the bible M is mentioned and does not condemn the practise.. It could mean looking at a women lustfully is taking her to bed. Can mean so many diff things. an act of masturbation should not be judged as an objective moral evil may not be considered a sin, but assessed within the life context of the person involved. Just another point of view. As if each and every innocent act isw considered sin it would be a sin for whoever is reading.. Please look at it from a broader perspective so many things involved before coming to any conclusion.

        • http://www.pastorpriji.com Priji

          Dear friend, I understand your point of view. I would never judge a person involving in masturbation of being morally evil, but the big question here is whether we can seperate masturbation from lustful thinking! And we all know that lustful thinking is ofcourse a sin (even if that comes by reading this), and the solution to that is marriage and not masturbation! 1 Cor 7:9 – For it is better to marry than to burn with passion! Hope that helps!

          • avid reader

            M and lust(I would not call it lust but thought process) go hand in hand together. A p[erson has to think of someone when he masturbates but what about the man and women who go around even with strangers and diff people literally having relations physically such topics are more important than an innocent masturbation. Married people also masturbate sadly so are they lusting for another women. Lusting means knocking at the door of death(women who calls herself death) if you know what I mean..

          • http://www.shyjumathew.com/blog Shyju Mathew

            Well, to say men and women lying around is more important topic is to say lying is more important than murder. Sadly, even liars go to hell as murder. So if Jesus says that simply looking at a women is enough to sin, then to dwell on the look and to masturbate over it is not something that we should called innocent. :) Thats why this series.
            P.S – the other topic you mentioned will also be covered in this series.

        • Michael McGrath

          I have studied the subject of sexuality from a biblical standpoint for over 8 years, backed up by hours, days and months of prayer over every area of sexuality. I have several comments to make: 1) to simply “skim” the Word of God and pull out verses that support our common, prudish beliefs about human sexuality or sexual behavior isn’t properly “dividing the Word of Truth;” 2) Masturbation is NEVER mentioned ANYWHERE in the entire Word of God. With that said, our biggest problem, in the male community, is to separate masturbation from 3) the FACT that the word “lust” cannot be distinguished from the word “desire,” IN MOST CASES, that are used throughout the Scriptures. There are at least a dozen words in the Hebrew that are translated “desire” in English, and at least that many in the Greek texts. The Greek is a little more explicit in differentiating between what we call “lust” and “desire” than the Hebrew. In Hebrew, the words all can be interchanged. The proper interpretation comes out in the context.

          What we should properly state is that there are two types of desire: a) God-given desire; b) illicit desire, or that which God does not approve of. Jesus clearly said that it is a sin to desire someone who isn’t your own spouse. A man who masturbates and thinks about his wife while he is masturbating is NOT sinning! If a man is deployed away from hom in the military and he is overseas in a foreign country and lonely for his wife, and he doesn’t want to sin against his wife or his own body (which the Scriptures clearly state that a man would do if he sinned sexually, i.e. committed adultery with another woman other than his wife, committed bestiality, had sexual intercourse with his relatives or if he divorced his wife and had anal intercourse with men), masturbation is a God-given release for this man. Masturbation, as long as it is used as a TOOL to PREVENT sin, is a gift from God. I counsel men to use masturbation as an act of worship – NOT a worship of their own bodies, but an act of worship, with praise for how God has created their bodies in such a manner as He has. The MIND is the battleground for men and to take captive EVERY thought to make it obedient to Christ is CRUCIAL! Using masturbation in alignment with prayer and praise is a powerful means of receiving sexual relief while NOT sinning.

          Masturbation, combined with prayer and praise, can be a wonderful time with the Lord Jesus Christ. After all, He was born with a penis and testicles, and when He was hanging on the cross, He DIDN’T despise the fact that He was naked nor that everyone could see His genitals – He despised the SHAME, and bought for us again our “pre-lapsarian” condition.

          According to Leo Steinberg, “Before their transgression, Adam and Eve, though naked, were unembarrassed; and were abashed only in consequence of their lapse. And is it not the whole merit of Christ, the New Adam (see 1 Corinthians 15:45), to have regained for man his prelapsarian condition? How then could he who restores human nature to sinlessness be shamed by the sexual factor in his humanity? And is not this reason enough to render Christ’s genitalia, even like the stigmata, an object of ostentatio? In the incarnate Word – ‘whom sin could not defile nor death retain’ (St. Leo) – flesh did not war against spirit, no bodily member suffered the incurred punishment of disobedience. For, in the words of Pope Honorius I, writing in 634 to the Patriarch of Constantinople: ‘our nature, not our guilt, was assumed by the Godhead.’ Therefore, no shame.”1

          What I became aware of was the fact that many people are just plain ashamed of the sight of their naked body, and the genitals of both sexes, even as it relates to Christ’s crucifixion. The fact that he was naked on the cross, according to many theological and historical sources, was crucial to the redemption of the human race. Without his full exposure, the parts that supposedly weren’t exposed would not be included in the redemptive process. The same is true for those of us who claim to be “in Christ.” If we are not willing to look fully at every part of the Naked Crucified One, we cannot be healed in every part, for the part we aren’t willing to look upon for our healing, is the very part in which we will not be healed.

          1 Leo Steinberg, “The Sexuality of Christ in Renaissance Art and in Modern Oblivion,” The University of Chicago Press, Second Edition, 1996.

  • Guest

    I believe God gave man his sexdrive when he said “be fruitful and multiply”. I think having a sex drive means ,you want to have sex with someone.SO yes, there is nothing wrong with wanting to have sex .

    However, God also gave us a spirit that enables us to manage our appettites. (2 tim 1:7). I dont think the desire to release one-self sexually is any different from the desire to eat when one is hungry. However, when we gratify ourselves apart form the freedom we have within the confines of our marriage(which is again a wholly different arena all together) we definitely walk outside the scriptural guidelines given to us.

    Now to adress singles ;) ,It does baffle me though that the Bible has nothing to say explicitly about the “M” word. Which leads me to believe it is possible God chose to be silent because he wanted it to be worked out in the context of our relationship with him.Which brings us back to the question Shyju posed; “Is it really possible to masturbate without lusting” and If it is , “Is it possible to manage one’s appetite”..how often is ok?

    Being someone who believes it is possible to do so without lusting,i do think it is still unhealthy because it feeds people the “lie” that you can have as much of it as you want. Anything in our life that cause us to lose,self-control is a questionable practice. I believe consumption of alcohol comes under this category(again i believe its different from alcoholism),so does Facebooking, and every other thing that fights for our attention,time,emotions etc….]

    I believe if Parents and leaders de-mystify the aura around Sex and Sexuality and give young people a vision for purity, our youth and singles will not resort to MTV an hollywood to be discipled or educated but realizn, there is HOPE and Help. The key to walking in purity of the heart and actions is knowing our identity in Christ. Before temptation always comes a deception. And it is this that gets to both Men and Women.

    As believers we have to educate ourselves and others on how small, temptation really is? The World peverts sex, Religion shames it but the Kingdom celebrates it.

    The antidote really is in what Christ has done for us.

    • http://www.shyjumathew.com/ Shyju Mathew

      Thanks for sharing these insights!

  • Rach

    I believe if one earnestly seeks to live holy then one can do all things through Jesus Christ who strengthens them …. If God created this body He also has sovereign authority to reign over our body provided we are willing to submit our physical bodies to Him …. The bible says we are in the world but not off the world ….. I believe we have supernatural grace to overcome any Worldly temptations thru His Holy Spirit …..

    • http://www.shyjumathew.com/blog Shyju Mathew

      I agree Rach. Unless we don’t believe that, then its easy to succum to reasons and excuses to sin.

  • Rach

    I believe if one earnestly seeks to live holy then one can do all things through Jesus Christ who strengthens them …. If God created this body He also has sovereign authority to reign over our body provided we are willing to submit our physical bodies to Him …. The bible says we are in the world but not off the world ….. I believe we have supernatural grace to overcome any Worldly temptations thru His Holy Spirit …..

    • http://www.shyjumathew.com/ Shyju Mathew

      I agree Rach. Unless we don’t believe that, then its easy to succum to reasons and excuses to sin.

  • http://twitter.com/ufff_yaar ★Indu★ (✿Bonnie✿)♪

    This post should really help out people! Everything is possible with Lord. Praise be to him. :)

  • http://twitter.com/ufff_yaar ★Indu★ (✿Bonnie✿)♪

    This post should really help out people! Everything is possible with Lord. Praise be to him. :)

  • Avid Reader

    ICor 7:25-28 says it is better to be remain single than to marry and be devoted both to spouse and God hence if people remain single there is a need for vent so that they do not sin outside with temptations. Nowhere in the bible M is mentioned and does not condemn the practise.. It could mean looking at a women lustfully is taking her to bed. Can mean so many diff things. an act of masturbation should not be judged as an objective moral evil may not be considered a sin, but assessed within the life context of the person involved. Just another point of view. As if each and every innocent act isw considered sin it would be a sin for whoever is reading.. Please look at it from a broader perspective so many things involved before coming to any conclusion.

    • http://www.pastorpriji.com/ Priji

      Dear friend, I understand your point of view. I would never judge a person involving in masturbation of being morally evil, but the big question here is whether we can seperate masturbation from lustful thinking! And we all know that lustful thinking is ofcourse a sin (even if that comes by reading this), and the solution to that is marriage and not masturbation! 1 Cor 7:9 – For it is better to marry than to burn with passion! Hope that helps!

      • avid reader

        M and lust(I would not call it lust but thought process) go hand in hand together. A p[erson has to think of someone when he masturbates but what about the man and women who go around even with strangers and diff people literally having relations physically such topics are more important than an innocent masturbation. Married people also masturbate sadly so are they lusting for another women. Lusting means knocking at the door of death(women who calls herself death) if you know what I mean..

        • http://www.shyjumathew.com/ Shyju Mathew

          Well, to say men and women lying around is more important topic is to say lying is more important than murder. Sadly, even liars go to hell as murder. So if Jesus says that simply looking at a women is enough to sin, then to dwell on the look and to masturbate over it is not something that we should called innocent. :) Thats why this series.
          P.S – the other topic you mentioned will also be covered in this series.

    • Michael McGrath

      I have studied the subject of sexuality from a biblical standpoint for over 8 years, backed up by hours, days and months of prayer over every area of sexuality. I have several comments to make: 1) to simply “skim” the Word of God and pull out verses that support our common, prudish beliefs about human sexuality or sexual behavior isn’t properly “dividing the Word of Truth;” 2) Masturbation is NEVER mentioned ANYWHERE in the entire Word of God. With that said, our biggest problem, in the male community, is to separate masturbation from 3) the FACT that the word “lust” cannot be distinguished from the word “desire,” IN MOST CASES, that are used throughout the Scriptures. There are at least a dozen words in the Hebrew that are translated “desire” in English, and at least that many in the Greek texts. The Greek is a little more explicit in differentiating between what we call “lust” and “desire” than the Hebrew. In Hebrew, the words all can be interchanged. The proper interpretation comes out in the context.

      What we should properly state is that there are two types of desire: a) God-given desire; b) illicit desire, or that which God does not approve of. Jesus clearly said that it is a sin to desire someone who isn’t your own spouse. A man who masturbates and thinks about his wife while he is masturbating is NOT sinning! If a man is deployed away from hom in the military and he is overseas in a foreign country and lonely for his wife, and he doesn’t want to sin against his wife or his own body (which the Scriptures clearly state that a man would do if he sinned sexually, i.e. committed adultery with another woman other than his wife, committed bestiality, had sexual intercourse with his relatives or if he divorced his wife and had anal intercourse with men), masturbation is a God-given release for this man. Masturbation, as long as it is used as a TOOL to PREVENT sin, is a gift from God. I counsel men to use masturbation as an act of worship – NOT a worship of their own bodies, but an act of worship, with praise for how God has created their bodies in such a manner as He has. The MIND is the battleground for men and to take captive EVERY thought to make it obedient to Christ is CRUCIAL! Using masturbation in alignment with prayer and praise is a powerful means of receiving sexual relief while NOT sinning.

      Masturbation, combined with prayer and praise, can be a wonderful time with the Lord Jesus Christ. After all, He was born with a penis and testicles, and when He was hanging on the cross, He DIDN’T despise the fact that He was naked nor that everyone could see His genitals – He despised the SHAME, and bought for us again our “pre-lapsarian” condition.

      According to Leo Steinberg, “Before their transgression, Adam and Eve, though naked, were unembarrassed; and were abashed only in consequence of their lapse. And is it not the whole merit of Christ, the New Adam (see 1 Corinthians 15:45), to have regained for man his prelapsarian condition? How then could he who restores human nature to sinlessness be shamed by the sexual factor in his humanity? And is not this reason enough to render Christ’s genitalia, even like the stigmata, an object of ostentatio? In the incarnate Word – ‘whom sin could not defile nor death retain’ (St. Leo) – flesh did not war against spirit, no bodily member suffered the incurred punishment of disobedience. For, in the words of Pope Honorius I, writing in 634 to the Patriarch of Constantinople: ‘our nature, not our guilt, was assumed by the Godhead.’ Therefore, no shame.”1

      What I became aware of was the fact that many people are just plain ashamed of the sight of their naked body, and the genitals of both sexes, even as it relates to Christ’s crucifixion. The fact that he was naked on the cross, according to many theological and historical sources, was crucial to the redemption of the human race. Without his full exposure, the parts that supposedly weren’t exposed would not be included in the redemptive process. The same is true for those of us who claim to be “in Christ.” If we are not willing to look fully at every part of the Naked Crucified One, we cannot be healed in every part, for the part we aren’t willing to look upon for our healing, is the very part in which we will not be healed.

      1 Leo Steinberg, “The Sexuality of Christ in Renaissance Art and in Modern Oblivion,” The University of Chicago Press, Second Edition, 1996.

  • Arun

    Eph 5:3 (NIV) But among you there must not be even a hint of sexual
    immorality, or of any kind of impurity, or of greed, because these are
    improper for God’s holy people.

    Ro 6:13 (NIV) Do not offer the parts of your body to sin, as
    instruments of wickedness, but rather offer yourselves to God, as those
    who have been brought from death to life; and offer the parts of your
    body to him as instruments of righteousness.

    • http://www.shyjumathew.com/blog Shyju Mathew

      Perfect!

  • Arun

    Eph 5:3 (NIV) But among you there must not be even a hint of sexual
    immorality, or of any kind of impurity, or of greed, because these are
    improper for God’s holy people.

    Ro 6:13 (NIV) Do not offer the parts of your body to sin, as
    instruments of wickedness, but rather offer yourselves to God, as those
    who have been brought from death to life; and offer the parts of your
    body to him as instruments of righteousness.

    • http://www.shyjumathew.com/ Shyju Mathew

      Perfect!

  • Bernadine Wicket

    All form of sins concerning the flesh usually begins with the mind. It starts with fantasy and before you know it one thing leads to another. The Bible gives one simple truth: flee. The Bible also encourges what is good what is pure what is holy dwell on these things.
    All of us know things that make us vulnerable and it would be safe to avoid reading material, vcds or sites that would cause our minds to dwell on lustful thoughts.
    Daily communion with the Lord, praying in the Spirit even while traveling in a crowded train, having personal as well as corporate fellowship and having a buddy or a mentor to always pray with, may be a good way to start with.

  • Bernadine Wicket

    All form of sins concerning the flesh usually begins with the mind. It starts with fantasy and before you know it one thing leads to another. The Bible gives one simple truth: flee. The Bible also encourges what is good what is pure what is holy dwell on these things.
    All of us know things that make us vulnerable and it would be safe to avoid reading material, vcds or sites that would cause our minds to dwell on lustful thoughts.
    Daily communion with the Lord, praying in the Spirit even while traveling in a crowded train, having personal as well as corporate fellowship and having a buddy or a mentor to always pray with, may be a good way to start with.

  • Neeru

    ptl i m so happy dat God has put in ur heart 2 share all dis sins. i just want 2 know who r for masturbate. God knows everything wat man ll go through. He s a perfect God. if it s right to masturbate He would have written in His word. GOD BLESS U Shyju!!!

    • http://www.shyjumathew.com/ Shyju Mathew

      God bless u too Neeru. Welcome to GTH!

  • Anonymous

    Firstly I praise God for Brother Shyju for bringing this
    topic up. May God richly bless you.

    I used to MASTURBATE daily for many years also many times a
    day, I was that addicted before coming to Christ. Even after getting saved, God
    set me free for around 2 years completely free, then I started going away from
    God and then I found myself bound to MASTURBATION again. Recently my friend
    told me that this is wrong, when Truth came that is when I started getting
    serious about it. I used to give all the excuses as many people gave in this
    discussion.

    Just imagine after this act, is your conscious clear? Can
    you go to spend time with God after MASTURBATION, I can’t. If you are a Born
    again believer Holy Spirit is with you and in you. If God can forgive all our sins, is He not
    able to deliver us from this. Same
    Spirit lives inside of us which raise Christ from the death.

    First step is to admit that this is wrong, then check what I
    am watching and thinking. Find someone
    who can pray with you and keep you accountable. My friend if you have true
    desire to stop that, God is more interested than you to set you free.

    A brother in Christ helped me to come out of watching Porn
    and MASTURBATION said if those desires comes, speak to the body, “ Body this is
    the temple of God and I cannot defile it.” Rebuke spirit of lust to leave you
    right now. Be aggressive. Brother each time you say no to these desires you
    become stronger and stronger. Don’t you think if you keep obeying these desires
    you are bound by those? Jesus came for us to be set free from everything.

    Brother never think this will stop once you get married,
    that’s a lie. In Fact MASTURBATION has very negative affect in sex life too.

    Ask for His grace, which teaches us to say no to
    ungodliness. Find scriptures on sexual
    sin and read them daily. We know whole
    world does it, but if we too do this, then what’s the difference between them
    and us? It’s not will power which sets you free, it’s Word Power, God’s
    Power.

    1Th 4:2-8 (NIV) For you know what instructions we gave you by
    the authority of the Lord Jesus. It is God’s will that you should be
    sanctified: that you should avoid sexual immorality; that each of you should
    learn to control his own body in a way that is holy and honorable, not in
    passionate lust like the heathen, who do not know God… For God did not call
    us to be impure, but to live a holy life. Therefore, he who rejects this
    instruction does not reject man but God, who gives you his Holy Spirit.

    Ro 6:13 (NIV) Do not offer the parts of your body to sin, as
    instruments of wickedness, but rather offer yourselves to God, as those who
    have been brought from death to life; and offer the parts of your body to him
    as instruments of righteousness.

    John 8:32 (NIV) “Then you will know the truth, and the
    truth will set you free.”

    • http://www.shyjumathew.com/blog Shyju Mathew

      That’s a brilliant open hearted share!
      Keep coming & share ur thoughts with the community.
      God bless u!

  • Anonymous

    Firstly I praise God for Brother Shyju for bringing this
    topic up. May God richly bless you.

    I used to MASTURBATE daily for many years also many times a
    day, I was that addicted before coming to Christ. Even after getting saved, God
    set me free for around 2 years completely free, then I started going away from
    God and then I found myself bound to MASTURBATION again. Recently my friend
    told me that this is wrong, when Truth came that is when I started getting
    serious about it. I used to give all the excuses as many people gave in this
    discussion.

    Just imagine after this act, is your conscious clear? Can
    you go to spend time with God after MASTURBATION, I can’t. If you are a Born
    again believer Holy Spirit is with you and in you. If God can forgive all our sins, is He not
    able to deliver us from this. Same
    Spirit lives inside of us which raise Christ from the death.

    First step is to admit that this is wrong, then check what I
    am watching and thinking. Find someone
    who can pray with you and keep you accountable. My friend if you have true
    desire to stop that, God is more interested than you to set you free.

    A brother in Christ helped me to come out of watching Porn
    and MASTURBATION said if those desires comes, speak to the body, “ Body this is
    the temple of God and I cannot defile it.” Rebuke spirit of lust to leave you
    right now. Be aggressive. Brother each time you say no to these desires you
    become stronger and stronger. Don’t you think if you keep obeying these desires
    you are bound by those? Jesus came for us to be set free from everything.

    Brother never think this will stop once you get married,
    that’s a lie. In Fact MASTURBATION has very negative affect in sex life too.

    Ask for His grace, which teaches us to say no to
    ungodliness. Find scriptures on sexual
    sin and read them daily. We know whole
    world does it, but if we too do this, then what’s the difference between them
    and us? It’s not will power which sets you free, it’s Word Power, God’s
    Power.

    1Th 4:2-8 (NIV) For you know what instructions we gave you by
    the authority of the Lord Jesus. It is God’s will that you should be
    sanctified: that you should avoid sexual immorality; that each of you should
    learn to control his own body in a way that is holy and honorable, not in
    passionate lust like the heathen, who do not know God… For God did not call
    us to be impure, but to live a holy life. Therefore, he who rejects this
    instruction does not reject man but God, who gives you his Holy Spirit.

    Ro 6:13 (NIV) Do not offer the parts of your body to sin, as
    instruments of wickedness, but rather offer yourselves to God, as those who
    have been brought from death to life; and offer the parts of your body to him
    as instruments of righteousness.

    John 8:32 (NIV) “Then you will know the truth, and the
    truth will set you free.”

    • http://www.shyjumathew.com/ Shyju Mathew

      That’s a brilliant open hearted share!
      Keep coming & share ur thoughts with the community.
      God bless u!

  • http://twitter.com/musiqchild007 Jherrel Peters

    I think I read that the greek word (or something so) of the word masturbation is “to defile oneself”.

  • http://twitter.com/musiqchild007 Jherrel Peters

    I think I read that the greek word (or something so) of the word masturbation is “to defile oneself”.

  • Jisha

    Thanks to the wonderful post on masturbation bro, I am a social worker by profession and i and my husband are involved part time in family counseling and student ministry too. I have seen wives who are grief stricken by husbands addicted to masturbation and pornography for that purpose. Many men r not able to leave the habit as their thoughts become so addicted and need serious counseling intervention. So masturbation that starts as a biological need in many cases becomes habit. I would like to share the suggestion given by my husband on how he overcame masturbation. “Keep a diary, don’t immediately masturbate when u feel. Record in ur diary each time u feel the urge to masturbate. Seek help of Jesus every time u feels .Fight back thoughts. Divert your thoughts. Even if u masturbated after that don’t let guilt or the deception of Satan that it’s a physical need and that it’s just this one more time prevent u from going to god and asking forgiveness and also ask god’s help bcoz only Jesus can help u come out..Keep a track of the number of times u felt the urge and did not sin and also how many times u sinned. Ask god’s forgiveness and help again. · Keep on fighting till u win.· Even after that don’t let your mind be lazy.· be connected with God, have godly friends, · Close ur eyes and flee temptation.· Limit your non believer friend’s especially non believer opposite sex friends and going out with them. I think this method will help to a large extent to teenagers and many others addicted to this.Even girls mastrubate.i have known girls who was bold enough to discuss it .They don’t need lustful fantasies as men do and many girls are masturbating with non living things which again is big sin. They say since no lustful thoughts are there it is not sin. It is just satisfying a physical urge. So girl children also needs help, and the above suggestion will work out for them too
    Thanks to the wonderful post on masturbation bro, I am a social worker by profession and i and my husband are involved part time in family counseling and student ministry too. I have seen wives who are grief stricken by husbands addicted to masturbation and pornography for that purpose. Many men r not able to leave the habit as their thoughts become so addicted and need serious counseling intervention. So masturbation that starts as a biological need in many cases becomes habit.
    I would like to share the suggestion given by my husband on how he overcame masturbation. “Keep a diary, don’t immediately masturbate when u feel. Record in ur diary each time u feel the urge to masturbate. Seek help of Jesus every time u feels .Fight back thoughts. Divert your thoughts. Even if u masturbated after that don’t let guilt or the deception of Satan that it’s a physical need and that it’s just this one more time prevent u from going to god and asking forgiveness and also ask god’s help bcoz only Jesus can help u come out..Keep a track of the number of times u felt the urge and did not sin and also how many times u sinned. Ask god’s forgiveness and help again.
    · Keep on fighting till u win.
    · Even after that don’t let your mind be lazy.
    · be connected with God, have godly friends,
    · Close ur eyes and flee temptation.
    · Limit your non believer friend’s especially non believer opposite sex friends and going out with them.
    I think this method will help to a large extent to teenagers and many others addicted to this.
    Even girls mastrubate.i have known girls who was bold enough to discuss it .They don’t need lustful fantasies as men do and many girls are masturbating with non living things which again is big sin. They say since no lustful thoughts are there it is not sin. It is just satisfying a physical urge. So girl children also needs help, and the above suggestion will work out for them too

  • Jisha

    Thanks to the wonderful post on masturbation bro, I am a social worker by profession and i and my husband are involved part time in family counseling and student ministry too. I have seen wives who are grief stricken by husbands addicted to masturbation and pornography for that purpose. Many men r not able to leave the habit as their thoughts become so addicted and need serious counseling intervention. So masturbation that starts as a biological need in many cases becomes habit. I would like to share the suggestion given by my husband on how he overcame masturbation. “Keep a diary, don’t immediately masturbate when u feel. Record in ur diary each time u feel the urge to masturbate. Seek help of Jesus every time u feels .Fight back thoughts. Divert your thoughts. Even if u masturbated after that don’t let guilt or the deception of Satan that it’s a physical need and that it’s just this one more time prevent u from going to god and asking forgiveness and also ask god’s help bcoz only Jesus can help u come out..Keep a track of the number of times u felt the urge and did not sin and also how many times u sinned. Ask god’s forgiveness and help again. · Keep on fighting till u win.· Even after that don’t let your mind be lazy.· be connected with God, have godly friends, · Close ur eyes and flee temptation.· Limit your non believer friend’s especially non believer opposite sex friends and going out with them. I think this method will help to a large extent to teenagers and many others addicted to this.Even girls mastrubate.i have known girls who was bold enough to discuss it .They don’t need lustful fantasies as men do and many girls are masturbating with non living things which again is big sin. They say since no lustful thoughts are there it is not sin. It is just satisfying a physical urge. So girl children also needs help, and the above suggestion will work out for them too
    Thanks to the wonderful post on masturbation bro, I am a social worker by profession and i and my husband are involved part time in family counseling and student ministry too. I have seen wives who are grief stricken by husbands addicted to masturbation and pornography for that purpose. Many men r not able to leave the habit as their thoughts become so addicted and need serious counseling intervention. So masturbation that starts as a biological need in many cases becomes habit.
    I would like to share the suggestion given by my husband on how he overcame masturbation. “Keep a diary, don’t immediately masturbate when u feel. Record in ur diary each time u feel the urge to masturbate. Seek help of Jesus every time u feels .Fight back thoughts. Divert your thoughts. Even if u masturbated after that don’t let guilt or the deception of Satan that it’s a physical need and that it’s just this one more time prevent u from going to god and asking forgiveness and also ask god’s help bcoz only Jesus can help u come out..Keep a track of the number of times u felt the urge and did not sin and also how many times u sinned. Ask god’s forgiveness and help again.
    · Keep on fighting till u win.
    · Even after that don’t let your mind be lazy.
    · be connected with God, have godly friends,
    · Close ur eyes and flee temptation.
    · Limit your non believer friend’s especially non believer opposite sex friends and going out with them.
    I think this method will help to a large extent to teenagers and many others addicted to this.
    Even girls mastrubate.i have known girls who was bold enough to discuss it .They don’t need lustful fantasies as men do and many girls are masturbating with non living things which again is big sin. They say since no lustful thoughts are there it is not sin. It is just satisfying a physical urge. So girl children also needs help, and the above suggestion will work out for them too

  • some1alone

    I’m a victim. I don’t think it was a coincidence that I’m reading this blog immediately after committing such an act, but all I can feel now is “I Have Hope, until I stop getting up again”. (As Pastor Shyju said)
    I do wanna add some of my thoughts.
    1- It is more like any other addiction, take drug addiction for instance. say a drug-addict boy has run-away from home fearing that if his Dad comes to know about it, He would kill him. He’s wrong, because His Dad would just wait to see his son return. And If the son comes back home, His dad will do everything that he can to get his Son out of that addiction.. So is our Heavenly Father. Don’t run away, but to HIM..

    2-When you open your eyes and heart to any form of lust, you’ll allow some unseen visitors to be a parasite in you. Like all unwanted images and thoughts during prayer or worship. Sleepiness and yawning at prayer gatherings or churches.
    But you can kill them all by spending more time in the presence of God, especially alone.

    3- My friends at school, used to tell me about “Maan-Karate” meaning deer-karate, as a technique to deal with Bullies at High-school. Do you know what it really is? (What will a Deer do, when it sees a Lion? Run as fast it can) Exactly! Running from the place / person you are tempted is the best fight you can do.

    As a i write this last line, I will go meet my Jesus and talk to him.

    Jesus loves you No matter how sinful or How miserable you are right now!!!

    Thank you Shyju and all.

    • http://www.shyjumathew.com/blog Shyju Mathew

      The secret of the standing man is that he did not quit trying, and he got back from where he fell last.

  • some1alone

    I’m a victim. I don’t think it was a coincidence that I’m reading this blog immediately after committing such an act, but all I can feel now is “I Have Hope, until I stop getting up again”. (As Pastor Shyju said)
    I do wanna add some of my thoughts.
    1- It is more like any other addiction, take drug addiction for instance. say a drug-addict boy has run-away from home fearing that if his Dad comes to know about it, He would kill him. He’s wrong, because His Dad would just wait to see his son return. And If the son comes back home, His dad will do everything that he can to get his Son out of that addiction.. So is our Heavenly Father. Don’t run away, but to HIM..

    2-When you open your eyes and heart to any form of lust, you’ll allow some unseen visitors to be a parasite in you. Like all unwanted images and thoughts during prayer or worship. Sleepiness and yawning at prayer gatherings or churches.
    But you can kill them all by spending more time in the presence of God, especially alone.

    3- My friends at school, used to tell me about “Maan-Karate” meaning deer-karate, as a technique to deal with Bullies at High-school. Do you know what it really is? (What will a Deer do, when it sees a Lion? Run as fast it can) Exactly! Running from the place / person you are tempted is the best fight you can do.

    As a i write this last line, I will go meet my Jesus and talk to him.

    Jesus loves you No matter how sinful or How miserable you are right now!!!

    Thank you Shyju and all.

    • http://www.shyjumathew.com/ Shyju Mathew

      The secret of the standing man is that he did not quit trying, and he got back from where he fell last.

  • Steve

    Bro..Even i’ve been struggling wit this..even after i became a believer i’m not able to completely quit it though its intensity is less now…I lack the faith dat its possible to completely get rid of it in my life cos i’ve tried.. sometimes i’m frustrated, sometimes i have a cold heart abt it..though i’m able to avoid it to a great deal if i’m strong in my personal spiritual life yet if i weaken in my relationship towards JESUS i fall easily..In short God has taught me ” Walk in the Spirit and you shall not fulfill the lusts of the flesh. For the flesh lusts against the Spirit, and the Spirit against the flesh. And these are contrary to one another; lest whatever you may will, these things you do.” -Gal5:16,17.Pls do pray dat God gives me the faith to believe dat complete deliverance is possible.

    • http://www.shyjumathew.com/blog Shyju Mathew

      Steve walk with me on this, get back up and walk again. U r only defeated when u quit. God knows ur condition, so rise up and walk!

  • Steve

    Bro..Even i’ve been struggling wit this..even after i became a believer i’m not able to completely quit it though its intensity is less now…I lack the faith dat its possible to completely get rid of it in my life cos i’ve tried.. sometimes i’m frustrated, sometimes i have a cold heart abt it..though i’m able to avoid it to a great deal if i’m strong in my personal spiritual life yet if i weaken in my relationship towards JESUS i fall easily..In short God has taught me ” Walk in the Spirit and you shall not fulfill the lusts of the flesh. For the flesh lusts against the Spirit, and the Spirit against the flesh. And these are contrary to one another; lest whatever you may will, these things you do.” -Gal5:16,17.Pls do pray dat God gives me the faith to believe dat complete deliverance is possible.

    • http://www.shyjumathew.com/ Shyju Mathew

      Steve walk with me on this, get back up and walk again. U r only defeated when u quit. God knows ur condition, so rise up and walk!

  • Steve

    Dear Bro., let me tell you my shameful act I’ve just committed. I am a follower of God for many years still I was addicted to masturbation, even after marriage for 3 years I never stopped. Two weeks back I committed a shameful act of fornication, I am totally shattered after this, filled with fear, guilt and I feel that I’ve lost the holy commission of God. I am crying day and night feeling for defiling myself. I am trying hard to come out but its not happening brother its unimaginable the pain I am passing through. I just couldn’t believe myself everything happened in an span of one hour and I am regretting day and night asking forgiveness. Occasionally I used to get this thought earlier but the moment I masturbated it used to disappear. My point is that I could have just avoided fornication just by masturbation, the kind of impact and the after-effects on my life is far serious and heart breaking. After masturbation I used to comeback but now its a different feeling. I am not here to encourage anyone, may be I am wrong and I am aware sin has no yards in the sight of God, but as a human its pain brother. Since guys are young here, just 2 things I wanna tell my friends, never stop praying and never stop going to church.

    • http://www.shyjumathew.com/blog Shyju Mathew

      Dear Steve, stay subscribed to this post we will give u more resources on how to overcome this what u r struggling but right now it’s important for u to go back to God. Start by what the prodigal son said, Father I am not worthy. U will be suprised that God wants to still hug u and restore u!!!! Jesus loves u!!

  • Steve

    Dear Bro., let me tell you my shameful act I’ve just committed. I am a follower of God for many years still I was addicted to masturbation, even after marriage for 3 years I never stopped. Two weeks back I committed a shameful act of fornication, I am totally shattered after this, filled with fear, guilt and I feel that I’ve lost the holy commission of God. I am crying day and night feeling for defiling myself. I am trying hard to come out but its not happening brother its unimaginable the pain I am passing through. I just couldn’t believe myself everything happened in an span of one hour and I am regretting day and night asking forgiveness. Occasionally I used to get this thought earlier but the moment I masturbated it used to disappear. My point is that I could have just avoided fornication just by masturbation, the kind of impact and the after-effects on my life is far serious and heart breaking. After masturbation I used to comeback but now its a different feeling. I am not here to encourage anyone, may be I am wrong and I am aware sin has no yards in the sight of God, but as a human its pain brother. Since guys are young here, just 2 things I wanna tell my friends, never stop praying and never stop going to church.

    • http://www.shyjumathew.com/ Shyju Mathew

      Dear Steve, stay subscribed to this post we will give u more resources on how to overcome this what u r struggling but right now it’s important for u to go back to God. Start by what the prodigal son said, Father I am not worthy. U will be suprised that God wants to still hug u and restore u!!!! Jesus loves u!!

  • Apologia

    I wanted to share my testimony as a female who used to masturbate. I was born again but due to the loneliness of being single, I struggled with masturbation and watching porn for a number of years. And then one day, I just felt, ‘this is not how and what God wants me to be’. I imagined how my awesome God who loved me so deeply would feel…to see me so broken. I knew His heart would be broken for me as He knows my pain and loneliness. It took a lot of determination and willpower but it was willpower from Him. I handed over my longings, desires over to Him. I said Lord, I cannot defeat this alone, you HAVE to help me, I can’t do it without you. I have failed to overcome this with my own will. I failed a few times after I decided to stop, but now it has been so many years since I remember having masturbated. And now while I desire a sexual life, I am waiting to share that with whomever I get married to. And when any lustful thoughts or sexual thoughts come into my head, i immediately pray and ask the Holy Spirit to cleanse my mind. And that has NEVER failed. I cast out unclean thoughts in Jesus’ all powerful name. And I have also realised that I must flee from situations, people, books, media, products that bring out unclean thoughts. Like when I am watching a movie, of there is a scene there that I know will cause unclean thoughts, I immediately look away and pray or fast forward or walk away. When the imagery of what we see is left in our minds, it begins to grow. Nip it in the bud and throw it out of your mind. Onmy Christ can help us do that. I have met many other women who have masturbated, women also struggle with lust and have sexual desires. I was happy to encourage others with my story. That with God, He will help us overcome. It is possible. I stopped masturbating because I wanted to be renewed and not having sexual thoughts about anyone other than these I will one day marry. I didn’t want images of porn or other unclean thoughts in my head. There is a war for our minds, the enemy will want control of it, so we have to be wary of what we put into our minds and protect it and clean it with prayer. God bless you all.

    • kimkumar

      Wow Apologia, what a powerful testimony! Am sure this will encourage many, especially girls, who are struggling in this area.

    • believer

      sister, ur answer is the correct answer for all

    • Stone

      I Luv ds sister

  • Apologia

    I wanted to share my testimony as a female who used to masturbate. I was born again but due to the loneliness of being single, I struggled with masturbation and watching porn for a number of years. And then one day, I just felt, ‘this is not how and what God wants me to be’. I imagined how my awesome God who loved me so deeply would feel…to see me so broken. I knew His heart would be broken for me as He knows my pain and loneliness. It took a lot of determination and willpower but it was willpower from Him. I handed over my longings, desires over to Him. I said Lord, I cannot defeat this alone, you HAVE to help me, I can’t do it without you. I have failed to overcome this with my own will. I failed a few times after I decided to stop, but now it has been so many years since I remember having masturbated. And now while I desire a sexual life, I am waiting to share that with whomever I get married to. And when any lustful thoughts or sexual thoughts come into my head, i immediately pray and ask the Holy Spirit to cleanse my mind. And that has NEVER failed. I cast out unclean thoughts in Jesus’ all powerful name. And I have also realised that I must flee from situations, people, books, media, products that bring out unclean thoughts. Like when I am watching a movie, of there is a scene there that I know will cause unclean thoughts, I immediately look away and pray or fast forward or walk away. When the imagery of what we see is left in our minds, it begins to grow. Nip it in the bud and throw it out of your mind. Onmy Christ can help us do that. I have met many other women who have masturbated, women also struggle with lust and have sexual desires. I was happy to encourage others with my story. That with God, He will help us overcome. It is possible. I stopped masturbating because I wanted to be renewed and not having sexual thoughts about anyone other than these I will one day marry. I didn’t want images of porn or other unclean thoughts in my head. There is a war for our minds, the enemy will want control of it, so we have to be wary of what we put into our minds and protect it and clean it with prayer. God bless you all.

    • http://www.olivedose.com/ Kim D’Souza

      Wow Apologia, what a powerful testimony! Am sure this will encourage many, especially girls, who are struggling in this area.

    • believer

      sister, ur answer is the correct answer for all

    • Stone

      I Luv ds sister

  • Child Psychologist

    Br. Shyju as you pointed out that people masturbate by lusting in their hearts,
    my question is what if people don’t think about themselves while doing this act?
    I work with high school kids on part-time basis and we had a discussion about
    this topic. There were many questions that came up. I’d like to mention few of
    them here. One question as I mentioned in the start was asked by a girl who
    said,”what if i masturbate thinking of someone imaginary or some imaginary
    story and not letting myself or anyone known to me to get involoved in my mind?
    In that way I am not lusting about someone I saw the previous day nor am I
    letting myself involved in my own thoughts. At times I can even masturbate
    without thinking of anything.” while another kid asked, “From the Biblical point
    of view, Bible has never spoken about masturbation, while it explains about
    adultery and all other crimes as sin. Doesn’t that mean God is probably not too
    concerned about us masturbating?” One boy asked, “Living in this world, we are
    too much under stress, peer-pressure, studies and sexual arousals. Obviously we
    would have to control them and masturbation seems to be an easy way to relieve
    them all, so could masturbating be wrong once in a bloom ?” I myself don’t have
    answers to these questions. If anyone here could possibly give their views and
    opinions about this, it would be helpful :)

    • http://www.pastorpriji.com Priji

      1. Even if people don’t think as themself doing the act, don’t they get involved in lustful thinking, even if it is imaginary fantasies?
      2. The bible does not mention smoking, drugging and many other things that we prohibit. Does that justify those actions as morally correct?
      3. Masturbating to get out of pressures and the sexual tension is equivalent to getting drunk to get rid of mental tension. Cause neither of them is a permanant solution. The only ideal way out is to flee from sexual content and fix your mind on good things! (Phil 4:8)

      I hope these answers help you as you speak to children and youngsters. God bless your ministry and work!

      • Child Psychologist

        Yes Br. Priji, you are absolutely right! But I would like to ask something which my students are likely to ask when I tell them what you said. (In fact I have the doubt too)
        Like as you said Bible does not mention smoking, drugging and all but if you see, smoking and doing drugs is something which developed quite many years after the Bible was written. Of course its a sin to smoke and to abuse drugs but isn’t masturbation something which might have started right from the time God created Man? Since almost all crimes which happened then have been recorded in the Bible, don’t you think masturbation too should have been included if its a sin? If not directly, at least indirectly? If adultery, getting drunk, tattooing, murder etc was recorded as wrong from that time itself, why not masturbation not prohibited if its wrong? What if someone masturbates without lusting, like what if he is blank in his mind?
        By the way, your answers were really nice. Very helpful! Thanks!

  • Child Psychologist

    Br. Shyju as you pointed out that people masturbate by lusting in their hearts,
    my question is what if people don’t think about themselves while doing this act?
    I work with high school kids on part-time basis and we had a discussion about
    this topic. There were many questions that came up. I’d like to mention few of
    them here. One question as I mentioned in the start was asked by a girl who
    said,”what if i masturbate thinking of someone imaginary or some imaginary
    story and not letting myself or anyone known to me to get involoved in my mind?
    In that way I am not lusting about someone I saw the previous day nor am I
    letting myself involved in my own thoughts. At times I can even masturbate
    without thinking of anything.” while another kid asked, “From the Biblical point
    of view, Bible has never spoken about masturbation, while it explains about
    adultery and all other crimes as sin. Doesn’t that mean God is probably not too
    concerned about us masturbating?” One boy asked, “Living in this world, we are
    too much under stress, peer-pressure, studies and sexual arousals. Obviously we
    would have to control them and masturbation seems to be an easy way to relieve
    them all, so could masturbating be wrong once in a bloom ?” I myself don’t have
    answers to these questions. If anyone here could possibly give their views and
    opinions about this, it would be helpful :)

    • http://www.pastorpriji.com/ Priji

      1. Even if people don’t think as themself doing the act, don’t they get involved in lustful thinking, even if it is imaginary fantasies?
      2. The bible does not mention smoking, drugging and many other things that we prohibit. Does that justify those actions as morally correct?
      3. Masturbating to get out of pressures and the sexual tension is equivalent to getting drunk to get rid of mental tension. Cause neither of them is a permanant solution. The only ideal way out is to flee from sexual content and fix your mind on good things! (Phil 4:8)

      I hope these answers help you as you speak to children and youngsters. God bless your ministry and work!

      • Child Psychologist

        Yes Br. Priji, you are absolutely right! But I would like to ask something which my students are likely to ask when I tell them what you said. (In fact I have the doubt too)
        Like as you said Bible does not mention smoking, drugging and all but if you see, smoking and doing drugs is something which developed quite many years after the Bible was written. Of course its a sin to smoke and to abuse drugs but isn’t masturbation something which might have started right from the time God created Man? Since almost all crimes which happened then have been recorded in the Bible, don’t you think masturbation too should have been included if its a sin? If not directly, at least indirectly? If adultery, getting drunk, tattooing, murder etc was recorded as wrong from that time itself, why not masturbation not prohibited if its wrong? What if someone masturbates without lusting, like what if he is blank in his mind?
        By the way, your answers were really nice. Very helpful! Thanks!

  • guest

    when i was born again, i stopped masturbating. i did not even permit the evil thoughts to come inside. until my marriage , for 2 years, i was not even thinking about sex. after my marriage, i got a son exactly within 10 months. that means it had not done any damage to my sexual life. Jesus has not told about masturbation. but he warns against the sexual inspirations. but paul says that those who masturbate will not enter the kingdom of god. i faced another problem. i always suffered night fall. everytime i need to keep cothes stand by to change at night. i felt bad when this happen during train journey and in somebody’s home. beause i do not want to spoil my bed, now i do masturbation. do u have any suggestion about this.

  • guest

    when i was born again, i stopped masturbating. i did not even permit the evil thoughts to come inside. until my marriage , for 2 years, i was not even thinking about sex. after my marriage, i got a son exactly within 10 months. that means it had not done any damage to my sexual life. Jesus has not told about masturbation. but he warns against the sexual inspirations. but paul says that those who masturbate will not enter the kingdom of god. i faced another problem. i always suffered night fall. everytime i need to keep cothes stand by to change at night. i felt bad when this happen during train journey and in somebody’s home. beause i do not want to spoil my bed, now i do masturbation. do u have any suggestion about this.

  • mojo

    brother there is passage which relates to the masterbation gen 38:9 about onan who indirectly spills his sperms on the ground so god killed him…..

    • Child Psychologist

      Yes brother I know that context in the Bible. But it actually does not refer to masturbation. Some, mistakenly, cite Onan in Gen 38:9 as suggesting that masturbation
      is a sin. In fact, “onanism” has become a synonym for masturbation.
      But this is obviously an error, and a rather daft one at that. We know
      what Onan did, for it is spelled out for us in lurid detail; and we know
      why it was a sin: he was maliciously using and cheating Tamar in way
      that was wrong. In any case, what Onan was doing was certainly not masturbating.

  • mojo

    brother there is passage which relates to the masterbation gen 38:9 about onan who indirectly spills his sperms on the ground so god killed him…..

    • Child Psychologist

      Yes brother I know that context in the Bible. But it actually does not refer to masturbation. Some, mistakenly, cite Onan in Gen 38:9 as suggesting that masturbation
      is a sin. In fact, “onanism” has become a synonym for masturbation.
      But this is obviously an error, and a rather daft one at that. We know
      what Onan did, for it is spelled out for us in lurid detail; and we know
      why it was a sin: he was maliciously using and cheating Tamar in way
      that was wrong. In any case, what Onan was doing was certainly not masturbating.

  • mojo

    the question of masterbation is similar to the ///then question we are asking whether to take drugs or not…bible too doesnt mention about drugs but we know that its harmful…..in the same way the masterbation==taking drugs…whaenever you take drugs same chemical releases from our mind…so…..masterbation ===drugs.you can search on web with this context

  • mojo

    the question of masterbation is similar to the ///then question we are asking whether to take drugs or not…bible too doesnt mention about drugs but we know that its harmful…..in the same way the masterbation==taking drugs…whaenever you take drugs same chemical releases from our mind…so…..masterbation ===drugs.you can search on web with this context

  • Lara

    Hi brother, I was going through your post because this was one of my biggest doubts. Well, as in most of the comments it is asked of the manner how it is done. My husband does it but I dont think he thinks of me or anything else when he does it. He does it when he gets really into unreleased tension. Especially when he is back from gym, after all the workout, the blood flow rises and he does it without even being lusty. And of course we are believers and we need to sort it out because we dont want anything to be raised by the devil as a hindrance to our ministry in Him.

  • Lara

    Hi brother, I was going through your post because this was one of my biggest doubts. Well, as in most of the comments it is asked of the manner how it is done. My husband does it but I dont think he thinks of me or anything else when he does it. He does it when he gets really into unreleased tension. Especially when he is back from gym, after all the workout, the blood flow rises and he does it without even being lusty. And of course we are believers and we need to sort it out because we dont want anything to be raised by the devil as a hindrance to our ministry in Him.

  • Atheists are correct

    You are all ridiculously debating words and phrases from man made fallacy. God does not exist be good to others and jerk off as much as you please!!

  • Marie824628

    I’ve just come upon this site even though it was posted some time ago.. First I’d like to point out that the subject of masturbation is nowhere in the bible stating if it’s a sin or not… I believe it’s because it’s one of those subjects that lay in the gray area of what you would describe in a sinner’s heart. Only God knows what is in your true heart. For example, at the tender age of 3, my son discovered something on his body… and when he rubbed it, it felt good to him. Do I think this is a sin? No. But then again, a teen is watching porn on T.V and masturbating… Do I feel that is sinful.. most definitely! I don’t want to presume to know the mind of God, but I do know what is written, and what is not. .

    And again.. I happen to know of a situation where a wife has committed adultery and wanted a divorce, but to feel justified of it, secretly ashamed, she countered the fact that her soon to be ex husband masturbated during their marriage. Well, in most cases, that may be a substantial complaint, but the truth of it was the fact that she denied her husband sex making numerous excuses (tired, headache, etc) , so in turn and out of frustration he masturbated to relieve himself. He wasn’t lusting after another woman, he just wanted to have sex with his wife and was denied… Is this a sin? And if it is, whose?

    God blesses the marriage bed. It is not shameful or embarrassing. .But if one makes up excuses to avoid it, therefore leading the denied partner to masturbation to replace it, then who really is the sinner?

    As long as the person doesn’t have lustful thoughts, then I believe it is not a sin.

    • http://www.shyjumathew.com/ Shyju Mathew

      Dear friend,
      As you correctly point out its all about the heart. Now Gid being the judge I cannot tell u how He will judge. But surely this much I know: – God will judge any unholy thought that is not brought under the blood of Jesus for forgiveness. Another being, by the same covenant of the blood of Jesus we are equipped by every good thing to be pleasing in God’s sight. Heb 12:20,21 We just then cannot have any excuses. We have the access to His grace to live as overcomers. Let us then seek God for that.

  • Marie824628

    I’ve just come upon this site even though it was posted some time ago.. First I’d like to point out that the subject of masturbation is nowhere in the bible stating if it’s a sin or not… I believe it’s because it’s one of those subjects that lay in the gray area of what you would describe in a sinner’s heart. Only God knows what is in your true heart. For example, at the tender age of 3, my son discovered something on his body… and when he rubbed it, it felt good to him. Do I think this is a sin? No. But then again, a teen is watching porn on T.V and masturbating… Do I feel that is sinful.. most definitely! I don’t want to presume to know the mind of God, but I do know what is written, and what is not. .

    And again.. I happen to know of a situation where a wife has committed adultery and wanted a divorce, but to feel justified of it, secretly ashamed, she countered the fact that her soon to be ex husband masturbated during their marriage. Well, in most cases, that may be a substantial complaint, but the truth of it was the fact that she denied her husband sex making numerous excuses (tired, headache, etc) , so in turn and out of frustration he masturbated to relieve himself. He wasn’t lusting after another woman, he just wanted to have sex with his wife and was denied… Is this a sin? And if it is, whose?

    God blesses the marriage bed. It is not shameful or embarrassing. .But if one makes up excuses to avoid it, therefore leading the denied partner to masturbation to replace it, then who really is the sinner?

    As long as the person doesn’t have lustful thoughts, then I believe it is not a sin.

    • http://www.shyjumathew.com/ Shyju Mathew

      Dear friend,
      As you correctly point out its all about the heart. Now Gid being the judge I cannot tell u how He will judge. But surely this much I know: – God will judge any unholy thought that is not brought under the blood of Jesus for forgiveness. Another being, by the same covenant of the blood of Jesus we are equipped by every good thing to be pleasing in God’s sight. Heb 12:20,21 We just then cannot have any excuses. We have the access to His grace to live as overcomers. Let us then seek God for that.

  • friend

    You can masturbate while thinking of a truck, you can masturbate without lustful thoughts, though the temptation is great.

  • Joplin

    Erm, heres my situation. I dont masturbate, but I fantasize about making out with imaginary characters- no intercourse at all. Anyway, is this considered lust, even if its not intercourse n real people? Im single and I dont have lustful thoughts or such wen I notice someones goodlooking. Its all on the face in these daydreams. Im not interested in porn, Im asexual and this is the only “desire” Ive got when it comes to this stuff

  • Joplin

    Erm, heres my situation. I dont masturbate, but I fantasize about making out with imaginary characters- no intercourse at all. Anyway, is this considered lust, even if its not intercourse n real people? Im single and I dont have lustful thoughts or such wen I notice someones goodlooking. Its all on the face in these daydreams. Im not interested in porn, Im asexual and this is the only “desire” Ive got when it comes to this stuff

  • friend

    i am a 15 year old boy…. i have been masturbating since 1 year…… and i always feel guilty after doing this…….. i ask for forgiveness from GOD… but i repeat it again… what should i do ???
    please help….

    • http://www.shyjumathew.com/ Shyju Mathew

      Dear friend, it’s about developing a strong godly and god living character so u dont be a slave to sin. So simply get back up without rolling in sin. Happy for u. Blessings

      • ivan

        dear brother..it is very difficult for me…. is der a by which i can avoid this???

  • friend

    i am a 15 year old boy…. i have been masturbating since 1 year…… and i always feel guilty after doing this…….. i ask for forgiveness from GOD… but i repeat it again… what should i do ???
    please help….

    • http://www.shyjumathew.com/ Shyju Mathew

      Dear friend, it’s about developing a strong godly and god living character so u dont be a slave to sin. So simply get back up without rolling in sin. Happy for u. Blessings

      • ivan

        dear brother..it is very difficult for me…. is der a by which i can avoid this???

  • Jesus Lives

    Recently i came across a general topic for married couples in a christian website and I was shocked wen they mentioned that married couples can do any type of union they want other than the natural union…
    1) isnt it clearly mentioned in the Bible God created Adam and eve and asked them to multiply through the natural union.. sodomites were the ones who started perverted types of union(sex) but these people say that husband and wife could deviate from normal union and practice other types of sinful sex( oral/anal) which the sodomites practiced and now the normal generation couples are takin up this perverted idea and they r saying we can practice coz it isnt mentioned in the word
    2) these people are misinterpreting Song of Solomon unfortunately… and many christians think its okay to do all that anythin between husband and wife…
    but the bible clearly speaks only about the natural union of husband and wife ! and any deviation from the natural union is from the devil even if its between husband and wife right ? Bible says keep ur marriage bed pure and undefiled ! bible says in the last days men will leave there natural ways and follow perverted ways,
    ——-> how do i quote from the scriptures and gently tell these christians that God’s gift is natural union , other types of sex btw husband and wife is blasphemous and not from God ? many christians are saying that husband and wife cud practice what sodomites practice coz no scriptural injunction is given against other types of union ,,, infact these christians say that – to practice other types of sex other than the natural sex between husband and wife is okay but it shouldnt be done between the homosexuals, they say bible mentions oly abt homosexuals and not for married couple…… , why arent they able to understand that God has already gifted them with natural union and why do they want to practice unnatural(demonic) types of sex btw husband n wife… Please reply Shyju brother

  • Jesus Lives

    Recently i came across a general topic for married couples in a christian website and I was shocked wen they mentioned that married couples can do any type of union they want other than the natural union…
    1) isnt it clearly mentioned in the Bible God created Adam and eve and asked them to multiply through the natural union.. sodomites were the ones who started perverted types of union(sex) but these people say that husband and wife could deviate from normal union and practice other types of sinful sex( oral/anal) which the sodomites practiced and now the normal generation couples are takin up this perverted idea and they r saying we can practice coz it isnt mentioned in the word
    2) these people are misinterpreting Song of Solomon unfortunately… and many christians think its okay to do all that anythin between husband and wife…
    but the bible clearly speaks only about the natural union of husband and wife ! and any deviation from the natural union is from the devil even if its between husband and wife right ? Bible says keep ur marriage bed pure and undefiled ! bible says in the last days men will leave there natural ways and follow perverted ways,
    ——-> how do i quote from the scriptures and gently tell these christians that God’s gift is natural union , other types of sex btw husband and wife is blasphemous and not from God ? many christians are saying that husband and wife cud practice what sodomites practice coz no scriptural injunction is given against other types of union ,,, infact these christians say that – to practice other types of sex other than the natural sex between husband and wife is okay but it shouldnt be done between the homosexuals, they say bible mentions oly abt homosexuals and not for married couple…… , why arent they able to understand that God has already gifted them with natural union and why do they want to practice unnatural(demonic) types of sex btw husband n wife… Please reply Shyju brother

  • nogod

    Its 2013 and people still believe in gods. Religion is a form of control I don’t get how this day in age with all the knowledge we have of our earth,solar system,galaxy,and universe can people still believe in this stuff. Its pathetic and sad but oh well.

    • Chris

      It all makes sense to me now thank you for sharing this it really helps and I hope god can deliver me from these bad habits I would opricate it if you kept me in prayer thanks god bless

      • http://www.pastorpriji.com/ Priji

        Prayers assured for you Chris, God doesn’t only help us by forgiving our sins but also breaks the power of sins over our life. Blessings!

  • nogod

    Its 2013 and people still believe in gods. Religion is a form of control I don’t get how this day in age with all the knowledge we have of our earth,solar system,galaxy,and universe can people still believe in this stuff. Its pathetic and sad but oh well.

  • jac

    Simple question, if someone fall to sleep & have a dream with sexual desire, its sin to have that dream? Those who have feeling tension with mastubate and trying not do it, yes he/she able to do to it. But feeling tension sometime drive them to this kind of dream. Logically, no one this world can control their dream, when their sleep and how we can control this tension feeling with hormone rocketing and dream then? Is there any medicine to reduce hormone of sexual desire? Or it might help in such a way?
    But is that sin againt God creation of His desire for Abrahim to become father of many nations?
    Im sorry, too many questions and answers out there make me more confuse to understand the nature of this world that God created for us. Its seem that very

  • jac

    Simple question, if someone fall to sleep & have a dream with sexual desire, its sin to have that dream? Those who have feeling tension with mastubate and trying not do it, yes he/she able to do to it. But feeling tension sometime drive them to this kind of dream. Logically, no one this world can control their dream, when their sleep and how we can control this tension feeling with hormone rocketing and dream then? Is there any medicine to reduce hormone of sexual desire? Or it might help in such a way?
    But is that sin againt God creation of His desire for Abrahim to become father of many nations?
    Im sorry, too many questions and answers out there make me more confuse to understand the nature of this world that God created for us. Its seem that very

  • Seun

    nice post, May the Almighty Lord continually strengthen you and keep you on the path of righteousness. I struggled with this for years and it just wont stop. then i noticed that anytime i moved around all I looked at was women breast and busts, and I tot that very weird as I completely will ignore the face, the arm, the feet, a new hairdo etc. then i also did notice whenever I prayed to God to take this away from me and repent of my sin and I cry out to the Lord genuinely, the next day after my prayers I only notice faces and don’t even remember to look at any woman seductively and my masturbation stops and immediately starts when a friend says something seductive or i see half naked people on tv and a suggestive remark is been made, and all of a sudden it will start all over again. so i decided to pray more cut friends off, guide what i listen to or see, and constantly ask for the grace of the Lord in sanctifying my mind and body.

  • Seun

    nice post, May the Almighty Lord continually strengthen you and keep you on the path of righteousness. I struggled with this for years and it just wont stop. then i noticed that anytime i moved around all I looked at was women breast and busts, and I tot that very weird as I completely will ignore the face, the arm, the feet, a new hairdo etc. then i also did notice whenever I prayed to God to take this away from me and repent of my sin and I cry out to the Lord genuinely, the next day after my prayers I only notice faces and don’t even remember to look at any woman seductively and my masturbation stops and immediately starts when a friend says something seductive or i see half naked people on tv and a suggestive remark is been made, and all of a sudden it will start all over again. so i decided to pray more cut friends off, guide what i listen to or see, and constantly ask for the grace of the Lord in sanctifying my mind and body.

  • Chris

    It all makes sense to me now thank you for sharing this it really helps and I hope god can deliver me from these bad habits I would opricate it if you kept me in prayer thanks god bless

    • http://www.pastorpriji.com/ Priji

      Prayers assured for you Chris, God doesn’t only help us by forgiving our sins but also breaks the power of sins over our life. Blessings!

  • abhinav

    Sir if we are looking animated porn we are not atually looking at another lady
    and if we are controlling our mastrubation like one time in 2 days
    will it not be enough as it has many benefits you know

    Moreover every thing drugs etc.. has medical disadvantages but mastrubation does not have any …..

    Please reply me sir

    • http://www.pastorpriji.com/ Priji

      Hi Abhinav,
      The problem is not external, but internal. No amount of watching porn or masturbating will ever help the issue of lust we struggle with everyday. Only the blood of Jesus has the power to break its Lordship over our lives! Trust in that and he will help you overcome it. And to answer your question, pornography in all forms real or animated is still sinfull! God bless

      • abhinav

        Thank You fo replying me back….

        Sir, what if we are mastrubating without any pornography is it sinful,,

        May God bless us all….

        • http://www.pastorpriji.com/ Priji

          The problem is that the cause and the effect for masturbation is lust. It either starts cause of lust or it leads to lust, which is not only sinful, but also a great hinderance in one’s normal social development.

          • abhinav

            Good Words

            I am just asking again as mastrubation have several benefits like it can cure PE(Premature Ejaculation), prevent prostrate cancer and lots more if it is done after a substantial amount of time and some say it to be necessary also……

            So if we are managing ourselves that much , not watching/thinking porn even a bit and mastrubating just for health benefits we say without disturbing social life…. then i have heard it may not be sinful also…..

          • http://www.pastorpriji.com/ Priji

            Abhinav, these are all myths, there is no scientific backing to any of these so called benefits to masturbation. 1 Sam 2:30, God: “for those who honor Me I will honor, and those who despise Me shall be lightly esteemed.” When you take a commitment to stand up for God, he will definitely honor you for the same. Blessings!

  • abhinav

    Sir if we are looking animated porn we are not atually looking at another lady
    and if we are controlling our mastrubation like one time in 2 days
    will it not be enough as it has many benefits you know

    Moreover every thing drugs etc.. has medical disadvantages but mastrubation does not have any …..

    Please reply me sir

    • http://www.pastorpriji.com/ Priji

      Hi Abhinav,
      The problem is not external, but internal. No amount of watching porn or masturbating will ever help the issue of lust we struggle with everyday. Only the blood of Jesus has the power to break its Lordship over our lives! Trust in that and he will help you overcome it. And to answer your question, pornography in all forms real or animated is still sinfull! God bless

      • abhinav

        Thank You fo replying me back….

        Sir, what if we are mastrubating without any pornography is it sinful,,

        May God bless us all….

        • http://www.pastorpriji.com/ Priji

          The problem is that the cause and the effect for masturbation is lust. It either starts cause of lust or it leads to lust, which is not only sinful, but also a great hinderance in one’s normal social development.

          • abhinav

            Good Words

            I am just asking again as mastrubation have several benefits like it can cure PE(Premature Ejaculation), prevent prostrate cancer and lots more if it is done after a substantial amount of time and some say it to be necessary also……

            So if we are managing ourselves that much , not watching/thinking porn even a bit and mastrubating just for health benefits we say without disturbing social life…. then i have heard it may not be sinful also…..

          • http://www.pastorpriji.com/ Priji

            Abhinav, these are all myths, there is no scientific backing to any of these so called benefits to masturbation. 1 Sam 2:30, God: “for those who honor Me I will honor, and those who despise Me shall be lightly esteemed.” When you take a commitment to stand up for God, he will definitely honor you for the same. Blessings!

  • Mjosey

    What if what friend says can be explored and considered?…I am a single person who in no way allows this sensitive issue to be a driving force in my life…there are times when i can control these urges but there are also those times when my body can sense it needs releasing especially in times of loneliness and isolation…I have been 4yrs out of the dating scene and don’t see nor do i put this on the top of the list of priorities..it is in God’s perfect timing if he even wants it at all for me…going back these 4yrs to a time when my longtime companion and fiance decided an ill women would not be his thing and in doing so bowed out and moved on…I was in love with this Man and considered him to be my Husband…i wanted to be in a long-term committed relationship with this Man but for years he abated the issue continuing to promise me and God but never came thru and using scripture to excuse his irresponsibility and accountability regarding sex outside of marriage. I was not saved then and was deeply naive…Amazing how a life-threatening illness can really open your eyes to truth and true colors of someone. I should have seen him for what he truly was but love has a way of blinding us…getting to the initial point…when I am releasing myself i think of him and sometimes i don’t…i don’t however turn on a movie or pic up a magazine…I still view this person as my husband and yes I still love him but NO he is not in my life or causing me distress any longer..it is his loss and God is moving me away from these feelings little by little…but he also knows my heart condition and state…so are you suggesting I am an adulteress and selfish and insensitive to God? Should this topic be general to everyone or case by case….as with anything else each person and case is different…and how can you be so certain God does not understand our emotions and feelings…if you haven’t walked in those shoes don’t be so quick to use scripture to judge them…Scripture is deeply distorted…It must be read in it’s entirety and with much discernment as it can sometimes carry a double endentre

    • http://www.pastorpriji.com/ Priji

      Hi Sister,
      Our feelings, emotions, and desires do not change the truth about God his morality. He surely understands your pain, but it aches his heart too much to allow you to continue in sin, because he loves you! And sin can gradually kill your spiritual life. I pray that God would strengthen you and help you overcome your struggles and bless you with the right life partner in his divine purpose and plan. Bless you!

  • Mjosey

    What if what friend says can be explored and considered?…I am a single person who in no way allows this sensitive issue to be a driving force in my life…there are times when i can control these urges but there are also those times when my body can sense it needs releasing especially in times of loneliness and isolation…I have been 4yrs out of the dating scene and don’t see nor do i put this on the top of the list of priorities..it is in God’s perfect timing if he even wants it at all for me…going back these 4yrs to a time when my longtime companion and fiance decided an ill women would not be his thing and in doing so bowed out and moved on…I was in love with this Man and considered him to be my Husband…i wanted to be in a long-term committed relationship with this Man but for years he abated the issue continuing to promise me and God but never came thru and using scripture to excuse his irresponsibility and accountability regarding sex outside of marriage. I was not saved then and was deeply naive…Amazing how a life-threatening illness can really open your eyes to truth and true colors of someone. I should have seen him for what he truly was but love has a way of blinding us…getting to the initial point…when I am releasing myself i think of him and sometimes i don’t…i don’t however turn on a movie or pic up a magazine…I still view this person as my husband and yes I still love him but NO he is not in my life or causing me distress any longer..it is his loss and God is moving me away from these feelings little by little…but he also knows my heart condition and state…so are you suggesting I am an adulteress and selfish and insensitive to God? Should this topic be general to everyone or case by case….as with anything else each person and case is different…and how can you be so certain God does not understand our emotions and feelings…if you haven’t walked in those shoes don’t be so quick to use scripture to judge them…Scripture is deeply distorted…It must be read in it’s entirety and with much discernment as it can sometimes carry a double endentre

    • http://www.pastorpriji.com/ Priji

      Hi Sister,
      Our feelings, emotions, and desires do not change the truth about God his morality. He surely understands your pain, but it aches his heart too much to allow you to continue in sin, because he loves you! And sin can gradually kill your spiritual life. I pray that God would strengthen you and help you overcome your struggles and bless you with the right life partner in his divine purpose and plan. Bless you!

  • Justin Soberano

    Actually,for me masterbation is not a sin…i think…but its a way to like escape deeper sin…if im sexually aroused by something naturally (like an arousing girl walking on the street) i tried to masterbate and didnt masterbate for a month theeen human nature arose from me and did “it” again and prevented myself from thinking about it…but when i got to bed…i always think and ask God about it…it was my main prayer if its a sin or not because sometimes it becomes natural to have erection and itching desire to masterbate to calm your sexual desire…because for me when a guy gets sexually stressed (always having erection and fighting human sense) it may result to sin like rape and stuff so masterbation is like a “cool-down” for our sexual desires and eventually the sexual desire will cool down to the point of me forhgeting about it for a period of time and in that period of time i pray and search for answers…so yeah its like umm a natural sin? or not a sin? or a sinful act? soooo my philosophy states this comment i wrote but my faith stays within yes the no then yes then no again i hope God…noo I BELIEVE GOD WILL GIVE ME THE ANSWER!

  • Justin Soberano

    Actually,for me masterbation is not a sin…i think…but its a way to like escape deeper sin…if im sexually aroused by something naturally (like an arousing girl walking on the street) i tried to masterbate and didnt masterbate for a month theeen human nature arose from me and did “it” again and prevented myself from thinking about it…but when i got to bed…i always think and ask God about it…it was my main prayer if its a sin or not because sometimes it becomes natural to have erection and itching desire to masterbate to calm your sexual desire…because for me when a guy gets sexually stressed (always having erection and fighting human sense) it may result to sin like rape and stuff so masterbation is like a “cool-down” for our sexual desires and eventually the sexual desire will cool down to the point of me forhgeting about it for a period of time and in that period of time i pray and search for answers…so yeah its like umm a natural sin? or not a sin? or a sinful act? soooo my philosophy states this comment i wrote but my faith stays within yes the no then yes then no again i hope God…noo I BELIEVE GOD WILL GIVE ME THE ANSWER!

  • maria jooa

    well i would like to ask you something, everyone says don’t sin, but no body says about what you should do if you are guilty. I know people who hav sex. But once they come to know that it is a sin to have sex before marriage, they don’t know what to do. Can you help them by posting an answer to this. I work for church youth community and dont know how to answer it.

  • maria jooa

    well i would like to ask you something, everyone says don’t sin, but no body says about what you should do if you are guilty. I know people who hav sex. But once they come to know that it is a sin to have sex before marriage, they don’t know what to do. Can you help them by posting an answer to this. I work for church youth community and dont know how to answer it.

  • Wendy

    What about female masturbation with non living objects , like sex toys? Is that really bad?

    • Youth pastor

      How can i start this topic to talk with my church youth folks?

      • http://www.pastorpriji.com/ Priji

        Probably in a youth alone bible study?

  • Wendy

    What about female masturbation with non living objects , like sex toys? Is that really bad?

  • The Anonymous

    The only point in which I believe masturbation is a bad thing is if your married and you do it while lusting after another woman/man. After all, how would we fall in love and find a partner if we don’t lust after her/he? How would we notice her/he? Plus women were created with a natural beauty, so why would they be created that way if we aren’t even supposed to notice that beauty. Now, porn is a different issue. It is wrong. All I’m going to say. And seriously, none of these scriptures directly point towards the issue at hand. Masturbation is not sexual immortality. It does not in fact hurt your body in any way, in fact it can help you. Studies show masturbation is natural and has it’s benefits, such as reducing the risk for prostate cancer in men immensely. Speaking of adultery, how can you commit it if you aren’t committed to anyone? When it is mentioned in the article a verse that states, “Do not let anything enslave or master you.” what is the problem if you do it without letting it take over your life? Even if you do it weekly, daily, whenever, what’s the problem if it doesn’t reset your proprieties? When it says do not allow anything to defile your body, that really doesn’t apply to this. The basic definition of defile is to spoil or destroy something. As I said earlier masturbation does not defile or hurt the body, and can even help it, so this is somewhat irrelevant. That pretty much covers my thoughts. I’m sorry if I came off rude or threatening, as I did not intend to radiate my feelings that way, only to help those who feel guilty for something that they should not feel guilty about. So as you probably could tell I don’t believe it’s a sin and those who guilt themselves for it shouldn’t. I hope this sparks some thought for you and I hope you have a good day. :)

    • http://www.pastorpriji.com/ Priji

      Hi, the primary reason for masturbation to be a bad thing is the fact that it promotes lust outside of the biblical principles of sex between a man and women who are married, no matter how useful or helpful it seems to be, at the end of the day, it is sinful, God did not create beauty for men to lust after. Hope that helps!

      • Tobsig

        Hi

        I have been born again when I was 12 and yet struggled with masturbation for 23 years. I always knew it was wrong as i cannot imagine God making men in such a way that you must always desire woman lustfully. I got married and the problem did not go away. Through the 23 years I went for counselling, deliverance, prayer, tried will power, confessed to my wife and my brother, yet I am completely powerless. I one day sat next to my bed and cried. I saw a vision of myself falling from a mountain completely powerless. That was October 2011. Just there and then I told God I am finish trying. One evening in February 2012 I was laying on my couch and suddenly felt goose bumps coming over me. Since then I have never masturbated again!. It is now 23 months later and I did not had a single temptation nor desire for masturbation. I have about an 90% ability to control my mind and dealing with sexual temptation has become much easier. For me masturbation is now like a sin I never had. For example, alcoholism. I don’t drink and am not tempted. masturbation is like this now. Me now sitting on the other side of the table I am completely speechless. I do not know how to help anyone. In a twinkling of an eye I was completely set free. One thing I now do know, is that we should not believe the media and christian psychologists who say ‘ we are men, it is suppose to be that way.’ hehehe :)

  • The Anonymous

    The only point in which I believe masturbation is a bad thing is if your married and you do it while lusting after another woman/man. After all, how would we fall in love and find a partner if we don’t lust after her/he? How would we notice her/he? Plus women were created with a natural beauty, so why would they be created that way if we aren’t even supposed to notice that beauty. Now, porn is a different issue. It is wrong. All I’m going to say. And seriously, none of these scriptures directly point towards the issue at hand. Masturbation is not sexual immortality. It does not in fact hurt your body in any way, in fact it can help you. Studies show masturbation is natural and has it’s benefits, such as reducing the risk for prostate cancer in men immensely. Speaking of adultery, how can you commit it if you aren’t committed to anyone? When it is mentioned in the article a verse that states, “Do not let anything enslave or master you.” what is the problem if you do it without letting it take over your life? Even if you do it weekly, daily, whenever, what’s the problem if it doesn’t reset your proprieties? When it says do not allow anything to defile your body, that really doesn’t apply to this. The basic definition of defile is to spoil or destroy something. As I said earlier masturbation does not defile or hurt the body, and can even help it, so this is somewhat irrelevant. That pretty much covers my thoughts. I’m sorry if I came off rude or threatening, as I did not intend to radiate my feelings that way, only to help those who feel guilty for something that they should not feel guilty about. So as you probably could tell I don’t believe it’s a sin and those who guilt themselves for it shouldn’t. I hope this sparks some thought for you and I hope you have a good day. :)

    • http://www.pastorpriji.com/ Priji

      Hi, the primary reason for masturbation to be a bad thing is the fact that it promotes lust outside of the biblical principles of sex between a man and women who are married, no matter how useful or helpful it seems to be, at the end of the day, it is sinful, God did not create beauty for men to lust after. Hope that helps!

  • Tobsig

    Hi

    I have been born again when I was 12 and yet struggled with masturbation for 23 years. I always knew it was wrong as i cannot imagine God making men in such a way that you must always desire woman lustfully. I got married and the problem did not go away. Through the 23 years I went for counselling, deliverance, prayer, tried will power, confessed to my wife and my brother, yet I am completely powerless. I one day sat next to my bed and cried. I saw a vision of myself falling from a mountain completely powerless. That was October 2011. Just there and then I told God I am finish trying. One evening in February 2012 I was laying on my couch and suddenly felt goose bumps coming over me. Since then I have never masturbated again!. It is now 23 months later and I did not had a single temptation nor desire for masturbation. I have about an 90% ability to control my mind and dealing with sexual temptation has become much easier. For me masturbation is now like a sin I never had. For example, alcoholism. I don’t drink and am not tempted. masturbation is like this now. Me now sitting on the other side of the table I am completely speechless. I do not know how to help anyone. In a twinkling of an eye I was completely set free. One thing I now do know, is that we should not believe the media and christian psychologists who say ‘ we are men, it is suppose to be that way.’ hehehe :)

  • Youth pastor

    How can i start this topic to talk with my church youth folks?

    • http://www.pastorpriji.com/ Priji

      Probably in a youth alone bible study?

  • Sem

    Matthew 5: 28, “But I say to you that everyone who looks at a woman with lustful intent has already committed adultery with her in his heart.” These are the words of Jesus. Lustful thoughts are equal to committing adultery.

    But it doesn’t actually say that does it.

    He said; anyone who LOOKS at a woman. i.e. if you are looking at a real woman and you want to have sex with her.

    Can we stick to what the bible actually says, instead of reading our own agendas into it.

  • Sem

    Matthew 5: 28, “But I say to you that everyone who looks at a woman with lustful intent has already committed adultery with her in his heart.” These are the words of Jesus. Lustful thoughts are equal to committing adultery.

    But it doesn’t actually say that does it.

    He said; anyone who LOOKS at a woman. i.e. if you are looking at a real woman and you want to have sex with her.

    Can we stick to what the bible actually says, instead of reading our own agendas into it.

  • steve

    I think for the most part wrong. What happens with do something sexual like that it may lead to sin. I agrees with Jesup when he said when look at a woman with last it is better to puck eye out and cast it out for it is better to enter the kingdom of heaven with one eye than with sin Matthew 5 27-32 I say let’s go further than that say we should not even think of a woman in a lustfull way. Remember there are always consequences For actions diseases sex ofences a unwanted pregnant. I urge u to pray times like this come about and I know about consequences I have a sex offence I started with mater donation to fill my needs and it moved on tho others and now I got a criminal record instead of any kind of sex I should of let the Spirit and God’s word fill me up . You should do the same open up God’s word and pray

  • steve

    I think for the most part wrong. What happens with do something sexual like that it may lead to sin. I agrees with Jesup when he said when look at a woman with last it is better to puck eye out and cast it out for it is better to enter the kingdom of heaven with one eye than with sin Matthew 5 27-32 I say let’s go further than that say we should not even think of a woman in a lustfull way. Remember there are always consequences For actions diseases sex ofences a unwanted pregnant. I urge u to pray times like this come about and I know about consequences I have a sex offence I started with mater donation to fill my needs and it moved on tho others and now I got a criminal record instead of any kind of sex I should of let the Spirit and God’s word fill me up . You should do the same open up God’s word and pray

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